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What is the essence that binds us?
1. Family bondage
Preface
In our thousands of cultures, history has changed and dynasties have changed, but the family system has never changed. In a small family, parents are the authority. Therefore, when most people grow up, they feel that their lives are arranged step by step by their parents. They must obey their instructions in everything, and their parents must give them advice on everything. It is not okay if they do not follow what they say.
Why get rid of family ties?
Your parents are using their experience of their time to guide your life in this time. When you inherit your parents’ experience and enter the society, you are like an illiterate walking in modern society. You don’t know anything. Everything is equivalent to starting from scratch for a newborn. So you will feel slower than others and there is a big gap between you and others.
Of course, your parents have the ability to guide your life, so treat the following as if I didn’t say it.
What are the effects of family constraints?
Growing up in such a family environment will gradually form a state of pleasing others, living in compliance with the wishes of parents, relatives, and friends. There will be a strong sense of insecurity, no subjective thinking and judgment of one's own, unconfidence, sensitivity, and pessimism. , self-denial.
For children, from the moment they are born, they are burdened with debts that cannot be repaid throughout their lives. They are burdened with the thought of repaying debts and repaying kindness. They can never straighten up, and they can never be independent and equal.
In reality, parents do not have the ability to guide life
Why do parents think this way?
In China's traditional filial piety culture and the concepts instilled by parents, parents provide food, clothing and schooling for their children, which is a kind of upbringing. Therefore, children must repay the kindness. Parents are their children's natural creditors. People are products of the environment. Your parents, grandparents, and ancestors have come this way for generations. It is not surprising that they have this kind of thinking.
Why do parents have the original urge to "intervene and guide you"?
rational perspective
For thousands of years, the small-scale peasant economy and small-scale peasant ideas have been very stable. Although dynasties have changed, the production and economic model has never changed. The eldest person in a family has the highest status because they live a long time and have rich experience in specific matters. When the environment is stable, the richer the experience, the higher the accuracy. Based on this, they believe that their life experience can help you.
perceptual perspective
You are the continuation of their lives, and they have a natural love for you. From their perspective: you are him, and loving you means loving him. But when this kind of love goes too far, it will lead to a kind of monster: control.
biological perspective
It is an obsession rooted in genes, based on the love parents have for their children.
psychological perspective
You are an extension of them, just like their limbs. Parents want their limbs to be obedient, and their investment, care and love for their limbs will bring them rewards. Your parents do not regard you as an independent individual with the same status as themselves, but as a child who will not grow up.
Are the parents of most people in contemporary society really capable of guiding their children?
The faster society changes, the less useful concrete experience becomes. Your parents are using their experience of their time to guide your life in this time. When you inherit your parents’ experience and enter the society, you are like an illiterate walking in modern society. You don’t know anything. Everything is equivalent to starting from scratch for a newborn. So you will feel slower than others, and there is a big gap between you and others
Give some incredible examples
Food stamps were not canceled until 1992
After 2002, the supply of goods gradually became more abundant.
It took 12 years for people’s income to generally increase
Only after 13 years did mobile phones become popular and popular
Douyin only started to slowly become popular in 2018
The epidemic didn’t start until New Year’s Day
In a certain sense, your parents have only lived a good life for twenty years. The development in these twenty years is beyond your parents' understanding.
Does your family of origin really constrain you?
Times are changing too fast. Parents do not have the ability to guide life, but they still have to interfere or demand. Do you think this is the deepest essence of family bondage?
If your parents have the ability to guide your life and provide you with support and help in life and work, do you still think that your family is a constraint on you?
Thinking questions
Do you think your parents realize that their behavior is controlling and restricting you?
When you were a child, you may often hear your parents say: That guy next door, you always come first in the exam, why do you always fail to meet the standards? I spent money to send you to school, provide you with food, and provide you with clothing, will you repay me with this? ?
If you have good grades, you are obedient and polite, and you know how to say hello to everyone, making them look good. If you have bad grades, you always cause trouble, and make them unable to hold their heads high.
They don't feel that their demands and discipline on you are restraint and control; they feel that they are for your own good. Because most parents think of you as part of them, rather than as a truly independent and equal individual, this is the deeper nature of family bondage.
