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Personal Growth Efficient Learning A Guide to Self-Improvement for Ordinary People Reading Notes
Emperor Shenzong of the Song Dynasty said in the imperial preface to "Zi Zhi Tong Jian": "A gentleman knows more about what he says, what he does, and how he behaves in order to cultivate his virtues." The purpose of our animal virtues is to improve our own wisdom and cultivation. . It’s never too late to learn, and you’ll benefit from it whenever you learn. Start an evolutionary path of lifelong learning. Fight for yourself! You are so wonderful and life is so wonderful. In order to live the way you like, for the love in your heart. Start taking action now. Not everyone lives the same life, your life is in your own hands. Finding your own meaning is the starting point for your future. No one can stop you from succeeding except you. Don’t look back on the past, and don’t settle for the rest of your life. May you meet a better version of yourself in the future.
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📖Personal Growth | Efficient Learning: Ordinary People’s Self-Improvement Guide Reading Notes
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Point out the problem point to point, help you break the deadlock, bid farewell to decadence and fall in love with learning. Learn tips to get twice the result with half the effort, a guide to self-improvement.
Summary & Harvest
Emperor Shenzong of the Song Dynasty said in the imperial preface to "Zi Zhi Tong Jian": "A gentleman knows more about what he says, what he does, and how he behaves in order to cultivate his virtues." The purpose of our animal virtues is to improve our own wisdom and cultivation. . It’s never too late to learn, and you’ll benefit from it whenever you learn. Start an evolutionary path of lifelong learning. Fight for yourself! You are so wonderful and life is so wonderful. In order to live the way you like, for the love in your heart. Start taking action now. Not everyone lives the same life, your life is in your own hands. Finding your own meaning is the starting point for your future. No one can stop you from succeeding except you. Don’t look back on the past, and don’t settle for the rest of your life. May you meet a better version of yourself in the future.
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Basic Information Effective Learning: Everyman’s Guide to Self-Improvement
author
Zhang Xiaoming
publishing house
Zhihu salt selection column
brief introduction
Personal growth advice that has received 400,000 likes from friends, and a self-improvement guide that you can also copy.
Classification
Personal growth, self-improvement, thinking, action, self-discipline
Recommended
Five stars out of five
Reading date
Start date 20201229
End date 20201231
book excerpt
Chapter 1 What factors keep bringing a person down?
Section 1 The easiest way to destroy a person is to make him do these four things
1. Having an impetuous mentality and pursuing quick results
The first reason why a person becomes useless is that he has an impetuous mentality and always wants to take shortcuts.
Everything requires accumulation bit by bit. You only see the bright side of others, but you don’t see their long-term accumulation.
A person's golden years are only a few years. If you always dabble in things and pursue quick success, as you age, your competitiveness will continue to decline, and you will gradually become useless.
Only when you have truly experienced it, walked through pits, hit the south wall, and tasted the beatings from society, will you start to reflect and improve.
There's just one thing, I hope it won't be too late for you to wake up.
2. Afraid of challenges and avoiding problems
Only by facing difficulties squarely and going through hardships can people become stronger.
If you keep running away from your problems, you will become the problem.
Your abilities never improve, and the older you get, the less competitive you become.
3. The thinking of the weak blocks the upward channel
The expectation of fairness has always been passive.
If a person cannot reflect on his own mistakes, it will be difficult to make progress. Therefore, people with a weak mentality will always be at the bottom and like to complain.
Bai Yansong once said, "A person's income is directly proportional to his or her irreplaceability. The more irreplaceable you are, the higher your income; the more replaceable you are, the lower your income."
Correct logic: Only by working hard to improve your thinking, cognition and skill level, and increasing your irreplaceability, can you survive in this highly competitive society.
4. Addicted to entertainment information and lose the ability to think deeply.
A person's attention is very limited. When you put a lot of attention on this entertainment information, there is very little time for actual learning and thinking. The brain needs to be exercised, just like our muscles. If we don't exercise for a long time, we will have no strength and cannot lift heavy things. If the brain is not exercised, the thinking ability and cognitive level will remain at a low level.
Some people don't know what is good and what is bad, they just follow the crowd and do whatever others say.
Section 2 Mindset: The biggest boss that prevents a person from changing
mindset
Mindset refers to the way you view the world, including the way you perceive, understand, and interpret the world. It is rooted deep in your heart. The most important thing is that there is no right or wrong in it.
It's just an assumption you made!
It's just an assumption you made!
It's just an assumption you made!
You can simply understand it as what you are more willing to believe.
What you believe is what you become.
What you think is what you think?
Most people don't even realize that a mindset is an assumption. They think what they see is the truth.
passive mode
This mindset believes that our thinking and behavior are affected by external factors, and we respond accordingly as soon as we are stimulated. Because setbacks are painful and insurmountable, I run away from them. (This pattern is very common in reality, look around)
Thinking has a great influence on us. Many times, you don't even realize it, but it really controls you.
