Your boss compliments you on your English in public lift you up

Old friends reminisce & lift you up Want to borrow money

I just took the medicine and slept for a while, What shall we eat later?

Everyone has the psychology of being affirmed by others; repeating what the other person said is a simple and effective technique. Tell the other person that I am listening carefully and want to continue listening carefully. Empathize and encourage the other person.

Background: When most people speak, they are accustomed to putting important things later. You can repeat the key content of the second half of the other party's words in a questioning tone. Guide the other party to continue explaining and convey more effective information.

It’s my classmate’s birthday today and I won’t be back tonight. Not coming back? My friend said she wanted to party all night long, so I planned to stay up all night tonight. Party all night long? It's my classmate's eighteenth birthday, so I say I have to go crazy once to commemorate my adulthood.

Background: Grasp keywords and repeat them to show that you are listening carefully, to draw closer to each other, and to let the other person continue the conversation.

I bought a woolen sweater for each of my parents. This was the first gift I gave to my parents after I started working. First gift? Yes, I have never given gifts to my parents before. These two sweaters cost me half a month’s salary. Half a month's salary, the quality must be very good.

Process the other person's words and speak them according to your own understanding, which shows that you are listening carefully and that you can still hear his or her thoughts.

My senior sister didn't give me any support. She just dealt with it in front of the instructor and then left all the work to me. Your senior sister acted very supportive in front of your tutor, but in fact she didn’t give you any help or support, right? Yes, yes, it pisses me off! Yes, you must be very angry. You thought you were a trustworthy and reliable senior sister, but in the end you just took credit!

The things you say should be as serious as the other person’s matters

Make the other person feel that his or her affairs are more important and noticed

I haven’t seen you in a few years. You are now the boss of the company, and I am still a small employee. Being a boss is not easy. The first two years of starting a business were also quite difficult. I slept in the office every day and ate instant noodles and pickled mustard.

You're really good at doing PPT, but I won't do PPT. I also learned it because I used it at work.

I bought the wrong color skirt, the green one makes my skin look darker. My legs are not in good shape and I don’t dare to wear skirts to show my legs.

When I was passing the S-curve in subject two today, I nervously turned on the wipers. Fortunately, no points were deducted. You are better than me. I was so nervous that I used the brake as the accelerator and failed the exam.

I went to see peonies on May Day. I didn’t expect that peonies come in so many colors. Really? What are the colors of peonies?

What do you do after get off work? I usually go to the gym after get off work and then go home. How did you get into fitness?

Are you usually star-chasing? I quite like Deng Chao. I heard that XXX directed by him was released, have you watched it? Look, it’s a good drama.

I wanted to go to Sanya, but I couldn’t go due to the epidemic. This epidemic is really delaying things, so you can only change places to play. Yes, we are planning to go camping in the suburbs instead. We heard that there is a parent-child park that is very fun. The suburbs are also good, and it won’t be too tiring to play close by.

Where to eat after get off work? I haven’t decided yet, what do you recommend?

Your dress looks very nice. I found that the clothes you wore today are quite beautiful.

The difference between reading and not reading is really big. That's right, how about saying "reading makes people wise".

Why do you only have eel rice? Because soon all the fish swam away.

They say girls are born without a sense of direction. Is this true? It’s true, girls can’t get out once they enter a mall.

I bought a lot of things at Li Jiaqi’s live broadcast room during Double Eleven this year, and I’m going to be spoiled for choice this month. You are a typical "Li consumer".

How does it feel when someone you have a crush on suddenly confesses his love to you? I wanted to continue sleeping, and then tried to think of how to continue the dream.

Waiter, why is there hair in this soup? Sorry, I think it might have been the wrong pool. Sorry sir, I'll get a new one for you right away.

Mr. XX, time is running out. Could you please speak faster? No, sir, but I can say less.

We are about the same age, but I already have two children, what about you? Do you have two children? Then give me one!

Five minutes ago, my son came to buy two kilograms of dates from you. When he went back, he weighed it and it was half a kilogram less. Ma'am, maybe you could go back and weigh your son.

Did you watch the movie I wrote last week? What did you think? This is a good movie. I couldn't bear to watch it and I slept through it with my eyes closed.

What do you think of this dish I made? I rarely eat salt, but this dish made up for the salt I had lost.

The news said that the average salary in Beijing is more than 10,000, how come you only get 5,000. What does the average salary mean? The average height of Pan Changjiang and Yao Ming is 1.96. Can you say that Pan Changjiang is very tall?

Husband, please mop the floor; I have something to do at the moment, let’s talk about it after dinner. It is said that men who do housework are the most handsome. I like the way you work seriously! Yeah? I'm so excited that I'm going to mop the floor now.

