MindMap Gallery Lifelong Growth Reading Notes
The content of the book includes understanding of two thinking modes, practical verification of the two thinking modes, pseudo-growth thinking mode, and establishing and cultivating your own growth thinking mode.
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"Lifelong Growth"
Book content (induction method)
1. Recognize two modes of thinking (induction method)
fixed mindset
basic concepts
Believe that your talents are immutable, or that certain abilities are difficult to obtain through hard work
social performance
Educationally
Like to do simple projects, deliberately avoid difficult projects, or challenging projects, worried that they are not smart enough
Kids jigsaw puzzle
English test at the University of Hong Kong
If this course cannot prove students’ intelligence, it cannot mention students’ hobbies.
Cheating or lying about your grades to get good grades
Teachers like to arrange seats according to IQ
Teachers believe most students’ grades won’t change in a year
This kid is born with no talent, so I don't want to waste too much time
One test determines life
It’s easy to give up efforts when you fail in an exam. You are too fragile. The more you take the exam, the worse you get, and your grades plummet.
My own math test for my sophomore year in high school
Vocational aptitude test in society
When you are stressed before a test, reassure students by saying, "We all know you are smart, and we believe you will succeed."
Link test results to personal intelligence
Unable to concentrate on exam
Misinterpreting the meaning of the tortoise and the hare
Only those who lack talent need to work hard
When talent fails, hard work will pay off.
Spread that the success of Edison, Michael Jordan, Mozart, and Beethoven is all due to talent
Fixed learning methods, rote memorization
Believe that a person's early performance can reveal his talent and future
Since childhood, I have been concerned about whether I am smart enough.
Inertial (stereotyped) thinking about women
Women cannot learn mathematics, physics and chemistry well
Disgusted by the ease with which women can master programming
I studied very hard, worked very hard, and mastered it very well, but I couldn't do it when it came to the exam.
The evaluation of his performance put him under a lot of mental pressure and he was unable to concentrate on the exam.
What is the perfect example of a successful student?
Perfection cannot be achieved through hard work.
Genius, child prodigy, good health, good at sports, good at studies, born with certain talents.
Perfect stereotypes disrupt their thinking and hinder their progress
When parents set fixed-mindset goals for their children (the parents’ ideal son or daughter), the children will show rebellious psychology.
These goals suppress children’s interests, personalities, desires, and values
It also doesn’t leave room for children to make mistakes and show themselves.
Lower educational standards to allow students to experience success and increase confidence
It is counterproductive and can only produce students with insufficient education, who can only do simple jobs and think they are arrogant.
Competitive sports
Everyone in competition believes in talent
Competition emphasizes individual talent and likes to blame failures and mistakes on the environment and others.
Don't know how to face failure
Geniuses don’t analyze their flaws and compensate for them through training and practice
Many coaches and scouts look for natural athletes
Whether you are good at sports depends on your natural talent
Sports teams recruit athletes at high prices
People recognize the talent of athletes more than the hard work they put in
Golfers cannot do physical training. If they increase their physical strength, they will lose their touch.
Facing the coach’s discipline, it is easy to accept the influence of negative feedback
Definition of success: establishing one's own superiority.
The players are not allowed to make mistakes. When they make mistakes, the coach often motivates the players in a disrespectful way.
Swear words
intimidation
Constantly belittling team members
Get used to lying on the hotbed of victory, thinking that you can keep winning
business/enterprise
Vulnerable to CEO Syndrome: Strong Self-Awareness
The tendency to want to stand on a pedestal and look perfect
I like to be admired by others and don’t like to be questioned by others.
Likes compliments from subordinates or colleagues (flattery)
Subordinate employees who provide negative feedback will be fired or have their wages deducted.
Especially don’t like negative feedback
Suppress or block certain employees who have constructive opinions
No other employees are allowed to be more talented than him
Not promoting the development of subordinates
Hindering company innovation and development
Unwilling to admit mistakes in front of investors and the public
Talent-first mindset or corporate culture
Just like sports, there are also natural business talents in business.
Typical example: Enron Corporation
leadership
Believe that people are divided into good and bad
Constantly confirm that you are at an excellent level
Excessive concern about whether one is "great"
Difficulty working in a team, prefers to work alone
When there is no way out, they will drag the company with them to death.