Beware of the traps that are difficult to change
When you say it is difficult to change, be careful. You have chosen a passive mode, which will limit your thinking and behavior and make every step difficult.
You have the freedom to choose how to respond
Man, change is not as simple as doing a calculation. Changing your mindset takes time, even a long process, and requires deliberate practice. A person's mindset is not formed in a day or two. It is slowly formed based on factors such as your experience, background, and environment. It is easier said than done to change something that has been with you for decades. So he is your biggest Boss!
"The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" mentions that facing problems can be divided into three categories:
First, there are issues that can be directly controlled.
This type of problem is generally related to your own behavior. For example, you can freely choose how to face setbacks, whether proactively or passively; you can choose to idle around all day, or set goals for yourself and pursue your dreams; in your spare time, you can choose to watch TV dramas When playing games, you can also choose to read, study, or exercise.
These things are all within your control.
Second, there is the issue of indirect control.
These types of problems generally relate to the behavior of others, and we can exert influence to solve them.
For example, in interpersonal communication, when you are angry with a friend or partner, you can choose a sincere and gentle way of handling it, and the other person may also take a step back, and everyone will be happy.
Third, there are uncontrollable problems.
This kind of problem is beyond our control.
For example, you cannot change this society, this world, you cannot change your origin, and you cannot deny the fact that you are an ordinary person.
For the first and second types of problems, you can control them yourself. For the third type, although you cannot control them, you can choose to respond in a proactive way.
Specific and personal advice
First, don’t be too sad.
Second, stay away from people with negative energy.
In short, you must learn to adjust your mentality and keep yourself in a positive state every day, so that you can form a positive mindset. This is the prerequisite for you to start changing.
No one can stop you from succeeding except yourself.
Section 3 Why you always fail to listen to advice that is useful to you
Excellent people are always in the minority, and most are ordinary people.
Let’s first look at a passage from Bai Yansong: When you tell young people a lot of so-called truths, in fact you are only talking to 10% of the crowd. Our ancestors also divided people into three classes. First-class people immediately listen to good truths. Practice and say nothing; second-rate people practice good principles but doubt them at the same time; third-rate people hear good principles and open their mouths and say "What is this?"
These sentences come from Chapter 41 of the Tao Te Ching: When a superior man hears the Tao, he practices it diligently; when a sergeant hears the Tao, he lives or perishes; when a junior man hears the Tao, he laughs.
Therefore, when others advise you to study more and read more while you are young, it is quite normal not to listen, because most people cannot listen.
The reason why I can’t listen
The mind is immature and cannot establish effective cognition.
Others give you some advice and tell you a lot of truths, but you cannot establish effective cognition and understand the truths they say. Only when you have experienced enough and tasted the beatings from society, and then recall the advice given to you by others, will you be able to empathize with them.
Your life is decided by yourself
If you enjoy a comfortable and comfortable life in advance, you have to accept an ordinary and trivial life. Just be afraid, some people are enjoying themselves with peace of mind, but on the other hand they are complaining about low wages, the solidification of classes, and the lack of opportunities for themselves to get ahead. But this result is determined when you first choose.
Just like many people, when they were young, they felt that they were still young and did not need to consider major life events. They only thought about comfort and enjoyment, which was a waste of energy. As my mind gradually matured, I realized that my original idea was very naive. At this time, I wanted to do something, but I was already slapped on the beach by the back wave. When you start to regret and blame yourself, it means that you are already paying for your choices.
Ways to improve your mental level
First, read more biographies of famous people.
On the one hand, celebrity biography books are interspersed with some character stories, which are very readable; on the other hand, you can learn about the celebrity's ups and downs, learn how he coped with setbacks, how to solve problems, etc.
Second, go out for a walk more often.
Many people stay at home whenever they have the chance, indulging in the world of Douyin, King of Glory, and eating chicken. No matter how good you are at playing games, your heart is still empty. I usually have the opportunity to go out and see the outside world, increase my knowledge and broaden my horizons. In this process, you will slowly increase your understanding of life, and of course, it will also make your mind continue to mature.
Section 4: I know that learning is important, but I still don’t want to learn. What should I do?
Learning is an active act
If a person really wants to change himself, he will naturally take action.
Reasons why you can’t learn
1. The purpose of learning is unclear and I don’t know why I am studying.
If the motivation that supports you to continue learning is willpower, but willpower is limited, when it is exhausted, it will be difficult for you to continue learning.
It is really important to understand why you want to study. Otherwise, without strong enough self-motivation, it is very likely that you will spend three days fishing and two days drying nets. Be sure to understand the purpose of learning. This is the key to your continuous learning.