Everyone should actively give me feedback on my shortcomings in my work. Let me tell you straight. I think my boss is too hardworking and works overtime for several hours every day after get off work.

I heard that your boy has been promoted to section chief, is it true? It’s true, it was just announced last month. Your guy was excellent when he was in school, and now he's working and even more outstanding, so you can't leave some way for us to survive! Okay, I know I was wrong, and I will definitely listen to your lesson.

Are you holding tickets to the Jazz Festival? yes. Sure enough, beautiful people have good taste.

Today is my first surgery. I am so nervous and my palms are sweaty. The director said that you worked very well with him. You were very calm from beginning to end, and you didn’t look like a novice at all.

What do you think of my new lipstick today? The lipstick you wore today really matches your makeup and makes you look particularly good.

Mom, I got 100 points in this data. Wow, 100 points! This is the result of your hard work. Mom is really proud of you. Keep up the good work!

After I resigned from XX, I started a company by myself, and now the team has more than fifty people. It’s really not easy. You started from scratch and relied solely on your own efforts.

Carnegie was very naughty when he was a child, and in the end even his father gave up on him. But his stepmother discovered his shining point and treated him generously, giving him the motivation to move forward. He is not a bad boy. Although he is naughty, he has a rich imagination, but he has not found what he likes to do.

I heard that your son has been admitted to a key university. Congratulations. You must know a lot about education. I will ask you for more advice when I have time.

The new purple clay pot you bought looks very nice. Hey, heroes think alike, it seems we both have good taste.

Your handwriting is so beautiful. Nowadays, everyone uses computers and not many people can write well. I like people with vision like you.

The guy is really handsome. I just like my idols to tell the truth with a straight face.

This mission was completed well, impeccable in all aspects. Oops, I’m so happy to be praised by the leader, and I feel full of energy.

Can you tell me what the theme of Xiao Zhang’s planning plan is? Can you keep it a secret for me? Yes, of course. It just so happens that I do too, and I can keep secrets.

I feel that this department is not suitable for me. Can you help me apply for a different department? Well, I can't make the decision on my own. I need to discuss it with the leader and then help you fight for it.

Xiao Zhang, are you free after get off work? I would like to treat you to a meal. Unfortunately, I have an appointment with my best friend today, so I won’t go. Thank you for your kindness.

Thank you so much for thinking of me when you eat barbecue, but I don’t have a good taste. I’m losing weight recently, so I won’t eat it!

Emotionally, I am very willing to help you, but the hospital has hospital regulations and there is really nothing I can do.

This is a good idea, but our conditions are not yet mature at the moment. When the conditions are mature, we will consider your proposal.

I know you are looking for me because you trust me, but I have too many things going on during this time, so I am really sorry.

Xiao Zhang, we live in the same community. Let’s take you to get off work every day. Although I'm on my way, I have to take my kids to school in the morning, and I often have other things to do after get off work, so I can't take you with me. I'm sorry.

Xiao Zhang, please apply for me and I will give you one after approval. Brother Wang, the company doesn't allow it, and the phone calls are recorded.

The penalty points on my driver's license will exceed 12 points. Can I borrow your points to eliminate the illegal points? I can't help you with this. The management is very strict now. If it affects my driving score, it will be troublesome.

I have a toothache like this, please add me a number! You are such a kind person, you will definitely help me, right? Sorry, the number has been added today.

Don’t waste the other party’s opportunity to find other resources.

It's such a pity to invite you to my son's birthday party. Next Tuesday happens to coincide with my business trip. I will make up for it with gifts for my nephew afterwards.

I heard that your English is CET-8, please help me translate the information. In fact, these English terms are professional terms and I am not proficient in them. I am really afraid that the translation will be wrong and it will affect the effectiveness of your negotiation, which will make me feel bad.

I'm in a hurry. Can you help me check this report? Sorry, the work at hand has kept me too busy for the time being.

I'm not good at choosing this topic. Can you take the time to help me find some reference materials? I've been so busy at work recently that my cervical spine hurts so much that I don't have time to see a doctor. Are you a local, do you have any good doctor recommendations?

You know what kind of friendship we have, but as long as I can handle it, I won't say anything. However, it is clearly stated above that this is not allowed. In fact, my nephew is still young and has a good foundation. It is better to let him repeat the study for one year. Then he will be admitted to No. 1 Middle School without looking for me.

I really don’t have time to do it recently, but I can help you forward it to your circle of friends to see if anyone else is interested.

It's really a pity that I can't participate. Can Xiao Zhang go for me?