Use certain means to cover up the failure of your business (such as short-term strategic development companies)
General staff
Fraudulent for work success
Fake News Case: Janet Cook wins Pulitzer Prize for fabricating story about 8-year-old boy taking drugs
Securities false trading case
Although I work hard, I am more willing to accept promotions and salary increases without any effort.
groupthink
concept
It means that people tend to think unanimously during the team decision-making process, and no one raises objections or adopts a critical attitude.
Can easily lead to disastrous decisions
How did it appear
When a group becomes obsessed with its own sense of superiority.
When leaders with a fixed mindset are keen on punishing dissenters.
Leaders are regarded by their subordinates as saints who never make mistakes
A group that believes it has special gifts and rights
Leaders reinforce themselves and suppress dissent
In order to gain recognition from leaders, employees
Companies with a fixed mindset (genius culture)
Employees are more willing to change jobs
Unwillingness to support employees in taking risks and innovating
Employees believe unfair, unethical behavior is widespread in the company
cheat
The act of taking shortcuts
Companies often keep secrets
Low level of teamwork
Internal strife (internal friction) is serious
More willing to believe that employees have good management skills
socially
sexual relations
Criteria for an ideal partner
1. Put him on the altar
2. Make him feel perfect
3. Like to worship your partner
When faced with labeling and abandonment by a partner, one hopes to hurt the other person in revenge
revenge is sweet
The most ideal love is instant, perfect and eternal harmony
Emphasis on destiny, the right one
fairy tale love
If you need to work hard for love, it means it is destined not to belong to you
I believe that couples should be on the same page without communication.
Unanimous opinions on everything, even a small disagreement will be considered a big threat
If you find your partner's flaws in some aspects, you will look down on the other person and feel dissatisfied with the relationship.
Turn a blind eye to the problems that arise in the relationship between the sexes and refuse to face and solve them
There are no good men in the world
Choosing a partner is about finding faults
Lovers develop into enemies
Affirm yourself
Always blaming the other person for their faults
I am a good person
forgive each other
Deny yourself, think you are wrong, and be labeled negatively
i am a bad person
black and white
It’s easy to get into a competitive relationship with your partner
Want to show off your ability in front of your partner, or even surpass your partner
friendship relationship
Likes to be with people who can protect their self-esteem
For example, the movie "Venom"
The worse you are, the better I feel about myself
Friends become a tool to confirm your own worth
About shyness
Worry that others will put you down and feel embarrassed
Shyness can hinder the development of friendships and romantic relationships
Not willing to interact with people whose social skills are better than your own
When communicating with others, try to avoid eye contact
When communicating with the opposite sex
Or try your best to show how cool, handsome, smart, brave, etc. you are
Either avoid making a fool of yourself and try to exclude the other person, acting extremely cold and indifferent.
Unable to show off one's own strengths, confirm one's own value, lack of self-confidence
From
Personal personality (summary)
Believe that risk and effort will expose one's own shortcomings and prove that one is not capable enough to complete certain tasks
Success means the need to prove one's intelligence, talent, and worth
Frustration means failure
Making excuses or blaming others for failure
Likes to cover up one's shortcomings
Thinking that if you are smart enough, you don’t need to work hard
Failure transforms from an act into an identity
Confident, but fragile
Inaccurate assessment of one's own performance and abilities
two extremes
Either feel good about yourself
Either you are not confident or do not believe in your own abilities
Too concerned about other people’s personal evaluations
Strive to express your talents or talents in a certain aspect of life, and desire to be praised and recognized by others
narcissism
Like to be immersed in the glory of glory
Very susceptible to negative comments from others
When facing unsatisfactory life, they will belittle themselves, like to label themselves, and act too pessimistic and have low self-esteem.
Unwilling to try and work hard to break through and solve problems
Later, I will be more willing to find things to do that can improve my happiness.
For example: playing games, eating a big meal or doing nothing, etc.
perfectionist
Don’t care about the future. To be perfect, demand that the present is perfect enough.
Peak thinking, always wanting to be the best or first
Always want to prove that you are special, even superior to others
The distortion of self-esteem: if you succeed, you are better than others and can humiliate them and make them grovel.
The biggest question: How do you define yourself when you’re not successful?
Discrimination
Failure may be permanent and it is easy to define yourself
Michelin chef Bernard. Loiseau commits suicide
Not learning from failures and correcting their own failures, but also trying to repair their own self-esteem.