2. Get used to the stimulation of "low cost, high return".
Douyin, Kuaishou, Chicken Dinner, and King of Glory are so easy to get addicted to because you can get pleasure as soon as you open them. Behind these software, there is a professional team. They are thinking every day about how to make their products more accessible to you, how to give you the greatest pleasure, and how to keep you using this software. They have made the threshold low enough that as long as you open it, you can continue to get pleasure.
Relatively speaking, things like reading and studying are very taxing. You need to put a lot of effort into it, and you can't get feedback right away. What's worse is that you put in the effort, but you don't necessarily get any results.
Reading and studying is a "high investment and low return" thing, and it can also be very painful. The human brain seeks advantages and avoids disadvantages, so it is normal to choose "low-cost, high-return" games and binge-watch TV series.
When you get used to this kind of "low-cost, high-return" stimulation, you will be even less willing to read books. Over time, your thinking ability will slowly decline, and you will begin to be harvested like a leek. This is a terrible thing.
Continuously receive positive rewards
"Self-Control" mentions that when the brain receives reward feedback, it will release a neurotransmitter called dopamine. This does not bring pleasure, but it makes people expect to receive rewards, so they are willing to work hard for this feeling. .
When we use Tik Tok, our brain will secrete dopamine. Similarly, when we receive rewards from our studies (praise from teachers, certificates from school, envious looks from classmates, or even the opposite sex that we like asking you for advice), the brain will also Secrete dopamine. In order to continue to receive this reward, you will continue to work hard.
How to get rewards
First, set up a reward mechanism.
When you complete a task, reward yourself with a nice meal or a night out. This will motivate you to put in more effort.
Second, get spiritual rewards.
When you achieve something, you can share your joy with the people around you, or you can sincerely praise each other with your partners.
When you get more and more spiritual rewards, a positive cycle is formed. Slowly, you enjoy the feeling of learning very much.
three suggestions
First, figure out what you need to solve most urgently right now.
This can give you a strong motivation that makes it easier for you to stick with it.
Second, set a specific goal for yourself.
With specific goals, there is a clear direction.
Third, stay away from those "low-cost, high-return" incentives
I hope you do something that will be profitable in the long term, rather than a short-term excitement that you will forget about once you are done.
Section 5 How to become an increasingly valuable person?
Find what you love
Try "going deep" again, focusing on the word "going deep". If you always dabble in it, you will continue to be confused. Many people want to figure out what they want, but they don't want to try too much. This is the biggest problem.
When we have a good first impression of something, we feel like we like it. After trying it, I discovered that I actually didn’t like it, or in other words, I only liked “its surface.”
In fact, figuring out what you like cannot be determined by first impressions. I like it at first sight. I can only say that I am curious. It is the novelty that this thing brings to you. Once the novelty fades, your enthusiasm may also fade.
Real love is when you get to know someone deeply, gain satisfaction from it, and enjoy it endlessly.
If you still have a job, you can do these things in your spare time. If you try it and find that you don't really like it, you can stop. This should be the cheapest way.
have a specialty
When you find something you like, delve into this field and spend more time improving your professional level, so that your competitiveness will become stronger and stronger and you will not be replaced by others.
continuous efforts
Nowadays, many people always hesitate before doing something, "Will this thing be good for me?" "Is this thing difficult?" "If it is difficult, what should I do?" Before I even start doing it, my heart is agitated. . Don't set limits for yourself, don't think about whether there is a way out of this matter. When most people ask this question, they have already begun to retreat in their minds.
What we need to do is to be down-to-earth, improve our cognitive level and knowledge level, and cultivate the ability to analyze and solve problems when we are young, instead of wondering about the way out every day!
Chapter 2 How to Solve Key Problems of Growth
Section 1: How to control the desire to play with mobile phones and study with peace of mind?
Those apps that make you addicted all target the weaknesses of human nature
We are easily addicted to mobile phones because things that are difficult to obtain in the real world can be easily obtained on some apps. As soon as you enter the app, you will be satisfied immediately, it's that simple.
The better the APP, the more accurate its grasp of human nature, and the stronger your dependence on it.
Behind these apps, there is an excellent team operating them. Their job is to think about how to lower the operating threshold, how to give you the greatest satisfaction, and how to make you addicted and continue to use their APP. To measure whether an APP is good or not, it depends on how often users log in and how long they use it. If the data is not good, they will continue to optimize and improve it.
If you can escape this APP, you cannot escape another one. There is always one that can hit you.
Being addicted to mobile phones is actually choosing to take the most crowded road
When you are addicted to your mobile phone and cannot extricate yourself, your road will become narrower and narrower. You put most of your energy on your mobile phone, but your studies are slowly being neglected. You gain a lot of satisfaction from your mobile phone, but in the end, you are still confused, can't find your direction, and don't even have any skills.
