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The Four TendenciesGretchen Rubin
About the Book
Title
The Four Tendencies
The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too)
Release Date
September 12, 2017
Hardcover: 272 pages
About the Author
Gretchen Rubin
Books
Better Than Before
The Happiness Project
Happier at Home
Podcast
Happier with Gretchen Rubin
Course
The Four Tendencies Course
Get it on Amazon
Main Question of the Book
How do you respond to expectations?
Why is this important?
The question offers self-insight
Helps us reach your full potential
Improve productivity
Deepens our understanding of others
What kind of expectations are we talking about?
Outer expectations
From society
From work
From friends and family
Inner expectations
Which we set for ourselves
There are four tendencies to responding to expectations
People fit into one of four categories
Upholders
Questioners
Obligers
Rebels
Upholders
People who excel at meeting both inner and outer expectations
Love schedules, task lists, clear instructions
Aim to please, have no problem taking orders
Value self-reliance and performance
Good
Reliable, productive, take care of themselves
Easily form new habits
Don't require micromanagement
Make great bosses and managers
Bad
Don't question things
Resistant to change
Blindly adhere to rules
New habits can tighten and become more controlling over time
How to deal with Upholders
Give clear instructions
Avoid spontaneous changes
Be understanding and tolerant
Conclusion
Knowing more about your own tendencies can help you to...
Learn about your strengths and weaknesses
Overcome your weaknesses and get things done that you've always struggled with
Knowing the tendencies of the people around you will help you to...
Deal with them effectively
Become more understanding towards them, even if their behavior is frustrating
No one type is better than the other
No one type is happier than the other
What makes us happy is to understand ourselves and one another better
Rebels
People who push against both outer and inner expectations
Smallest group of the four tendencies
Value freedom and individuality
Love to defy assumptions
Good
Willing to work hard (as long as they feel like they are the one making the decision)
Bad
Often unable to stick to routines and do what's good for them
How to deal with Rebels
Don't give direct orders
Instead, provide information, then walk away and let them make their own choice
Try reverse psychology by setting a bet
e.g. If the rebel can't seem to quit smoking, say "I bet you can't quit" > Rebels love a challenge and they love to prove other people wrong.
If you're a rebel, try to align your goals with your identity
e.g. if you're having trouble working out regularly and eating healthy, make being a health guru and fitness freak part of your identity. If this doesn't work, you can also try play-acting and just pretend that you are the person you need to be at that time, in order to get things done
Obligers
People who meet outer expectations but struggle with inner expectations
The largest of the four groups
Value teamwork and duty
Good
Put others ahead of themselves
Dependable
Effective at meeting others' demands
Bad
Have trouble doing things that require motivation
e.g. sports, courses, meditation
Often suffer from low self-esteem
Wrongly perceived as lazy
How to deal with Obligers
If you're an Obliger, try to turn internal expectations into external expectations
Things that can help
e.g. the threat of being charged a fee
For instance, you might be compelled to hit the gym if you know that you will be charged a fee if you miss an appointment
e.g. the threat of letting someone else down
Tip: exchange your exercise gear with somebody else. This way, you will have to show up, otherwise the other person won't be able to exercise either
Questioners
People who meet inner expectationsbut struggle with outer expectations
They do what makes sense to them, even if it means ignoring rules set by others
Skeptical about rules and procedures
Value justification and performance
Good
Set and meet their own expectations
Great at finding ways to improve existing procedures
Come up with novel ideas
Well suited for research-heavy roles
Bad
Can be exhausting to deal with
Not really team players
Can suffer from analysis paralysis when trying to make a decision
Analysis paralysis = over-thinking a situation so that an action is never taken
Not good for jobs that require a lot of decision-making
How to deal with Questioners
Provide precise reasons and justifications when you ask something of them
Don't question them; instead ask them to share their knowledge
e.g. instead of asking "Why are you doing that?", ask "How did you come to this conclusion?"