Find someone worse than yourself
More likely to have high levels of depression, which is difficult to treat
"I could have..." mantra
Unable to translate efforts into actual actions
Success means being the best version of yourself, rather than forcing others to do so; failure is just an opportunity, not a death sentence; hard work is the key to success.
Treat the results as the value of life
Easily believe in other people’s opinions (blind obedience)
Stereotype
Creates a judgmental inner monologue
"I'm a stupid loser"
social phenomena
Stereotype
racism
Stereotype that African Americans are intellectually inferior
caste discrimination
Indian caste system
Stereotypes left on humans due to historical reasons
Sexism
Women are worse than men
school violence
Bullies bully students to establish their own worth and importance
The bullied bear the burden of humiliation
Develops a revenge mentality against bullies and is more willing to use violence to retaliate
Mental depression, even suicide
"Sadness flows like river"
typical person
Lee Aikeda
Wanted to stay as Ford CEO but was kicked out of the company by Henry Ford
The president of Chrysler Motors, from saving the company to building his own reputation to falling into mediocrity
Reject creative ideas from subordinates
Sparking competition for American business titles
Scott Paper and Shangbin Company
albert dunlap
Sell the company and call it "rescue"
AOL and Time Warner
Jerry Levine
Enron
Jeffrey Skisson
Kenneth Lay
spread of thinking patterns
Educationally
Praise and affirmation tags
You are so smart!
You are so talented!
You are simply a genius!
You will definitely become an outstanding politician!
You are the little piano prince!
hear
genius
talent
little piano prince
Outstanding
Afraid of losing such label and affirmation
Praising children for their intelligence can damage their motivation and performance
become a slave to praise
Wow! You did it so fast!
look! You didn't make any mistakes!
Emphasis on speed and perfection
Speed and perfection are the biggest enemies of hard study
negative tag
Stereotype that African Americans are intellectually inferior
The stereotype is that women cannot learn mathematics, physics and chemistry
Unfortunately, he is disabled
Stereotype
As long as you are African American you have a low IQ.
Because you are a woman, you must not be able to learn mathematics, physics and chemistry.
Disabled people do not have a happy life or should not have a happy life
Fear is exactly what the negative label says it is
"Other people's children"
Look how talented and smart your Xiao Ming is, what about you?
I'm not as smart as Xiao Ming, I'm stupid.
Give yourself a negative label
I may be born stupid, or Xiaoming may be born smart
Innate intelligence, or natural talent.
Look at Ah Hua next door, how stupid he is, he always comes last in exams! Don't imitate him.
label others
Improve yourself by laughing at others
school violence thoughts
Am I the next Ahua?
When encountering failure
"You are always the best!"
Not having a clear understanding of oneself
Didn't understand the current situation
"This competition (evaluation) is unfair!"
escape from reality
blaming others or environmental conditions
“The sport is inherently unimportant.”
Negative goals, ideals.
It’s not that I can’t do it well, it’s that the thing itself is not good at it.
Sour grapes
Avoidant constructive criticism will not help children build self-confidence, but will jeopardize their future.
Set goals for children with a fixed mindset
These goals suppress children’s interests, personalities, desires, and values
It also doesn’t leave room for children to make mistakes and show themselves.
Enterprise
Talent-oriented corporate culture
Forcing employees to work hard to express themselves and enter a fixed mindset
Unwillingness to admit shortcomings at work and make corrections
A wave of competition for business titles
Don’t aim at corporate development, focus on building your personal reputation
Leader mindset
Create a corporate culture with a fixed mindset
Further assimilate employees
"If a soldier is frightened, he will frighten a whole group of soldiers."
The meaning or impact of thinking patterns
It will limit people's achievements, fill people's minds with distracting information, make people disdain efforts, destroy learning strategies, and turn others into judges instead of peers.
Easily harmed by stereotypes, which imprison their thoughts and affect their ability to develop
Social discrimination caused by stereotypes
racism
Sexism
It is easy for people to lack a sense of belonging
growth mindset
basic concepts
I believe that many abilities can be acquired through hard work
social performance
Educationally
Summarize mistakes and reflect on them, thinking that mistakes are opportunities for learning and opportunities to improve personal abilities.