Parents do not regard their children as independent individuals with the same status as themselves. Is this the deepest essence of family bondage?
Knock on the blackboard
The deepest bondage of the family is the emotional concept.
Parents' emotions and love for their children are very complex. It is different from all forms of love. All love moves toward integration, while only the love between parents and children moves toward independence and separation.
You can become an independent individual and form a new independent family. This is the greatest love of parents from a good native family.
Whether you can realize this is not a difference in ability or IQ, but a difference in concepts. If you don't understand this concept, when you have children in the future, you may follow the same path as parents.
Children are never part of their parents, but people with independent and equal status as their parents. You have your own independent life, and you will have an independent new family in the future. The love between parents and children will eventually lead to independence and separation.
What is the nature of family bondage?
The deepest essence of family bondage is the concept of ideas, the love of parents and children, and ultimately the concept of separation and independence. Not only your parents, but also yourself, do not have this concept. What you have to do is not to change your parents’ ideas, but to change your own
Why lift family ties?
Give a chestnut
"The Way of Heaven" Ding Yuanying
The knot of the traditional concept lies in the word "reliance". You can rely on your parents at home, rely on friends when going out, rely on God, rely on Bodhisattvas, rely on the emperor's favor... In short, you can rely on anything, but don't rely on yourself, so you can only rely on yourself spiritually. Kneeling.
"Lend Me Your Life" Yu Qiuyu
The road of life must be walked step by step on your own. What can truly protect you is your own personality and cultural choices.
Only by lifting the ideological shackles of the original family can the real shackles of the original family be lifted.
The idea of "waiting and hoping" means that you regard yourself as weak, which will make you lose independent thinking and innovation, lose the ability to solve problems independently, and lose the ability to think.
How to break the bonds of family?
Release the shackles of thought, become truly independent, and get rid of the need to wait for everyone;
Release the constraints of reality. If parents are not capable of guiding life, stop listening to their suggestions and requests;
Find competent guides.
Be an apprentice
Everyone likes to be a mentor. If your piety and hard work are seen by the boss, he is willing to accept you as his disciple, which is the fastest way to get into the circle;
Buying courses, paying for consultation, etc. are all basic methods. Whether it is taking the postgraduate entrance examination, working in a related company, or being an apprentice with someone to guide you, it is the smoothest and most convenient way to enter the industry.
Bring "art" into the circle
Not everyone is lucky enough to meet a big boss, and not everyone they know can successfully join the circle. Another way is that you have a skill, and this ability is exactly what that circle needs.
"Supply-side thinking" means that you have to share, output value, and increase potential energy by creating value for others, thereby becoming an important part of the circle. Great people are those who can not only achieve themselves, but also achieve everyone.
4. Economic constraints
Preface
Economic constraints do not mean that you have no money, but that you do not understand the most basic economic and world operating laws at all.
An impressive line from an impressive movie
The landlord said: "When we get to Shaanxi and get established, it will be easier. I know how to turn from a poor man into a rich man. In less than ten years, I will still be your boss. We will come back then." The long-term worker said, "Okay." Ah, boss, I will work as a permanent employee for you when the time comes!
Facing the same situation, everyone feels differently
Passerby A: Thank you sir, I finally don’t have to worry about losing my job.
Passerby B: Why can you always be a landlord, while I can only be a long-term worker my whole life? He lived in anger and unwillingness all his life, gradually torn apart by the cruel reality and his own inaction.
Passerby C: Why is the master so confident? What is the logic behind his confidence? Can I become a master after studying?
The biggest prison in the world is the human mind. The landlord has the idea of getting rich, but the long-term worker does not.
The economic base determines the superstructure, and society is built on the economic base.
Here’s a question to think about
I give you 100 yuan and ask you to turn it into 150 yuan in one day without losing money. I believe you can do it.
I give you 10,000 yuan and ask you to turn it into 15,000 yuan within a month without losing money. I believe you can do it.
I give you 1 million yuan and ask you to turn it into 1.5 million yuan within half a year without losing money. Can you still do it?
If you are given 10 million yuan and you can turn it into 15 million yuan within a year without losing money, I believe you will most likely not be able to do it.
You can do the first two because you can do it with physical strength and energy, but you can't do the latter two because it exceeds physical strength and energy. Apart from using physical strength and energy to make money, you don't have any understanding of the operation of the economy.
some minor issues
Do you understand currency?