Bai Yansong said: A person's income is directly proportional to irreplaceability. The more irreplaceable, the higher the income; the more replaceable, the lower the income.
Some people do not realize this and only complain about the great competition in society and the solidification of classes. But such a result was already doomed when you were addicted to games and novels.
Change starts with putting down your phone
1. The awakening of self-awareness.
Self-awareness is unique to human beings. Only when people realize their own mistakes can they review themselves, constantly reflect and learn lessons, and can they continue to make progress. In other words, if you lose your self-awareness, you give up the opportunity to become better.
Many people spend a lot of time on Douyin, King of Glory, and eating chicken every day. They are addicted to it without knowing it, and it is difficult to realize what they are doing. By the time they woke up, several hours had passed and their sense of self had been kidnapped.
Practical Tips: 3 Seconds of Zen
When you pick up your phone and prepare to unlock it, pause for 3 seconds and ask yourself a few questions:
1. What do I want to do?
2. Why do it?
3. Can we do it later?
At first I suggest you write it down with a pen. For example, if you pick up your phone and want to use TikTok, then write "Use TikTok" on the paper. Soon, your desire to use TikTok will disappear.
When you write down the reasons for playing on your mobile phone, your thinking becomes "visualized". This action will awaken your consciousness. You realize that now is the time to study and that it’s wrong to use TikTok. So you will restrain yourself and learn consciously.
2. You must set a small goal for yourself
After you put down your phone, you still have nothing to do. Soon, you will still be addicted to the world of your phone.
Therefore, the most important thing is to think clearly about what you need to solve most urgently, and then set a small goal for yourself.
3. Auxiliary techniques to help you quit using mobile phones
(1) Uninstall all the apps that make you addicted.
The purpose of uninstalling some apps is to increase your cost of accessing these apps. People are very lazy. When you find that the APP has been uninstalled, it will take a while to download and install it again. During this time, your desires will slowly cool down.
(2) Stay away from mobile phones.
For example, if you go to the library to study, you can leave your mobile phone in your dormitory. This is essentially similar to the first point, increasing the cost of accessing these apps. Without the distraction of these apps, you can focus on studying.
(3) Use Tomato APP
It has a learning mode that blocks APP push notifications to prevent them from interfering with your vision. If you really can't help it and want to use Douyin, I'm sorry, but you are not allowed to quit. (unless you remove it)
The pursuit of comfort and comfort is human nature, and self-improvement is always anti-human nature. Therefore, those who can restrain their desires and continue to improve themselves will have a wider path. You really should push yourself and not let your path become narrower and narrower.
Section 2 The secret of self-discipline, how to become a highly self-disciplined person?
Behind self-discipline is habit
Whether it’s self-discipline or procrastination, the essence behind it is habit. Habits are the driving force that drives a person to continue doing something. Therefore, good habits continue to make people improve, while bad habits make people fall step by step.
"The Way of Learning" mentions that the formation of habits is divided into the following parts:
Signal: The trigger that gets you started doing something.
For example, a WeChat message is a signal.
Reaction process: How you react to signals.
For example, if you receive a WeChat message (this is a signal), you immediately pick up your phone and take a look (this is a reaction procedure).
Reward mechanism: Why is it easy to procrastinate while chatting on Douyin, reading novels, or playing games?
The human brain seeks advantages and avoids disadvantages. When we encounter something we don't like, the pain center of the brain will be activated. The brain will instinctively reject it and shift our attention to things that make us happy. Chatting on TikTok, reading novels, and playing games make us feel relaxed and happy, and stimulate the brain to secrete dopamine. In order to continue to obtain this pleasure, we will spend more time on it. Gradually I became addicted.
Belief: Whether it is a good habit or a bad habit, the fundamental reason behind it is belief.
For example, if you are addicted to King of Glory, your belief may be to pursue a relaxed and exciting life. If you develop the habit of studying from 8 to 10 pm, then your belief may be to pursue a more ideal life.
Behind habits are beliefs, and different beliefs develop habits.
The above is the principle of habit formation. If you understand these, you can more easily change bad habits and develop good habits.
Countermeasures based on the principle of habit:
Signal: We can cut off and isolate the signal so that it does not affect us and we can focus on doing things.
For example, go to a quiet place to study, disconnect your mobile phone from the Internet, or turn it off so that your attention is not easily distracted.
Response procedure: This is the only link that requires the use of willpower, so you need to plan well, arrange when to do things, and form a standardization. In fact, a self-disciplined life is a standardized life.
But remember, the plan cannot be too full, because human willpower is limited.
Reward mechanism: Videos, games, and novels are more likely to be addictive and cause procrastination because the rewards are continuous and immediate. As for work and study, rewards are delayed and require hard work for a period of time to obtain.