I don’t believe that one test can determine the future
I believe that the level of intelligence is not certain and can be improved through learning.
Set high standards for all students or children (appropriate)
Educate students on how to strive to meet standards
Treat students with good and bad grades equally
Have a scientific learning method that suits you and constantly improve, innovate and adjust
When you're stressed before a test, reassure students by saying, "We won't judge your test results. We'll just be happy if you show off what you've worked so hard to master."
Exam results are not important, what is important is the mastery of learning
concentration test
What is the perfect example of a successful student?
The main goal of a successful student is to expand his knowledge and expand his way of thinking and exploring the world.
The perfect example of a successful student focuses as much on knowledge itself as on its effective use. They want to contribute to society.
Try to get closer to your goals and motivate them
Establish an image of growth mindset for children
Give your children a goal to strive for
Give children space to grow
Encourage them to contribute to society in the way they like
Competitive sports
I like challenges. The greater the challenge, the greater the room for growth.
Case: Patricia. Miranda's journey from wrestler to Yale Law School
Michael Jordan: Mental toughness and determination are stronger and more powerful than anything physical.
The World’s Fastest Woman: Wilma Rudolph went from being born prematurely with paralyzed lower legs (polio) to the fastest runner through physical therapy
Tiger Woods has physical training plans and exercises in golf and has won various championships.
"Sports Business" Thought
Skills are the result of learning through curiosity and hard work
"Character Thoughts"
The ability to tap and find strength when things go against expectations
can be learned
How to focus under pressure and perform at a super level when necessary
Definition of success: from doing things to the best of your ability, from learning and self-improvement
Success lies in change
In the face of the coach's admonishment, he selectively accepts and listens to the shortcomings, and lets the bad words go in one ear and out the other.
The coach respects each player, corrects the players' thinking patterns, and helps the players solve problems
Treat all team members equally
Value failure, be brooding about failure, and look for opportunities for improvement in failure
commercially
Keep learning and work hard to be competent at work
Choose a long-term development plan to lay a healthy foundation for the company
leader characteristics
Be humble, have the courage to keep asking questions, and have the ability to face cruel reality. You should still maintain faith in the face of reality and believe that you will succeed in the end.
Don’t always want to prove that you are better than others
Will continue to try to learn and make progress
Don’t emphasize that you are at the top of the pyramid
Find or surround yourself with the most capable people
Will not take credit from others
Will not deliberately belittle others to show one's strength
on the contrary
Will find capable people from around and work around leaders
Take a close look at your mistakes and shortcomings, and honestly ask yourself and the company what skills you need.
Enterprises are not a tool to highlight their superiority, but an engine or platform to promote growth.
Actively communicate with front-line employees, listen to their ideas and discuss the development of the company together
For enterprises, the most important thing is development, not personal importance.
Companies with a growth mindset (development culture)
Employees have a stronger sense of trust in the company
Employees have a higher level of empowerment and sense of ownership
Employees are willing to take on more responsibilities
Reasonable support for risk-taking and innovative behavior
Pay attention to the teamwork spirit of employees
socially
sexual relations
Criteria for an ideal partner
1. I hope my partner can point out his shortcomings and help correct them.
2. Push him to become a better person
3. Encourage your partner to learn new things
When faced with labeling and abandonment by your partner, choose to understand, forgive, and move on with your life
People who know what people are like will be more suitable for you. In every relationship, you will understand yourself better and learn things that are useful to you.
Love relationships can grow and change
I believe that a healthy and long-term relationship between the sexes requires the efforts of both parties and the inevitable differences between the two parties.
Discover each other's shortcomings in certain aspects, and will try their best to support each other and work together
Give each other room to express themselves and develop
Partners are helping each other do what they want to do, be who each other wants to be, and encourage each other to achieve their goals.
Summarize
Personal personality (summary)
Able to accurately assess own abilities and performance
Have a spirit of perseverance and perseverance
Believe that ability can change the world, you need to improve yourself, learn new knowledge and develop your talents
Believe that the key to success is learning and that difficulties and setbacks mean they are opportunities for growth
Believe that failure does not define life, but is simply a problem to be solved or an opportunity to grow
Achieve the impossible by greatly improving your abilities
actor christopher. Reeve, who at least broke his neck and was paralyzed, worked hard to recover and establish new body signals to stand up.