5 functions of money
value scale
Money is the social standard used to measure and calculate the value of all commodities. The value of a commodity expressed in currency is the price of the commodity.
means of circulation
Refers to the role of currency as a medium of exchange for goods. The exchange of commodities using money as the medium is commodity circulation. The continuous movement of money in the circulation of commodities is called currency circulation.
storage means
It refers to currency withdrawing from circulation and being preserved as a general representative of social wealth.
means of payment
It refers to the repayment function performed by currency when the payment for goods is repaid when it is due during the process of credit purchase and sale of goods, and is used to pay off debts. Functions performed to pay taxes, rents, wages, etc.
world currency
It means that the currency goes beyond the scope of a country and plays the role of a general equivalent in the world market.
The banknotes in use today are legal tender and a type of credit currency. But these are all external forms of currency. The real essence of currency is what others believe. The real logic of money is not that you believe it, but that others believe it.
Do you understand wealth?
What are the main real wealth of mankind?
Natural resources, such as land, minerals, natural environment, etc.
Man-made products, such as specific food, industrial products, transportation, etc.
Production capacity, including corresponding personnel organization, production technology, labor tools (production equipment), etc., is actually the bulk of the wealth of the entire society.
Fixed assets, especially long-term stable assets such as land, houses, infrastructure, etc.
What are the advantages and disadvantages of the above four types of wealth?
Natural resources and fixed assets have relatively low holding costs. However, its liquidity is poor and transactions are complex and slow.
Production capacity creates wealth quickly and efficiently, but the cost of maintaining production capacity is also high, and the cost of storing actual man-made products is also high.
Do you understand consumption?
Consumption is not just about spending money, but how to spend it. In most people's consumption concept, opportunity cost has never been considered.
What is opportunity cost?
The world's resources are scarce, and you can't have everything, so you have to make good choices. Every choice you make, there will be giving up behind it. Among the other options you give up, the highest value is the opportunity cost of this choice.
Give a chestnut
After getting married, the restaurant that Xiao Wang and his wife ran had a total annual cost of 300,000 yuan in rent, food raw materials, and some consumables. This mom-and-pop shop could earn a net profit of 200,000 yuan a year.
Do you think Xiao Wang and his wife made a profit or a loss?
Some people think that earning 200,000 yuan a year from Xiao Wang’s mom-and-pop shop is not bad.
Some people think that Xiao Wang and his wife are not making any money at all, and may even be losing money.
So do you think Xiao Wang made a profit or a loss?
Assume that if Xiao Wang and his wife do not work in restaurants but choose to work in the chef industry, their annual net income is 150,000. This is the opportunity cost of labor.
If the 300,000 yuan is not used to buy food raw materials, but is used to invest in other fields, such as banking, the one-year deposit interest rate is 2.175%, and I earn 6,500 in tears.
How much does Xiao Wang’s mom-and-pop shop really earn? The answer is: 43,500.
Knock on the blackboard
The 43,500 earned is profit, which is surplus value. The accumulation of wealth must rely on surplus value.
Really smart people will always take into account opportunity costs, which are also costs.
In an economic dilemma, not being aware of opportunity costs is only one of the constraints.
Do you understand inflation?
What is inflation?
Under the conditions of paper currency circulation, because the money supply is greater than the actual demand for money, that is, the actual purchasing power is greater than the output supply, resulting in currency depreciation, it causes a sustained and widespread rise in prices over a period of time.
List some data
In 2000, the per capita disposable income of my country's urban residents was 6,280 yuan; in 2020, the per capita disposable income of my country's urban residents was 43,834 yuan.
The per capita disposable income of urban residents in 2020 was 6.97 times that of 2000. In other words, 1,000 yuan in 2000 is equal to 6,970 yuan in 2020.
In 2000, the price of pork was roughly 2.5 yuan per catty. In 2020, the price of pork was 20 yuan per catty, which was eight times that of 2000.
According to official data, from 2012 to 2021, the average inflation rate in the past ten years was around 2.23%, but the reality is much higher. The real inflation rate should be around 6%.
What are the dangers of inflation?