Mom, you don’t know yet, right? A friend of mine was forced to get married, so she hurriedly found someone to get married. As a result, she was domestically abused by her husband and is now divorced.

? ? ? , I have to get married, my parents are right, haha

Thank you, Mom. It’s just that you have worked hard for so many years. If I have children in the future, I will take care of them myself. This will also be better for the children’s education.

I plan to get married before I’m thirty-two, and I’ve already signed up for a dating website. I’ll seize the opportunity if the right person comes along.

You seldom compliment me recently. Do you think I'm not good-looking? I'm sorry, I've always thought you were beautiful. Maybe it's because I've been under a lot of pressure at work recently and haven't paid enough attention to you.

How can you take care of a child like this? I will learn from you in the future, after all, you are an expert.

I accidentally lost my newly purchased mobile phone. As long as no one is lost, that's fine.

Husband, every time you get up in the middle of the night to pour me water, I feel like a happy little princess. Thank you. Wife, after hearing what you say, my husband is willing to get up and pour you water no matter how sleepy he is at night.

Mom, buy me this doll. Look how beautiful she is. This doll does look beautiful, no wonder you want to buy it so much, but we have no plans to buy it this time.

Mom, I want this ball. Baby, we already have a lot of balls at home, shall we buy oranges that are as round as balls?

I want this car. Why do you want this car? This is a police car, it makes a siren sound, I just love it. Yes, but if you bought toys this month, you have to wait until next month to buy them.

I want to find one too, but it’s so hard to find someone as good as my mother.

General answer: OK

Changing the subject: Second aunt, the coat you are wearing today is so beautiful. It suits your temperament very well. It looks very expensive at first glance. Your cousin bought it for you, right?

Reverse help: Speaking of buying a house, I am planning to start buying a house this year. Erjie, you must support me.

Haha, I didn’t scare you. Actually, I lost the game of Dare and wanted to find the most beautiful person to express my feelings to. Brother, I immediately thought of you.

Is it suitable for you and us to be together? Not suitable. Haha, I have known this result for a long time. Your rejection confirms that I may be a great prophet.

Sorry, I have someone I like I knew that for someone as good as you, I am definitely not the only one who likes you.

Be sincere and truthful: My mother is XX and has retired; my father is XX and comes from an ordinary working-class family. Because my family background is average, I have worked hard since I was a child. In the future, I will also let my parents and XX live a good life.

How much is your salary? Do you often work overtime? I now accept XXX, and I do work a lot of overtime. However, I am working hard to get a raise and develop myself into a responsible person, so that I can reduce overtime work and can spend more time with my family after I get married. 【So naive】

When the girl's parents say that the girl has shortcomings, it actually depends on your sincerity. Our Shuangshuang has been spoiled since she was a little willful and has a bad temper. It will be hard to live with her in the future. As a girl, she is cuter if she is more willful. We usually get along very well, and I like this kind of cool personality. Don't worry, second elder, I will be good to her all my life.

What are your plans for your future work? Are you planning to do XX all the time? I am gaining experience now and need to work hard in many areas. I plan to get promoted in one year. I plan to do my current job as a career. The career prospects and development are very good. I have the strength and determination.

Several reasons for not wanting to borrow: Moonlight Clan: I am a Moonlight Clan, not to mention 5W, even 5K; Strict wife control: You know, my wife is in charge of all my money, and I only have a small amount of pocket money every month. Four-legged gold-eating beast: I raise two XXX, but the money I earn is not enough for them to spend. Compassion with the same problem: Ah, you also encounter this problem. I am also XXX now. Why do I keep doing this?

Reasons for not wanting to borrow: There is something wrong with the car: There has been an abnormal noise recently, and I don’t dare to drive it. I want cloud inspection and maintenance. The car is not around: Sorry, the car was just driven away by my dad. Car insurance expires: If your car insurance expires, you will be fully responsible if something happens. The car violated too many rules: There were too many violations some time ago, and the points were almost deducted, so I didn’t dare to drive.

Xiao Zhang made this picture, thank you for your hard work. Leader, I should. This one in my hand is almost finished. I will do it immediately after it is finished.

Xiao Zhang, despite the tight schedule and heavy tasks in the XX project, I still completed it well. Thank you for your hard work. This project is indeed very challenging [recognize leadership]. I checked a lot of information and made some summaries [I also worked hard] before I started working on it.

Xiao Zhang, you did a great job, thank you for your hard work. Leader, if you say this, no matter how hard you work, I will always be happy.

Xiao Zhang, please try to type this document. Leader, that's right. I've reviewed my previous work in the past two days. If you have other tasks, feel free to assign them to me.