So we need to reward ourselves. For example, after completing this task, reward ourselves with a big meal, watching a movie, or taking a day off, etc.
Belief: We need to replace the original bad habit belief with the belief of good habit, so find what you want to do most and the problem that you need to solve most urgently.
Self-discipline cannot be formed in a short period of time. It must be done step by step. You can only change one habit at a time. Don't rush it. Develop one habit before you can develop the next habit. Self-discipline is by no means your painful persistence, but your subconscious behavior.
Set a goal for yourself
Most procrastination, confusion, and anxiety are caused by lack of goals. Without a goal, you will have no direction in doing things, and you will not be able to concentrate on where you go, and you will easily be distracted by other irrelevant things.
If you have a clear goal and a strong belief, your subconscious mind will have a strong desire for the goal and drive you to try your best to achieve it, then self-discipline will not be difficult.
Finding the problems you need to solve most urgently, driven by faith, will give you strong execution power, and you will consciously do these things.
form a standardized life
The reason why excellent people are excellent is because their lives have been standardized and they have developed good habits one after another. At a certain point in time, habits will push them to do things without relying on willpower.
Standardized execution means doing the same thing at the same time. To develop the habit of self-discipline, it must be implemented in a standardized manner. When you continue to standardize it for a period of time, you can integrate the habit into your biological clock. At a certain time, the habit will push you to do it.
The pursuit of ease and comfort is always human nature, while self-discipline is always anti-human nature. Because of this, you have a chance to escape mediocrity.
Cooperate with methods to make your life more efficient
(1) Ways to enhance willpower: fitness
Fitness can greatly enhance people's willpower. People's willpower is like a muscle. It needs regular exercise to become stronger and stronger. If you observe those who exercise, you will find that they seldom smoke and drink, and sleep better at night. Early, just because the willpower is relatively strong.
(2) Methods to improve concentration
Method 1: Meditation
Meditation has many benefits. It can improve sleep quality, improve negative emotions, and exercise thinking power. Research shows that meditation for more than ten hours (total meditation time) can significantly improve concentration. Many people with depression use meditation. method, the effect is remarkable.
The simplest way to meditate is breathing meditation. Lie flat on your back, relax your whole body, take a deep breath, and focus on your breathing. It is recommended to follow the rhythm of breathing and recite "exhale" and "inhale" silently in your mind. It doesn’t matter if your mind wanders. Start over and stick to it for 5 minutes every day, and you will gain endless benefits.
Method 2: Pomodoro Technique
Download a Pomodoro APP. The principle is to focus on what you are doing within 25 minutes. Do not allow anything or anyone to interrupt you. During this time, you only do the things at hand. This can greatly improve your concentration. It is very good. use.
(3) Eliminate interference items
Disconnect your phone from the Internet, or turn it off, and put it somewhere else. Because most of our procrastination is caused by mobile phones, putting the mobile phone out of sight will cut off the signal of the mobile phone that interferes with you, and you will become more focused.
Section 3 How can people with a low starting point improve themselves quickly?
Find your inner motivation
If you want to change, the first thing you need to do is find your inner motivation. That is, how much you want to accomplish this.
When you desperately want to do something, just ignite it gently and it will burn with blazing passion.
The troubled Chris was eager for change, so when he saw a man driving a sports car on the street, he asked him how he could live such a life. From the man's mouth, he learned about the stockbroker.
If a person wants to change from the bottom of his heart, he can overcome no matter how big the difficulty is. In order to become a stockbroker, he applied for an intern job at a stock company and was willing to work even without a salary. So, he was selling equipment while working as a stockbroker. Finally, after going through hardships, he finally turned positive and successfully changed his destiny.
Goals are concrete expressions of motivation. Motivation is a belief held deep within our subconscious mind. Only when you have a strong motivation will you want to do something, so you will set a clear goal for yourself. If you don't know your motivations and set various goals for yourself, you really won't have the motivation to execute them.
Picture from the movie "The Pursuit of Happiness"
change your circle
The level of the people you associate with has a great influence on you. If you are in a low-level circle, you will spend all day discussing what places are fun, where the food is delicious, and gossip about entertainment. To be honest, this kind of circle is the biggest obstacle to your improvement.
In an excellent circle, your knowledge, knowledge, and connections will all improve. Entering such a circle means that you can meet people who are as good as you, which will boost your future career development. The circle not only affects your cognition and knowledge, but also affects your habits.
There are too many temptations around you, which is a challenge for you who do not have strong self-control. If you want to change, simply be cruel and stay away from your original circle.
Grade the sense of achievement
Break down the big goal into small things, and get a sense of accomplishment every time you complete a small thing. The sense of achievement stacked up again and again gives you more motivation to persevere.
Learning is not a black and white matter. Failure to complete your plan does not mean you are lazy. (This is better than not doing it at all.) In fact, some students actually work very hard, but because they are too impatient and have too many tasks to complete, they feel guilty. Then start to deny yourself and slowly slack off.