Inflation will cause people to shrink their assets, reduce the purchasing power of assets, reduce income, and face unemployment and other problems. Inflation means that the supply of money is greater than the actual demand for money, and the purchasing power of money decreases, causing prices to rise continuously and generally over a period of time.
What is the impact of inflation on people with different incomes?
Inflation increases the value of goods and reduces the purchasing power of money. The rich do not rely on cash, but on fixed assets. Inflation will increase the value of these fixed assets, and the wealth of the rich will also rise.
People with middle and lower incomes do not own too many fixed assets. Whenever inflation comes, it means that the value of the paper currency in their hands declines. Their income cannot keep up with the speed of inflation, and the money in their wallets is in disguise. Devaluation and corresponding decrease in purchasing power are equivalent to disguised plundering of resources in the hands of the lower class.
Give a chestnut
Prices of various daily necessities are rising at a speed you can hardly imagine
Clothes
clothing
shoe
Pants
underwear
Food
Rice, flour, grain, oil
Melons, fruits, vegetables, vegetables
live
Commercial housing price
Rental price
OK
bus
subway
taxi
Third party travel
Do you understand investing?
What is investment?
Investment, in fact, invests in the growth of value. Value is actually the basis of investment.
Investment is a process of migrating active income to passive income.
What are active income and passive income?
Active income refers to the income obtained through our continuous labor. For example, we must go to work every day and invest our time and energy to get wages.
Passive income refers to income that can be obtained without us spending too much time and energy, such as rent, dividends, bank interest, etc.
Active income is also called "income before bed", and passive income is also called "income after bed".
What is the difference between value and price?
Price is the monetary expression of value, and value is the basis of price. The greater the value of the item, the higher the price. The smaller the value of the item, the lower the price. The price fluctuates up and down with the value, sometimes higher than the value, sometimes lower than the value, but in the long run the price is consistent with the value.
Price is a reflection of value, but sometimes price may not truly reflect value.
Air and water are one of the basic conditions for human survival, but they are not expensive or even free.
The utility of diamonds and luxury goods is very low, but their commodity prices are very high.
What are the channels and methods of investment?
stock investment
The advantage of investing in stocks is that they have higher income potential, but they also come with higher risks.
What you said downstairs is very conservative. For most people, A-shares are just like casinos, a place where the dealer kills pigs. I advise you not to enter.
Fund investment
Fund investment is a form of collective investment. By purchasing fund shares, we can hand over funds to professional fund managers for investment operations to obtain returns. The advantages of fund investment are risk diversification, professional management, and saving time and effort. When choosing a fund, we need to understand the fund's investment strategy, performance and the ability level of the fund manager.
The risk is small, the reward is small, and you can lose a lot if you encounter a black swan event.
bond investment
Bonds are another common investment avenue. By buying bonds, we lend money to businesses or governments in exchange for a fixed income. The advantage of bonds is that the risk is relatively low and the returns are stable. When choosing a bond, we need to consider the credit rating, interest rate, term and other factors of the bond.
Compared with funds, the risk is smaller and the return is lower, but it is safer and losses will occur in the event of a black swan event.
real estate investment
Real estate investment is a long-term and stable investment method. The advantages of real estate investment are stable income and asset preservation and appreciation, but you also need to pay attention to market fluctuations and policy risks.
The capital flow is large and the return cycle is long. If you fail to keep up with the policy trend, you are likely to be trapped.
Partnership to start a business and do business
extremely good situation
I made money, but my feelings are still there
good situation
I made money, but my feelings are gone
normal circumstances
No money, no love
No money is made, but the feelings are still there
bad situation
Lost money, lost feelings
cryptocurrency
I won’t start talking about this anymore. The urban routine is too deep, so I want to go back to the countryside.
other
jewelry
Jade
precious metals
gold, silver
futures
crude
Artwork, etc.
Antiques, calligraphy and painting
Forex
U.S. dollar, euro, yen
The threshold is high, the risks are high, and it is easy to lose everything.
How to choose an investment method that suits you
Risk tolerance
For people with weak risk tolerance, relatively stable investment methods such as bonds and funds are better choices.
For those with a strong risk tolerance, higher-risk investments such as stocks and real estate are also worth considering.
Investment goals and time planning options
For long-term and stable investments, real estate, funds, etc. are better choices.