Failure to reach your goals and reach your full potential means failure
Although I suffer from depression, I can still work normally and take measures to fight depression and get out of it.
Appreciating talent is just the starting point, but admiring hard work is even more important
Focus on and love your own career and don’t care about social evaluation. Even if you encounter difficulties, your love will not change.
There is no peak thought, but you can achieve the peak
Take the meaning of doing something as the value of life
You don’t always have self-confidence. Even if you don’t have self-confidence, you will still work hard to achieve it.
There will also be an inner monologue, but it has nothing to do with the surrounding comments and is more focused on what can be learned.
Social phenomenon
school violence
Believe that the perpetrator has mental problems and needs to satisfy his or her self-esteem through bullying
More willing to talk to the abuser, solve the problem, and forgive them
spread of thinking patterns
1. Praise and affirmation labels
So glad you put in the effort!
Wow! You must have worked hard to achieve such an achievement!
effort! come on! I think you will do better!
Although you have talent, I prefer the effort you put into it.
You have been working hard at fitness, no wonder you have such a good figure.
Wow, you can now get all the wrong questions right. You are so awesome!
Ouch~ You see these questions are too simple. Let’s do some other questions together where we can learn more.
Championships only belong to those who work hard. Let me see what you did to win the championship?
hear
effort
potential
Perseverance
challenge
2. When faced with no good results (failure)
I know you have put a lot of effort into this, now let's take a look, where is the problem, and let's solve it, okay?
Everyone has their own learning curve, you may not have found it yet, so try more and find your own learning curve.
constructive guidance
Constructive: Help your child make up for something and create a better situation.
3. Thinking model seminar
4. Brain science project
5. Lectures on thinking patterns
Spread the word by learning a growth mindset
Typical example
Edison
invention of light bulb
Michael Jordan
Efforts under the title of flying man
mozart
10 years of cumulative performance
Tiger Wood
Hole-in-one brought about by constant training
darwin
"The Origin of Species"
Danziger
An anecdote from the father of "Linear Programming"
Solving unsolved problems in mathematics
Alan Worzel
Debate and questions from the CEO, board and team of US electrical chain giant Electric City
General Electric Company
Jack Welch
Correct employees’ thinking patterns
Open communication channels between superiors and subordinates
Cancel Elite Club
Present team awards
Redefine company values
IBM
Louis Gerstner
Correct employees’ thinking patterns
Open communication channels between superiors and subordinates
Fighting elitism
Disband the department with the best rights
Open the door wide
Teamwork
Crack down on employees who like to play power games and engage in intrigues
Reward colleagues who like to help
After negotiating the contract, continue to pay attention to the customer's needs and feedback
Xerox Corporation
Anne Mulcahy
Turn on learning mode
Learned debt, inventory, taxation, and funds from scratch to provide reference value for future decisions.
Tough style, coldly and clearly telling employees the reality of the company
Throw a party for retired employees and organize a reunion.
The meaning of thinking patterns
Interests and hobbies will not be affected by increasing challenges. Interests and challenges complement each other.
It can help people realize that the essence of prejudice is only what others think of them, so that their own abilities and self-confidence can be combated without affecting their own abilities and self-confidence.
It allows people to fully develop their brains even if they are labeled negatively.
It doesn’t make people full of limited thinking, has a weak sense of belonging, and doesn’t worry about others defining themselves.
Rewards promote a shift toward a growth mindset as the praised generation enters the workforce
A growth mindset can help people learn more efficiently
2. Practical verification of two thinking models (deductive method)
Research on thinking patterns and management decision-making
It shows that the two modes of thinking have a great impact on business.
Fixed mindset creates Enron-type managers
Growth mindset creates Worzel-type managers
A study of group behavior
Fixed mindset group members are overly concerned about who is smarter and who is stupider, or are worried that their plans will be rejected
Not a team player
Group members with a growth mindset express their opinions and honest thoughts when making decisions, and openly disagree with certain opinions.
Strong team awareness and win-win cooperation
Are negotiation skills innate?
A growth mindset can not only bring you favorable results in negotiations, but can also come up with a more creative solution that satisfies the interests of both parties.
Mutual benefit, win-win cooperation
Are management skills innate?