If you don't study, you can only get 0 points. If you study for 10 minutes today, you can get 60 points. If you study for half an hour, you can get 70 points... and so on. As you study longer and complete the task, As you increase, your sense of accomplishment also increases. Studying for half an hour a day will benefit you a lot over the course of a year.
A few suggestions to help you avoid detours
(1) Learn to spend money to buy time
Don't fumble around alone, it's a waste of time. It is very likely that the problem you are encountering now has been encountered by someone else before and solved it better than you. Therefore, the easiest way is to let a good person guide you and deliberately practice the routines he teaches you. You will save a lot of time.
What should I do if excellent people ignore me? You can pay for consultation or purchase his knowledge products. If you have any questions, ask him directly. This is a very time-saving thing. Don’t be reluctant to part with this little money and choose to use your time to accumulate it. In fact, the cost you pay is greater.
(2) Low-cost attempt
Find a few people to learn from, imitate their methods, and try them little by little. It’s not a pity if you fail, and you don’t lose much. But if you verify that this is a feasible way, then you have found another possibility.
(3) Concentrate and do only one thing
After a small-cost trial, if you verify that your method is feasible, then concentrate your energy and do your best to do this well.
Don't even think about having a hand in everything. Human energy is limited, and wanting to do everything means doing nothing well. If you bite off more than you can chew and focus on doing one thing well, you may be very successful.
Section 4: 4 basic abilities necessary for ordinary people to counterattack
1. The ability to control attention
A person's ability level is directly proportional to the time for self-improvement. When you spend most of your time having fun, you have far less time for self-improvement.
People who cannot control their attention pay more attention to immediate enjoyment and become mediocre step by step. For people who have lost the ability to think, they have handed over control of their brains, cannot distinguish the authenticity of information, and can easily trust others.
How to control your attention
① Stay away from pleasures that are too easy to obtain.
The pleasure you get too easily will make you addicted. Over time, you will become less and less interested in low-intensity stimulation such as learning. Therefore, uninstall the entertainment software on your phone if you can. It can help you regain some of your attention.
②Force yourself to study.
It is human nature to pursue ease and comfort, so in the process of self-discipline and learning, you will inevitably confront "human nature". No matter what method you use, you will need to force yourself in the early stage, which will make you very uncomfortable.
Just like Xu Sanduo said in "Soldier Assault", "We should not be too comfortable, otherwise problems will arise."
2. The ability to slow down
Making money is essentially a value exchange, that is, your money is obtained through the exchange of its own value. If you have little value and still want to make quick money, of course you will be cut off by others. A person's youth only lasts a few years. If you always want to take shortcuts and refuse to improve your own strength steadily, you will be in danger as you get older and your competitiveness decreases.
Give yourself some time, take your time, everything requires continuous accumulation.
3. Spread your abilities
People who know how to spread themselves will achieve a very obvious leverage effect. What is spread is value and something useful to people. Therefore, work hard to improve yourself and develop a specialty so that when you can help others, you will have the ability to communicate.
Developing one's own abilities is the beginning of spreading yourself.
4. Execution without saying a word
There is not much difference in intelligence between people, it just depends on who is more willing to execute. No matter how good the idea is, it still needs execution to pay for it. Without execution, everything is just talk.
Section 5: 3 things that can help you avoid detours in your 20s
1. Choosing the right industry is more important than anything else
Regarding the choice of industry, you must choose the right industry, an emerging industry. This is more important than anything else.
If you are in an emerging industry, your personal efforts will make you grow like a tear; if you are in a declining industry and want to rely on your own efforts to fight against the trends of the entire industry, this is simply a waste of time. The general environment is not good, and it will not help no matter how hard you try.
Find an industry approach with potential
Point, line and surface:
Point: that is, individual, specifically referring to each person;
Line: A small company;
Face: a platform company such as Tencent, Alibaba, and Baidu;
Body: a trend of the times, an industry with potential.
If you want greater career development, you must follow the trend of the times and choose an industry with potential. Then, with the help of the potential of large platform companies, you can get twice the result with half the effort.
Point-line-hedron is a very good way to judge the potential of an industry. Many people say they don’t know how to make career plans. First of all, you should choose an industry with potential. This is the premise. According to the "point, line, and surface" model, you can also find a rapidly rising industry and rely on a platform with high potential energy.
By means of potential energy
①Become a member of a large company, and your personal value will increase along with the company.
However, the requirements of large companies are relatively high, and the number of positions is not large. More people use the second method.
②Depend on this platform.
For example, most of the current self-media are attached to the Tencent platform, because the Tencent platform has the highest potential energy. Of course, the potential of the ByteDance platform is getting higher and higher now, and it is a strong competitor of Tencent.