For short-term high-yield investments, stocks, cryptocurrencies, etc. are better options.
Investment experience and personal ability selection
Different people have different investment experiences and abilities. For people who have no investment experience or ability, collective investment methods such as funds are a better choice, which can spread risks and obtain professional management.
For those with investment experience and personal abilities, direct investment methods such as stocks and real estate are also worth considering.
Four fast lanes for middle-aged people to return to poverty
For the sake of vain face, lending money to relatives and friends who have never returned
Time to return to poverty: return to poverty immediately
Entrepreneurship by the middle class cannot bear the hardships of the proletariat and fantasizes about the destiny of the bourgeoisie
Time to return to poverty: half a year to 1 year
Cross-industry investment, including stocks, currency circles, jewelry, precious metals, etc.
Time to return to poverty: as fast as 1 year and as slow as 3 years. But if you don't memorize it too much, you can at least leave some residue and avoid losing everything.
When it comes to children’s education and studying abroad, most people are aware of whether children are the right ones, but they don’t want to admit it, so they burn money and comfort themselves by “expanding their horizons.”
Time to return to poverty: more than four years
How to break the economic constraints?
Investment should exist at all stages. In the first stage, it is mainly investing in yourself, and each subsequent stage is an investment of financial nature.
The first stage
Understand the operating rules of the economy, have the most basic understanding of social and economic development, and have an awareness of opportunity costs and investment. You may want to read some books or learn something.
read
economics
sociology
psychology
History
politics
Do a good job in your current main source of income, and try to be as top-notch in your small circle as possible. If you are already top-notch, try to compress your working time and improve efficiency.
second stage
You must transform yourself from a consumer to an independent value producer.
Analyze your own sources of income and how to maximize the benefits of existing resources.
1. Think about what resources you have that you can sell?
resource
time
Skill
physical strength
connections
2. Think about how to have more resources for sale?
3. Think about how to sell resources that are currently unsellable?
4. Think about how to sell existing resources in more ways?
5. How to sell existing resources at a higher price?
The third phase
Exchange value with one’s own capabilities, resources and company in the field
The upper level is a circle, and the essence of connections is value exchange. It’s not just connections that we’ve met and had dinner with.
If you have the value that people at the upper level need, then you have bargaining capital and a place where you can create surplus value.
Stage 4
Make money with capital, resources and information gap
Never think about starting a business blindly. Without ideas, goals, and resources, starting a business for the sake of starting a business will only lead to a dead end.
Starting a business should be a natural and natural thing. Only if you find a good way to realize your resources during the second stage of side business can you consider starting a business.
Knock on the blackboard
Today's society is very impetuous. Various media, articles, and videos promote millions of dollars in a few days or months, making many people feel that money is easy to make, as if they can make money as long as they dare to do it.
Even if you don't make money, they will tell you that you must try it out. You don't have any resources to begin with, and at worst, you will have nothing and start all over again.
Everyone wants to get rich quickly, but no one tells you that assets can not only be cleared, but can also become negative, so negative that you have to pay them back throughout your life.
Not understanding the laws of economic operation, having no awareness of opportunity costs, having no investment philosophy, and the constraints of capital, etc., from a practical level, has blocked the path for advancement for most people. Economic constraints are the most difficult to untie.
3. Knowledge constraints
Preface
Some people advocate the theory that reading is useless. It’s not that reading is useless, but that the books you read and the knowledge you learn cannot be transformed into direct productivity.
What is the contradiction between knowledge and making money?
The knowledge we learn is not meaningless, but it is not that it cannot be realized and used in life. If it cannot be used, it cannot generate value.
What's the problem?
family Education
The only creed given by parents and schools in the education of knowledge is "hard work". After graduating from college, I know nothing but hard work. I don't understand the rules of social operation, the operation laws of the economy, the importance of human relations and sophistication. The logic of interest exchange does not understand human nature.
school education
In terms of specific knowledge, schools don’t teach you how to make money. They teach you how to study hard and find a good job in the future. Schools don’t teach you how to know yourself. What schools teach you is how to become an obedient and do-gooder. Schools don’t teach you either. How you use social rules only teaches you to follow them when you encounter them.
social education
Those who have time to teach you don’t have the ability to teach you, and those who have the ability to teach you don’t have the time to teach you.