There are a lot of typos in this PTT. Sorry, it is indeed a bit much. I will check it carefully next time.

Xiao Zhang, why haven’t you sent me the report you asked to revise? The task assigned to you must be completed before the agreed time. Okay, I will pay attention to it in the future. The revised plan was sent to your mailbox yesterday. Maybe you didn't see it because there were too many emails. Do you need me to resend a copy?

How much is your monthly salary? and yours? I have five thousand. I'm about the same number as you, that's the number.

How much money can you make every month? How dare I mention it? My salary is not enough to buy a pair of shoes. I still have to work hard.

You earn a lot every month, right? You often post photos of big meals in your circle of friends. How much is your monthly salary? The money I earn is just enough to live on, and every time I go out for a nice meal after my salary is paid. If you are free on the weekend, can we go out to eat together?

Don't worry about your activity plan. Just check the data for me first. Then help me proofread the typos, so we can check each other out. Bystanders are clear!

New here, go to the front desk and help me get the express delivery! I have just arrived. If the boss finds out that I am not at my seat during working hours and doing private work for you, it is time to criticize me.

Print this information and give it to the boss. Don't make a mistake. Sister Fang, no, I haven't finished the work yet. Why don't you find someone else.

In these two days, the task of receiving the visiting group will be left to you. Sister Wang, the report that the leader gave me has not been finished yet. How about discussing it with the leader and asking him to rearrange it?

Anyone would be unhappy if this happened to him, and it would make him lose face; if it were me, I would also want to kill him. But there is no way, this customer is very important, we have to think about how to deal with it.

I successfully completed the task this year, and I was not included in the evaluation. Yes, you do your duty, but the evaluation is not only based on how well you perform your duties, but also whether you create new value for the company.

I am a soft-spoken person. I am a manager in name, but in fact I have no real power. Tell me what real power you want. You can put it forward and the company will study it. If it is reasonable, the company will adopt it.

I heard that you have a problem with your after-sales service. Why can't you get through the after-sales service hotline? You are really an expert and know our brand so well. If there is a problem with the product, if the professional organization determines that it is our problem, we will bear all responsibilities.

XX refrigerator is not only large in space, but also very energy-saving. You seem to be inferior to others. You are paying close attention, but the main function of the refrigerator is to preserve freshness. If the cooling effect is reduced in order to save electricity, it will cause the stored food to deteriorate. What is the point of saving electricity like this?

This phone is good, but it’s expensive. You can quote me the lowest price. If it’s cheaper than others, I’ll buy it right away. This mobile phone has higher configuration than mobile phones in the same price range, and it is the latest model. Now it is being promoted again, and it is already the lowest price.

Factory XX said that they have the first market share for this series of products. Which of the two of you is the first? Our market share is calculated by the famous XX organization. As for the data of XX factory, I don’t know.

I have to pick up the kids, I don’t have time now. I understand, I also don’t have enough time, but I will only take you a minute and let me introduce it to you.

This thing is good, but the price is too expensive. Just looking at the price, it is a bit expensive, but this product is a good deal. Let me explain it to you and you will know that it is worth the money.

I'll think about it again and contact you after thinking about it. Thank you very much for considering our products. If you think about it first, I will add you on WeChat and I will contact you later.

This time I'll leave it like this. I'll go back and discuss it with my wife before deciding. Sir, I understand. Can I have a chat with my wife? Make an appointment this weekend, or any other day that's more convenient for you?

I worry more about doing things. Although I will take fewer risks, I will also miss some opportunities. I will focus on teamwork and use collective wisdom to reduce risks and seize opportunities.

The last company was very good, but it encountered some bottlenecks in its development; I want to seek better development opportunities and break through the bottlenecks.

I once did XX through XX and gained XX ability. It happens to be what this position requires, so I want to apply for this position.

If there is an emergency, I will work overtime without hesitation. If it is a matter of personal work efficiency, I will definitely work hard to improve efficiency and reduce unnecessary overtime.

Mr. Wang is young and promising. Let’s have a drink and hope for more cooperation in the future. Sorry, Mr. Ma, I'm not good at drinking, but I am good at toasting. I'll give you a toast.

Reason from my family: Thank you. It’s just that our family leader has repeatedly given orders not to let me drink. Please be considerate of me. Reasonable excuse: What a coincidence. I have a toothache recently and am taking cephalosporin. The doctor specifically told me not to drink alcohol while taking the medicine.

Leader, I really can’t drink because I’m feeling unwell. I’ll give you some tea instead. I’d like to offer you a cup of tea and wish you a promotion!

If Lin Chiling and I fell into the water at the same time, who would you save first? I'll save you first, because Lin Chiling is taller and she can get out of the water by herself.