2. Abandoning red light thinking is the key to your rapid growth
red light thinking
When we encounter a point of view that is inconsistent with our own, our first reaction is not to think about whether what the other party says is reasonable, but to directly refute it. This phenomenon is called red light thinking.
Red light thinking is the biggest factor hindering your progress and must be corrected.
People with red-light thinking always remain stubborn and refuse to accept new ideas and knowledge. When encountering opinions that are inconsistent with their own, they will always refute without thinking. Because of limited thinking and unwillingness to try, some people make very slow progress even if they work very hard.
How to change: Establish green light thinking
(1) First step, don’t rush to refute
Be open to different perspectives and actively think about what this perspective tells me.
You can wait 3-5 seconds after others finish speaking before expressing your own opinion. Even though it only lasts a few seconds, you can think about many things clearly during this time.
(2) The second step is to distinguish between "I" and "perspective"
"I" refers to ourselves, and "viewpoint" refers to our thoughts and opinions.
Many times, what others refute is just our point of view, but we understand it as others' negation of us.
When someone else puts forward an opinion, it is only about the matter and not the person, not about yourself.
3. Staying focused is the fastest way for ordinary people to counterattack
Spending your energy on multiple things is destined to achieve nothing in the end. You must devote enough energy to any one thing. Only when you understand its underlying rules can you make money, but this process usually takes a relatively long time. as the picture shows:
Only when you focus your energy, continue to invest in one thing, break through vertically, and break through the low-speed start-up period, will your income grow, and finally enter the plateau period, and your income will soar.
Focus all your energy on one thing, and the effect will be far better than doing multiple things at the same time.
Chapter 3 How to learn continuously and efficiently
Section 1: How to quickly master a field and become a very powerful person?
Learning Mistakes to Avoid
1. Frequently distracted
Distraction is the most taboo thing when studying. This will interrupt the brain's thinking process, prevent you from thinking deeply, and weak neural connections will be uprooted. This kind of learning effect is very poor.
2. Lack of sleep
When there is insufficient sleep, the brain reacts slowly, memory declines, and the ability to solve problems is greatly reduced.
3. Eager for success
"The Way of Learning" says that learning knowledge is like building a house and building walls. You cannot pursue the speed of building walls. You must leave a certain amount of time and wait for the cement to solidify before the wall will be stable.
Excessive pursuit of learning speed will lead to no connection between knowledge and knowledge, and can only become isolated points. Such knowledge is easy to forget.
4. Eyes full of marked key points
This is a very common illusion of ability. You think you have mastered it by marking it. In fact, highlighting too many key points can also create an escape mentality in the brain.
5. Repeat the exercise
If you have mastered a certain knowledge point and still learn it over and over again, you are actually falling into your comfort zone. Not only is time wasted, but you will also get stuck in a fixed mindset.
If you learn a certain knowledge point easily, you don’t need to waste time. You can challenge more difficult questions.
6. Look at the problem-solving method and feel that you have mastered it.
If you don't look at the answer first, think for yourself, come up with a solution, and do it right, then you have mastered it.
Stay focused and get into learning mode quickly
①3 seconds of Zen
②2. Pomodoro Technique
③Meditation
Efficient learning methods
The brain's information processing flow is: information input - information processing - knowledge output.
1.Information output
To ensure efficient learning, you must first ensure the quality of information. Do not let some irrelevant or inferior information enter the brain, otherwise it will waste a lot of time, so you need to learn to filter, simplify, and extract key information. For example, when reading a book, if you read it word for word, sentence by sentence, the speed will be relatively slow.
Solution
(1) Problem orientation
The purpose of our learning should be to improve our abilities in a certain area or to solve a certain problem. In other words, it is most efficient to study with questions.
(2) Clarify the key points of learning
When you get a book, you don’t mean to read it immediately, but to determine the focus of your study. If you are already familiar with some chapters, you can skip them and focus on those parts that you are not familiar with and need to solve.
This is the importance of previewing. Previewing does not mean learning in advance, but clarifying the key points that you need to learn.
(3) Extract key information
When reading, you will find a phenomenon: the author will spend a lot of space to prove a certain point. In fact, the entire book, after excluding the argumentative parts and truly leaving useful points, may be reduced to ten or twenty thousand words. This is the essence of the book.
Therefore, when reading it for the first time, we have to go through it quickly and focus on the bold words, charts, and parts that are inspiring to you.
2. Information processing
When we start learning, the knowledge we take in at this time is still too scattered and disorganized. If we rely on rote memorization, we can remember it at first, but we will forget it soon. Therefore, we need to consciously process the knowledge to make it easier for us to learn it. Only by connecting new knowledge with existing knowledge, deepening understanding, and forming a system can such knowledge be remembered.
processing method
(1) Images, analogies and metaphors
Our right brain is connected to the visual center, so it is easier for the brain to remember vivid scenes and images. Therefore, in the learning process, if we can use analogies or metaphors to construct some vivid scenes and images, it can help us remember. This is where the idea behind the Memory Palace comes from.