Specific performance
The specific knowledge you learned in school is basically useless in the workplace, and you will almost forget it after working for a few years. However, the truly useful knowledge may not start to be learned until you enter the society.
As a first-generation college student, your parents have a narrow vision, old-fashioned thinking, and are stubborn and unreasonable. They cannot give you any guidance, and they even always give you bad ideas at key points in your life. You can only explore on your own, making mistakes and making mistakes, which makes you exhausted and anxious. By the time you understand this, you have basically passed half your life.
Many people have a feeling after entering social work, that is, the principles they have believed in since childhood, one day find that they do not apply in society.
So what is the nature of the knowledge dilemma?
The dilemma of knowledge is essentially the dilemma of thinking, which is how to find and use knowledge that is useful to you.
To put it simply, it is how to monetize the knowledge you have learned and apply the knowledge you have learned to your life and work to make money for you.
So how to break the situation?
Find, find complete, correct and useful knowledge
How to find what is mentioned above?
The right thinking model and framework
So what mental models can help us?
pyramid principle
Feynman learning method
ANEW model
10\10\10 rule
SWOT analysis
5W2H analysis method
80/20 rule
Including but not limited to those mind maps posted previously
How to understand and learn these thinking patterns?
read
economics
sociology
psychology
History
politics
How to break the shackles of knowledge?
Knock on the blackboard
The shackles of knowledge are essentially the shackles of thinking patterns.
The formation of thinking patterns does not happen overnight, but is a long-term process of deliberate training.
Those short videos and consultations you watch are all scattered knowledge. Scattered knowledge is information. There is no way to form a system architecture. To learn knowledge, never watch scattered things.
What should we do?
Professional skills and knowledge at work
Improving work efficiency can make more money, which is the foundation of your foundation.
Enrich your own knowledge and information
Economy, society, history, culture, human nature, etc., you can read more documentaries or books. I have become a member of most video websites just to watch documentaries.
Establish your own independent thinking system
first principles
What are first principles?
A philosophical point made by Aristotle: "There is a most basic proposition in every system, which cannot be violated or deleted."
Return to the most basic conditions of things, decompose them into various elements for analysis, and find the optimal path to achieve the goal.
How to use first principles?
Define the fundamental problem to be solved
You say you want to learn a foreign language but never have the time. Is it because you are busy every day, or you don’t know where to start? Or is it because I have procrastination and need supervision?
How does the plane fly? Are there wings? Or do you need enough speed? At the end of the disassembly, you will find that the basic premise is "the upward force it receives is greater than gravity."
Teardown problem
Break the problem down into its most basic elements.
Solve the problem from the source. Continuously subdivide each demand point to the extreme. When it is found that it cannot be divided, all problem nodes can be discovered.
How to break down the problem?
5W2H analysis method
Analyze and think about it from seven major aspects to dismantle a complex problem
What—What is my purpose? To what extent? To what standard?
Why——Why do it?
Who - who can do it best?
When——When to start? When will it be ready?
Where - where to do it? Where to start?
How - how to do it? How to improve efficiency? How to implement? What is the method?
How Much – How many resources are needed? How much does it cost?
The core of first principles
Traceability
dismantle
Refactor
Argument
Iterate
The more you can learn across disciplines, the more mental models you can mobilize and the more likely you are to find the best solution.
Practice it
Analyze “family bondage” using first principles tracing thinking
Family restraint is when parents do not have the ability to guide life but impose control and interference;
It’s because times are changing too fast, and the experiences of parents and elders don’t apply;
It’s because parents don’t treat their children as equal and independent people like themselves.
Parents consider their children to be part of themselves
The concept that parents without the love of parents and children in the family will inevitably lead to separation.
structured thinking
What is structured thinking?
It refers to the structural process that people follow certain steps to break down a large thing.
What are the characteristics of structured thinking?
Theory: the conclusion comes first, an expression only supports one idea, and it should appear at the beginning
Proof: Under the above system, the thoughts at any level must be the summary of the thoughts at the next level.
Category: Classification and grouping, the ideas in each group must belong to the same category, MECE principle
Ratio: Logical progression, the ideas in each group must be arranged in a logical order
What should we pay attention to in structured thinking?
