car

Rocket

weather

life

gardener

sardine

Human Evolution

Full of confrontation and submission

Exerting too much force, feeling extremely tired, and the child is in pain

Parents and teachers are so tired that the children don’t know what they want.

Family harmony, children run forward on their own

I feel relaxed, my children are happy, and we enjoy each other

Parents develop their children and develop themselves, influencing each other and growing together.

angry with children

Very flexible

Spontaneously pursue a better life

The prodigal son often appears

have confidence in children

Not when the child does something wrong

But when the child does the right thing

well done

You did not do well

As long as parents show up, they will never allow their children to be happy and proud

Parents emphasize when children do something right

Children will grow up as their parents describe them

Play with mobile phone and never let go

Clean the room

Yiyi, your act of taking the initiative to stop using your phone is great!

Do you know what your behavior is called?

This behavior is called self-discipline.

Do you know what self-discipline is?

Self-discipline means being able to control yourself to do what you should do.

Dad thinks you are a self-disciplined child.

There are many dangers in primitive society, and one must be anxious to survive

There are not so many dangers in modern society, and there is no place for the anxious instinct.

Unleash your anxious instincts towards the people you’re in a relationship with

Doing things based on instinct releases anxiety

Education is about resisting primitive instincts

Tao Xingzhi saw the student coming tremblingly.

Students and children are confused

The student was at a loss and said, "Actually, I was also wrong and shouldn't hit my classmates."

Doesn't make us better behaved

It makes us more cunning

Even when the child has obviously done something wrong, you can still find the bright spots behind it and shape her behavior.

Everyone has a fixed personality. If I fail this time and the personality collapses and cannot be built up again, I will become a bad person. Even if I succeed this time, I have to be careful in case anything happens. If you can't cope with something, your personality will collapse and years of hard work will be wasted.

worry about gains and losses

The days are still long, and setbacks are nothing, because I am weak now, but as long as I work hard, I will be strong in the future, and setbacks will allow me to discover problems and continue to improve, so setbacks are a good thing and exciting.

Why integrity

why modesty

The motivation to maintain your self-esteem system is to be better than others

Don't fight with anyone in your life

You are sure of this score

Or why we achieved such good results?

I am sure the children have made a lot of concrete efforts in Chinese language.

Consolidate children’s good learning methods and learning attitudes in Chinese

Affirm the motivation behind your child’s achievement

Make children vain

Let children love and win the feeling

unconditional love

conditional love

do not love

The harm to children can go into hormone levels

Exchange "learning" with something your child likes

"Like" replaced by "dislike"

Learning is bad

Undermining the correct understanding of learning

physical fight

Verbal violence

Children are in a state of stress, fear and insecurity

For example: If we spank our children, they will forgive us after a while.

When we are angry, we can use harm to our children as a bargaining chip, but the children dare not respond by hurting us as a bargaining chip, so we always win and they always lose.

Threats work because children cannot lose us, but the consequences of threats are the loss of love.

Learning is a painful thing

Mom doesn't like me

Exchange effectively teaches children to be philistine, but once the cold habit of equivalent exchange is established, the result is a loss of love.

Threats are increasingly challenged as the child's self-awareness increases.

Swapping will become more and more satisfying as the child's appetite grows.

Paying a heavy price for the pursuit of security

Children need to spend a lot of energy to test

Because mom and dad love you, so I want to tell you why you can’t do it

Point out problems without anger

Although your parents criticized you, we will always love you.

Emotional vocabulary

values

behavioral habits

Tenderness represents love

Boundaries also represent love

will not doubt each other

Will not bully each other

Will not fight for power

Spend your life proving your parents wrong

Arranged marriages stimulate parents with a lifetime of unhappiness

behave better

There are boundaries in doing things

Be grateful in everything

Educated

forced by parents

to please

For the sake of parents

Appearing to have a tutor

willing to obey

game relationship