MindMap Gallery Accompany your children’s lifelong growth
This is a mind map about accompanying children's lifelong growth. The main contents include perspectives, the essence of education, and the three pillars - rebuilding the parent-child relationship.
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Accompany your children’s lifelong growth
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Parental growth - child growth
Put the center on yourself
demonstration
Our children love us more than we love our children
All children have endless problems
Parents only need to give their children knowledge, patience and love
Children are living beings, not mechanical bodies
Living beings: We are just guides, like cats
Machinery: We plan all the steps, like a washing machine
the nature of education
Children are "copies" of their parents
The parent-child relationship is a reflection of the child and the world
A child’s lifelong learning, behavior, and health status
✅Positive words
❎Negative words
respond to each other
Children are learning every moment, and they are learning from their parents whether they are right or wrong.
Reciprocity
The TV and mobile phone cannot interact, and the children will be sluggish.
3T principles: empathize (tune in), communicate fully (talk more), and take turns (take turns)
Parents determine thinking patterns
Most good things come easily
imaginary enemy
Stay away - poor quality parent-child relationship
Growth Killer-Domestic Violence
Angry - Adrenaline ⤴️
Release - return to normal
Holding it in - unable to control oneself
lack of security
unclear goal
sightseeing life
Live for the people around you
immersive life
live for yourself
Fear - cold violence
A child's biggest fear is that his parents will ignore him
ignore children
shut out
Throw away things your child likes
Valid for short term
Children love us far more than we love our children
subconscious childhood trauma
Rebellion because of injury
Couple arguing constructively
Don’t shy away from speaking out about your pain
empathic listening
Say what you feel
solve
Not teaching her how to do it
Give her confidence, encourage him, and give her space.
The difference between love and control
Education-Complex System
complex system
It's a living body, not a mechanical body
score
Never stare while doing homework
Vitality of life - complex system
Einstein: We have special abilities, knowledge, love of curiosity
Da Vinci: I think it’s fun, this is interesting, so I’ll work hard to study it.
Curiosity seeking knowledge
three pillars
unconditional love
mistake:
If you keep doing this, I won't care about you
If you keep doing this, I won't love you anymore
If you keep doing this, I won’t want you anymore
Abandon the child on the street
sense of inadequacy
Make sure you are loved and have a forever belonging
attach a label
children become labels
Compare
Deny yourself
sense of value
growth mindset
Three Pillars-Rebuilding the Parent-Child Relationship
Adler's "Inferiority and Transcendence"
All losers fail because they lack a sense of belonging and social interest
Sense of belonging: knowing which family you belong to
Sense of value: Find motivation and be willing
Belonging: unconditional love
No exchange, no intimidation, no threats
True love - no exchange required
Consequences: Confusion - not knowing what is right, what is wrong, what is important, what is not important
work hard for recognition
Don't follow yourself
Home is home without requirements
Mobilize children's inner motivation and let them grow on their own
Don’t let “dislike” enter your mind
No matter what, I promise you, not just because of good grades
Mistake: No matter what you do, I won’t love you anymore
The child thinks: If I am good, you will love me
If it's not good, you don't love me
Accept your child’s imperfections
Unconditional love is not doting
The right thing to do when your child makes a mistake:
First of all: Because I love you, I firmly oppose you to do this. I want to talk to you about it.
After the conversation: Although Dad criticized you today, Dad will always love you
The most unbearable thing for children is not to be loved
As a result, children will never admit their mistakes
Parents become their children’s unconditional trust and unconditional dependence
correct
Find your child’s highlights
Don't pay attention to the dark side
Courageously express love and appreciation for children
Sense of value: determines how high a child can fly
Sense of worth and high level of self-esteem
Realize that your life is valuable
No one has a sense of value
Comparisons reduce feelings of value
Enhance sense of value
Let children share household chores
Take care of others' emotions
Able to realize that what you do is valuable
Realize that you can change yourself and the people around you through study and work
The higher the self-discipline, the higher the level of self-esteem
High level of self-esteem - easy to manage children
Interaction - positive - boosts self-esteem
The more problems you give your child, the more serious the problem will be.
Addicted - because I can't discipline myself
Despite the disappointment - he is my child, so he should have hope and help his child develop a sense of value.
Ignite a sense of worth
Find highlights and offer praise (do not use material rewards)
Praise children’s spiritual core
When a child behaves correctly one after another
The sense of value will increase
Tell your children that with self-discipline, the efficiency of doing things will immediately increase a lot.
Tell your child regularly what he can do, and he will really be able to do it.
"Positive Discipline": If you think your child is in difficulty, it must be because the violation method is wrong.
Forget your identity and grow up with your children
Express expectations without sarcasm or sarcasm
As long as you don't get weird and criticize Huaihuai, that's fine
Develop good habits for lifelong growth
When parents grow up, children will grow up
Behind the virtues is a growth mindset
You have the ability and willingness to do things, but with a fixed mindset, it will be difficult to do things.
Real relaxation comes when one can learn from past setbacks
Positive language interaction-have a growth mindset
mistake:
Doing things to prove: such as taking exams
Children feel that learning is just to prove themselves
correct:
Dare to try anything
Other people’s evaluations are not important. What matters to me is: have I learned and made progress?
Why give up your own happiness because of other people's eyes?
Absorbing every nutrient in life all the time is learning
Don't worry about being unhappy
focus on process
Laws and methods of lifelong growth
1. Establish a sense of belonging and worth
I'm here to help you, not to grade you
2. Learn to praise
Praising the process and motivation is never the result
You can practice, keep practicing to change
Parents should emphasize learning from the process and experience, rather than results and rankings, emphasizing that children are not smart enough
Learn a growth mindset and allow for mistakes and setbacks
If we only focus on shortcomings, mistakes, and risks, we will not be able to enjoy life.
Enjoy parent-child life instead of being picky.
Recognize yourself well and find a little bit of happiness in your knowledge
You can choose between vicious cycle and virtuous cycle
Hold the remote control yourself