Get straight to the point
(1) We need to make the following changes (conclusion).
(2) The reasons why we want to change as we do (pyramid of fundamental reasons).
(3) The specific things we need to do next are as follows (pyramid of change initiatives)
step by step
(1) Target: What are the main problems currently faced.
(2) Ben: What are the root causes of these problems.
(3) Medicine: How can we take specific actions against these root causes to solve these major problems?
Practice structured thinking
Why we need to break the "economic constraints"
We must break the impact of economic constraints on our lives and lives
The reason for breaking the economic shackles is that it blocked my path to advancement and forced me to die at the bottom of society.
What I want to do next is the following steps
Get straight to the point
Arm your brain with knowledge
step by step
The main problems currently faced are lack of understanding of the laws of economic operation, lack of awareness of opportunity costs, lack of investment philosophy, and the constraints of capital.
The root causes of these problems
Reading less books
limited knowledge
Not strong in ability
lack of practice
The original family has no ability to guide
What specific actions can I take to address these root causes to resolve these major issues?
Arm yourself with knowledge and read more
economics
sociology
psychology
History
politics
Do a good job in your current main source of income, and try to be as top-notch in your small circle as possible. If you are already top-notch, try to compress your working time and improve efficiency.
Analyze your own sources of income and how to maximize the benefits of existing resources.
1. Think about what resources you have that you can sell?
resource
time
Skill
physical strength
connections
2. Think about how to have more resources for sale?
3. Think about how to sell resources that are currently unsellable?
4. Think about how to sell existing resources in more ways?
5. How to sell existing resources at a higher price?
2. Emotional restraint
Preface
Growing up under the control and constraints of their native family, most people will lose their self-thinking and independence.
As a result, you are unconfident, sensitive, pessimistic, self-denying, complaining, unable to refuse, long-term internal friction, always caring about other people's eyes, and worrying about what others will think.
Were you infected ?
After you become an adult or enter society, these emotions will always be with you. It will consume a lot of your energy and leave you no time to do important things.
The effects of emotional bondage
The real restraint of emotions is that emotions can make things worse.
American social psychologist Festinger has a very famous judgment, known as Festinger's law: "10% of life is made up of what happens to you, and the other 90% is made up of what happens to you. It’s how you react to what happens.”
A large number of unhappy things in life are not the things themselves, but are caused step by step by one's own emotions. They are caused subjectively by oneself and are not objective facts that existed from the beginning.
Plato's "Allegory of the Cave" explains a content
Some prisoners were kept in a cave. All they can see is the shadow cast by the object on the wall. These were carried around without the prisoners knowing. This is a prisoner's world. They've spent their entire lives in caves, so that's all they know. They accept the shadow as reality and begin to see patterns in the shadow's behavior. They believe they know the truth and even learn to predict what the shadow will do.
Then a prisoner was released. Upon release, he realized that what they were seeing were shadows of real objects. In fact, his entire reality is a shadow of real reality, represented in part by the objects that cast the shadow. Then, the prisoners leave the cave and learn about the real world for the first time. The sun illuminates everything, just as reason illuminates the essence of things.
After seeing the real world, he returned to the cave. However, after adapting to the real world, it is difficult for him to see the shadow world. Because of his difficulties, he was severely criticized by his peers. Because they only know the shadow world, they treat the released prisoners as fools. They felt threatened because he questioned their world.
Knock on the blackboard! ! !
The cave is equivalent to your subjective spiritual world, and the reality outside is the objective real world.
People have always lived in two worlds, the subjective spiritual world and the objective real world.
If you think that things in the subjective spiritual world are real, you will be trapped in that world forever.
Which of the following is the objective real world and which is the subjective spiritual world?
Among these thoughts and emotions, only lack of confidence, complaints, and unwillingness to refuse are real. The rest are things in your subjective spiritual world, your subjective thoughts and emotions, which only affect you and have no impact on the outside world. .
Not confident
Unconfidence is an objective reality and a personal characteristic.
sensitive
Sensitivity is a reflection or over-reflection of what happens in the objective real world. It is a reflection of the subjective spiritual world.
pessimistic
Pessimism is the subjective spiritual world
self-denial
It is the subjective spiritual world.
complain
It is the objective real world.
won't refuse
objective real world.
