The meaning we attach to our life experiences may affect the choices we make in life, so we must maintain a positive attitude toward the misfortunes we experience and regard them as our own motivation or what we have learned from this misfortune.

It is understandable in the example given by the philosopher, but if I am sulking, what is my purpose?

Adlerian psychology believes that it is about ten years old

No one can decide where they come from, but the problem lies not in the past but in the present. If I now understand the lifestyle, my next behavior is my own responsibility. Whether I choose the same lifestyle as before or choose a new lifestyle, it all depends on myself.

People want to change but are afraid of change, because even if they are dissatisfied, facing the unpredictable future life, they think it is easier and more secure to maintain the status quo, and are unwilling to step out of their comfort zone, lacking the courage to change and lack the courage to obtain happiness.

I don’t fully understand and agree with this sentence. If you combine it with what he said before (it is not the past experience that determines us, but the meaning given to the experience), I can barely understand it, but I think experience will affect future life. It can be said that The meaning I give to my experience affects the rest of my life

Because I am too afraid of being disliked by others and afraid of being hurt in relationships.

Inferiority complex (words related to self-worth judgment)

The state of using one's inferiority complex as some kind of excuse

External causation: interpreting things that originally have no causal relationship as if they have a significant causal relationship

superiority complex

Don’t compete with anyone, just keep moving forward. Value lies in transcending oneself. A healthy sense of inferiority comes not from comparison with others, but from comparison with your ideal self. We should take a positive view of the differences between ourselves and others so as to grow into a better version of ourselves

We are "different, but equal"

I think the premise is not to compete with others and only pursue your own progress

From a competitive perspective, I regard other people's happiness as my failure, so I cannot give blessings. From the perspective of a partner, the troubles in interpersonal relationships will be greatly reduced.

Struggle is about trying to prove one's strength by winning

No matter how right you think you are, don't use this as a reason to blame the other person or try to make the other person give in.

Admitting your mistakes, apologizing, and withdrawing from the power struggle are not "failures"

Only when people can feel that they can be unrestrained with this person can they experience love.

The only one who can change yourself is yourself

“It’s none of your business and none of my business.”

"Whether you hate me or not" is a matter for others and I have no right to interfere.

The state of seeing others as partners and being able to feel that "one has a place"

is the most important indicator of happy relationships

I am part of the community, not the center

The purpose behind praise and criticism is manipulation

Not “evaluating” others

People can only gain courage when they can feel that they are valuable

It has value as long as it exists

"Someone has to start, and even if others don't cooperate, it has nothing to do with you."