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How to get past the “emotional buttons” When the emotional button is touched, the inner emotion is aroused. If people do not escape or divert their attention at this time, feel the inner emotion and take a deep breath at the same time, they can gradually pass through the emotional button. Specific steps: 1. Once you notice your emotional button being touched, feel the emotion inside you without shifting your attention. If you can bear it, don't avoid the pain in your heart, focus on the emotion, and keep feeling the emotion until the emotion slowly subsides. 2. At the same time, take a deep breath and inhale the air into the abdomen. This way, the diaphragm under the chest cavity will drop and the abdomen will bulge, so that the waste gas in the alveoli at the bottom of the lungs can fully exchange with oxygen.

Time travel and compromise have something in common: they both avoid conflict with the other person after their emotions are touched. But there is an essential difference between the two: time travel means actively challenging oneself, while enduring hardship means passive acceptance.

Standards and rules such as right and wrong, values, laws, and morals are the products of civilization. Its purpose is to restrain people's instincts and desires, so that people do not hurt others when they love themselves, or to let people love others while loving themselves.

Usually it is not the things themselves that cause people's emotions, but people's rational views and evaluations of things that cause emotions. Emotions are the result of rational processing, and different rational processing will lead to different emotions.

1. Awareness: Be aware that you have emotions; 2. Distinguish: Are the emotions this time mainly the instinctive emotions from the first time? Or are there rational emotions that arise only when there are standards of right and wrong? 3. After confirming that this is an emotion caused by your own standards of right and wrong, tell yourself in your heart: let go of right and wrong; 4. Then feel the other person’s heart with your heart, and feel what the other person’s inner feeling is when they do this?

Sentence pattern 1: Tell the other person directly when you are in a bad mood.

Sentence pattern 2: When the other person makes you feel bad (or good), tell the other person how you feel!

Sentence pattern three: Tell the other person your needs, not the solutions.

Sentence pattern four: Say what you like, not what you don’t like.

Sentence pattern five: Use "can" instead of commands.

Sentence pattern 6: Say "I hope" instead of "you should".

Step one: Inspire the other person to understand others or see the problem from another perspective.

The second step of inspiration is to guide the other party to focus on the future and solutions.