Long-term internal friction
subjective spiritual world.
Always care about other people's opinions.
subjective spiritual world.
Thinking questions
When you see me here at this moment, do you think I am using my working time to show off, or am I wasting my time to educate you? Sorry, I don’t care what you think of me. Your opinions and emotions will not affect my objective reality.
All you have are your subjective thoughts and emotions, but if you take your thoughts and emotions directly as facts, you will be like these people. Many people don't care about facts, only emotions, without right and wrong.
Ideas need to be tested before they can be judged as fact. People who are controlled by emotions lack the verification link and directly regard subjective thoughts and emotions as facts, which will prompt you to take action and make things worse. This is the real restraint of emotions.
How to release emotional constraints?
Achieve stability in the subjective spiritual world
Live in reality, don’t live in imagination and emotions
How can we achieve stability in the subjective world?
Distinguish between what are facts and what are your thoughts and emotions
How to distinguish between emotions, thoughts, and facts?
Use Vipassana to look at problems independently of things and emotions, and change from a participant to a bystander.
What is Vipassana?
The purpose of Vipassana is to understand yourself, your emotions, your true thoughts, and the status of your body and mind as a whole.
What are the benefits of Vipassana?
Let you get rid of emotions and distinguish what is emotion and what is interest. What is emotion and what is fact.
Get rid of your own emotional control and look at what is happening from a higher perspective.
After getting used to Vipassana, you can observe Vipassana and gain self-insight all the time.
Be an emotionally stable adult like Xiao Wang
Speak well and be considerate and not persistent
What would you do if I was not provoked by my emotions that day?
Don’t be silent when you shouldn’t be silent, don’t be weak when you should be brave
How to do Vipassana?
Stare inside
Focus your feelings on your body, usually your breathing or heartbeat, and slowly feel it. This step is mainly used to calm down and concentrate. The whole process is similar to the prelude to meditation. You don’t have to sit down to meditate. I just meditate. If you like standing, you can jump right into this process once you get used to it.
self reflection
Think back to what you just did. If you have just finished an argument with a family member or friend and are feeling angry, use a third-person perspective to observe the entire quarrel, what you did, what you said, and what the other party did. What did you say.
self enlightenment
After observing the memory of the entire incident, the anger will disappear, and you can see your own performance in the entire incident, become peaceful, and discover the problems with yourself or the other party.
self-insight
Understand your own needs, thoughts, behaviors and personality, and constantly adjust yourself according to changes in the objective environment.
Notes on Vipassana
Observe from a third perspective and don’t think. Thinking is what you need to do after observing.
Establish a positive feedback mechanism
Why establish a positive feedback mechanism?
What defeats us is never the problem itself, but our emotions when facing the problem, the negative emotions of fear and timidity when facing the problem.
Many people's lack of confidence does not mean that they lack ability, but that they have not experienced a state of confidence for too long, and they feel guilty and uncomfortable.
Rebuild self-confidence through positive feedback mechanisms. Do things well first, gain confidence, and self-confidence will help you do things better.
What is the significance of positive feedback mechanism?
Let us not overestimate the difficulty of the problem when we face difficult and clueless problems.
Let us not be too dismissive of very small and important problems.
How to establish a positive feedback mechanism?
30 day trial
Focus on building one habit continuously for a month
Insist on getting up at 8 o'clock
Walk 10,000 steps a day
Keep a work diary during the working day
If you forget or make a mistake, reset the time and go back to the first day.
By the 30th day, your behavior will be automatically adjusted and you no longer need to expend mental effort. You may not even be used to it if you don’t do it.
trigger
Let's say you want to use a trigger to start the habit of waking up at 8:00. Your signal would be the sound of your alarm clock going off.
Check the step count on your sports watch after get off work. If it is less than 10,000 steps, then walk 10,000 steps before going home.
When I encounter problems or difficulties at work, I think of recording them in a log.
operant conditioning
If you don’t follow this habit, use negative reinforcement.
Give negative feedback if you persist in bad habits.
Once it is not completed, you must punish yourself
If you follow this habit, use positive reinforcement.
Avoid bad habits and give positive feedback.
Rewards for sticking to good habits