Many management trainings are very ineffective
Training does not convey a growth mindset
Characteristics of managers with a growth mindset
Managers should be passionate about training employees and love learning, be willing to give and receive feedback, and be able to face and overcome difficulties
An environment filled with a growth mindset
Let employees know that abilities can be learned and improved
What companies value most is learning ability and perseverance, not ready-made talents and talents
Give employees positive feedback and increase their enthusiasm for learning
Let employees know that managers can be their learning resources and tools
Are leadership qualities innate?
Leaders are made, not born
Not everyone can be a leader
Most managers become bosses rather than leaders
Many administrators receive initial training
Stop learning when you have learned a certain skill
The learning process is inherently cumbersome, and you won’t see results in a short period of time.
I prefer to simply do my current job
Create an organization that rewards the development of capabilities, and leaders will emerge.
3. Pseudo-growth mindset
1. Call some of your favorite strengths a growth mindset
Immerse yourself in your own personal abilities, but fail to successfully develop your own abilities or those of your children and students.
2. The growth mindset only focuses on hard work and emphasizes praising the efforts of others.
Only thinking about relying on your own efforts = success and not trying new strategies or listening to other people's opinions
Praise empty (ineffective) efforts. There is no effort in the first place, but you should also praise the efforts or comfort.
Although you work hard but do not do well in the exam, you should not be praised. Instead, you should give constructive suggestions or find problems.
Praising the process of hard work needs to be related to the results, and not praising efforts without results.
3. Believe that a growth mindset can achieve anything
3. Establish and cultivate your own growth mindset
Step one: Recognize and accept a few facts
1. Differences between people
There are differences in genes, and individuals are gifted in certain areas.
Certain skills can be acquired through learning and practice
2. Thinking patterns are part of nature, but they are not fixed and can be changed.
3. The thinking mode is different from the thing to the person, and what kind of thinking mode is used when doing things in certain fields.
What kind of thinking mode you use to do things will determine the development and results of things.
4. People will have two modes of thinking at the same time
Have different thinking patterns when facing different things or at different time periods
5. Not all efforts can succeed. Some people can succeed without working hard.
For example, the second generation of rich people have a lot of social resources.
batman
Efforts need to be adapted to one's own social resources
Act within your capabilities
6. There is no absolute right or wrong between the two modes of thinking. The key is how you choose.
You can choose a fixed mindset, but you have to consider the disadvantages
For example, choosing a career
A growth mindset does not force the pursuit of something, but focuses more on the expansion of abilities or skills.
7. Changing your thinking model does not mean changing everything about yourself.
Changing the growth mindset depends on meaning and value
Fixed mindset prevents people from developing and changing
8. Having a growth mindset does not necessarily mean you will become outstanding.
But unexpected things will happen
You will perform better if you use hobbies as a guide
9. The transmission of growth mindset is not something that comes naturally.
Thoughts were of a growth mindset, but actions showed characteristics of a fixed mindset
Parents or teachers become anxious when their children encounter setbacks
Teachers focus on rote memorization of concepts rather than allowing students to understand them in depth
10. New beliefs will exist alongside old beliefs. As new beliefs become stronger, you will gain new ways of thinking and processing.
Cognitive therapy can change beliefs
The main purpose of cognitive therapy is to teach people to control their extreme judgmental behavior and allow people to deal with judgment more rationally
Get out of a world that likes to judge yourself
Step 2: Observe how your fixed mindset is triggered?
It may be that you are facing a huge new challenge (stress)
Maybe it’s when you’re fighting for something but hit a dead end (no clue)
When you encounter a huge change
lose job
lovelorn
When you meet more people who are better than you in a certain field that you are proud of
during a grade exam
During an important project meeting
When you procrastinate at work or study
When you are embarrassed to talk to others at a party
Step Three: Name the Fixed Mindset Personality
Visualize fixed mindset
My second personality: He Jinxi
Step 4: Educate your alter ego
Accept your alter ego and let it join you on your growth mindset journey
Your second personality (fixed mindset) originally existed to protect you and make you feel safe.
Step 5: Learn and help learn
1. Set growth goals
2. Summarize the performance of your two thinking modes
3. Develop a plan to achieve your goals
4. Plan implementation and integrate into life
Personal summary
aphorism
1. If one person can learn something, then everyone else in the world can also learn it, as long as they have the appropriate learning conditions before and now.