(2) Label reading method
The core lies in "excerpts and insights".
Excerpting refers to excerpting inspired content. Enlightenment, that is, write down your feelings after reading this content, and connect it with past experiences to reflect on how to improve.
Only when there is a link between knowledge and knowledge can it be truly useful to you and change your thinking and behavior.
(3) Ebbinghaus learning method
The famous psychologist Ebbinghaus discovered that as time goes by, we can remember less and less of the knowledge we learn.
How to improve:
a.Recall in time
b.Self-test
(4) Structure knowledge
Your knowledge has become systematic, and you no longer think about problems in point-by-point terms, but rise to a larger picture.
3. Knowledge output
Practical application. Only when knowledge is applied in practice can it truly bring about change.
learning pyramid
Output method
Making complex knowledge simple and interesting is a very important ability that we should practice deliberately.
You can repeat what you just learned to your friends, or write it into an article and publish it on official accounts or Zhihu.
In this process, you recombine complex and unsystematic knowledge so that readers see simple, easy-to-understand and systematic content. This is the best way to learn.
Section 2 How to make yourself addicted to learning and unable to extricate yourself?
Flow state (playing games or studying)
Entering a flow state, people will be completely immersed in what they are doing, and will be accompanied by a sense of satisfaction and pleasure.
Conditions for entering a flow state:
1. The goal is clear and challenging
2. Positive feedback
3. Focus
When playing games, players are highly focused and focused. They don't even want to eat, and they can even hold back when going to the toilet.
Examine the conditions for entering flow and discover the reasons why you can’t study without distractions
1. Unclear goals
Break down the learning objectives and create "passing conditions" like a game.
2. Delayed rewards
The effect of learning is very small, and it is difficult for you to detect it at the time. Only through the accumulation of time can you see the effect after a period of time, which is what we call "positive feedback." Precisely because the rewards are delayed, many people give up halfway because they cannot see the effect, that is, the progress bar.
You can get instant rewards by playing games, and you can use the rewards to drive yourself to continue playing; however, the rewards for learning are delayed. Before you get the rewards, you must use "willpower" to drive yourself to learn.
A good way to learn willpower
(1) Do the hardest things first
Lao Tie, the day's plan begins in the morning.
(2) Standardized execution
To put it simply, whatever you did yesterday, you will still do it at the same time today.
Advantages of this: ① No need to waste time on unimportant things. ②It is very easy to form a habit.
(3) Meditation and exercise
It takes a relatively long period of time to increase your willpower reserve through meditation and exercise. It is difficult to see the effect in a short period of time, but you have to do it. It can increase the "upper limit" of your willpower.
3. Not focused
(1) 3 seconds of Zen
(2) Create an environment conducive to learning
(3) Pomodoro Technique
Tomato todo’s academic model
Section 3 How to maintain a steady stream of motivation and continue to learn?
1. Be sure to determine the direction of your struggle
Use reverse thinking to set small goals first. Such goals are very clear. As long as you insist on executing them, you will be able to control larger goals as your goal management capabilities continue to improve.
2. Examine your current status
"Silly X speed"
Only when you realize your "silliness" will you be alert, start to reflect, and want to jump out of the trap of standing still.
Make a clean slate for your life
(1) Clearing ability
Take out your resume during the interview and look at the abilities and qualifications listed above. Have they changed compared to now?
Go to job boards and look at your desired position to see what abilities are required. Then look at the gaps between your abilities and the position you want. This is the direction you should work towards.
(2) Clear knowledge
What people fear most is to stay in their comfort zone and use old-fashioned methods to deal with unfamiliar problems, which often has the opposite effect.
When you realize the gap between yourself and the position you want, you can purposefully look for some books in this area and constantly update your knowledge base, so that you can get closer and closer to your goal.
3. Determine an imitation object
After imitating more, I gradually summarized my own methodology and formed my own characteristics. Seeing the gap between myself and others keeps pushing me forward.
4. Be wary of the moral licensing effect
After studying, some people feel that they have done something glorious and should be compensated. So I decided to browse Douyin for a while and play a few games of King. I originally only played for half an hour, but ended up getting stuck in it and couldn't extricate myself. "Self-Control" mentioned that this is the moral licensing effect.
Psychologists have investigated people who indulge themselves. They think that they have always been in control, have no sense of guilt, and believe that they deserve to be rewarded. It is this compensation mentality that makes people fall!
Rewarding yourself is necessary, but you can't do things that give you pleasure easily. This misunderstanding must be avoided, otherwise you will really spend three days fishing and two days drying the net.