2. Tests can only explain the current status, but cannot tell the future status.
3. When a company’s leaders make themselves, rather than the company’s current situation, the top priority for their employees, the company is bound to become mediocre, or worse.
4. True confidence comes from your mindset: be prepared to face cruel reality and grow.
5. If the outstanding employees in our company are in deep distress because of the mistakes they have made, then my job is to help them come out.
Judgmental thinking patterns
You have a certain level of intelligence, but it's hard for you to change it
agree
fixed mindset
not agree
growth mindset
Two kinds of thinking in life
1. Is Cao Cao's "knowing his mistakes, correcting them, and not admitting them" a fixed mindset?
2. What are the figures or events in Chinese history with two modes of thinking?
fixed mindset
growth mindset
3. How do the two modes of thinking manifest themselves in your life?
books mentioned in this book
"From Good to Great"
"Creative Habits"
"Cultivating the Next Generation of Leaders"
"Evil Boss"
"Who said elephants can't dance"
"Emotional Intelligence"
Personally recommended books
"Cognitive Nature"
About the nature of learning and the correct method
"Inferiority and Transcendence"
positive psychology
"Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience"
positive psychology
"Replicable Leadership"
Improve leadership
"Antifragile"
How to profit from difficult situations
"Prepare"
Give children the right education
It can be used as a supplement and expansion to the content of "Lifelong Growth"
The mission of this book
What kind of book is this?
This is a psychological book
What problem does this book solve?
By understanding and changing (or establishing correct) thinking patterns, we can live a positive and happy life with a correct outlook on life.
How scientific is this book?
This book has a certain scientific nature. It summarizes the rules of the two modes of thinking through induction, and then uses deduction to verify the rules.
shortcomings
Unable to verify instance content of deduction method
This book does not provide actual data that can be actually queried or accessed.
The case analysis is too general and too concise
Therefore, a large number of cases are used to make up for it (induction method)
Two modes of thinking
growth mindset
success
Expect success, regard success as the result of hard work, and affirm hard work
Success is to prove hard work
Self-ability assessment
Often able to assess one's own strengths and weaknesses more accurately
failure or setback
Failure to reach your goals or not fully stimulating your potential (not fully working hard) means failure.
Face failure or setbacks squarely. Failure means that this is an opportunity to work hard and requires more effort and courage to challenge.
Will not make excuses for failure, will objectively analyze failure and find reasons
Failure is only temporary, you will eventually succeed
in love
There is no “perfect” requirement for a partner
Partners need to communicate and work together to continuously develop a harmonious relationship.
See the shortcomings of your partner Jane, point them out to each other, and guide them to make progress together
In a failed love relationship, both parties will express understanding and relief
Love: Both parties work together and encourage each other to strive for their goals.
effort
Definitely talented, but more willing to work hard to achieve success
evaluate
Don’t care too much about the comments around you
Pay attention to negative reviews, dig out available information, and find opportunities to work hard.
self-confidence
You may not necessarily have self-confidence, but you will still have the courage to try and have strong antifragility.
self-esteem
Build your own self-esteem through recognition of your own efforts
shy
Once alive, second time shameless.
fixed mindset
success
Desire for success, regard success as a manifestation of one's own talent and self-worth, and affirm one's own talents and talents
Success is to prove yourself (ability)
Self-ability assessment
Unable to accurately assess oneself and often overestimates oneself
failure or setback
Encountering difficulties, obstacles or setbacks means failure
Fear of failure, believing that failure, challenges and risks will expose one's own inadequacies and fail to prove oneself
Make excuses for failure and cover up your lack of ability
Failure transforms from an act into an identity
Failure is destined for life
in love
You must require your partner to have a "perfect" image
Believes that partners are spiritually connected and do not need to communicate or work hard
Look down on each other because of the inadequacy of the partner and feel dissatisfied with the relationship
Failed love can turn lovers into enemies
Love: One-sided dedication makes a person successful
effort
Hard work means no talent, talent, and is what losers should do
evaluate
I care a lot about the comments around me
Facing negative reviews
Acting very angry, angry
Label yourself and realize your self-destruction
self-confidence
Confident, but fragile
self-esteem
Build or protect one's self-esteem by commenting on or showing off the low abilities of those around you
shy
Shyness due to lack of confidence due to fear of not being able to express one's talents or abilities