Which one do you like more, Mr. Zhang or Mr. Li? How can you use "like" to a leader? That's respect. I respect both leaders.

Compared with you and Xiao Liu, who has better writing ability? We specialize in different styles. My novels have won some awards, and his poems have been well received.

You are so fat, you need to occupy three seats on the bus. Yeah, but every time I gave up my seat, it was enough for 3 ladies to sit down.

Why are you late again? You really live up to your reputation as the "Late King". Sorry, it’s too difficult to find a job as a worker.

What did you think, actually taking a train to Tibet? When traveling, don’t care about the means of transportation, but care about the scenery along the way. The little money I have is only enough to buy a hard seat.

You're already 45 and you're getting divorced, so you can't just make do with it. You think it'll be easier to find it again. Why is it not easy? When people reach middle age, they tend to become fat, ugly, and single.

I'm going to treat you tonight. Let's go together after get off work. I don't have a problem, but Xiao Zhang is a "hep-controller" and I don't know if I can go. What's wrong with "strict wife control"? I respect and love my wife.

You don't wash your feet every day, and it makes me reluctant to stay in the dormitory anymore. That's just right, let's stop staying in the dormitory and go out to play ball.

I heard that you still work in the factory, not to mention the night shift, and you don't earn much, right? Yes, I also want to find a job that is easy and high-paying. Please introduce me to a job!

Why are you so stupid? I'm stupid, but I'm educated.

You are so thick-skinned. You have no choice but to make me lose face.

You, a grown man, are less than 1.6 meters tall, and I, a girl, am only 1.65 meters tall. What's the use of being taller than me? You can't bow to me no matter what you say.

Your face is so big, almost as big as a basin. Haha, your big face steals the spotlight. If you take a photo with me after the sale, you have to be closer to the camera. Be careful that I block you.

I've made a lot of money this month. Hey, I've gained a few pounds again.

Do you still live alone? I'm afraid I'll scare you when I'm half human.

A woman spilled wine on a bald man’s head. Bald man: Are you trying to make my hair grow with folk remedies?

Hello, Team Leader Wang, I am Xiao Zhang from Company X. Welcome to the company to inspect the work. Sorry, my surname is Li. I'm really sorry. I didn't expect you to be so young, Chief Li, so I never dared to recognize you. It's because I have limited knowledge.

Send non-work related information to the work group at night. Dear colleagues, I just played a small game for a while before going to bed. I accidentally pressed the wrong button and shared it to the work group by mistake, which affected everyone's rest. I'm really sorry.

The other party's name is Fujino Shichi, and he mistakenly believes that the other party is Japanese. Sorry, your name reminds me of Mr. Fujino, Mr. Lu Xun’s teacher. He taught Lu Xun many principles of studying and studying. I hope Mr. Fujino can teach me from time to time in the future.

Others say, "There are always people who mix kitchen waste with other garbage." Yes, if we allow this, it will make the work of sanitation personnel more difficult.

Others say they have gained weight again. Yes, have you gained another 0.0001 pounds?

What children like is interesting and useful

The effect of learning does not appear in the short term That is, interesting and useful functions are not outstanding

A behavior can only be reinforced if it benefits others

Pay attention to creating an atmosphere when accompanying students

When children face difficulties Acknowledge his fear

When studying is not going well Help children find ways to break through

child scared

Children are not afraid

Children have negative emotions

slow

quick

A threatening tone will only be counterproductive

Negative tone can easily generate negative emotions

Rational analysis of pros and cons, future expectations, realistic encouragement = efficient communication

excited

inhibition

Don't be distracted

Don't be careless

Be slow before criticizing, find good points and give recognition

Quickly find the desired points and provide positive guidance

The amount and difficulty of homework make children feel frustrated

Parents’ urging makes children feel nervous

Children do not realize the future effects of learning

Use your child’s successful experiences to guide him to challenge difficulties

Reduce children's mood swings and stimulate their inner potential desires

Let children experience the sense of accomplishment in completing their studies and the sense of control in acquiring knowledge.

When parents are strong, children lose themselves

Parents are indulgent and their children are not guided correctly

Children have weak ability to suppress excitement and are sensitive to external stimulation

eliminate interference

do one thing at a time

Use appropriate language to regain your child’s attention

Destroy delayed feedback mode

effects on vision

The impact of parent-child communication

Studying, reading, and sports cannot be used as reasons for restricting mobile phone use. prone to rebellious psychology

Appoint time in advance

You can use the hourglass timing method to help children master the concept of time

Guide children to stop on their own initiative

Adhere to principles gently and do not use criticism to increase your child’s sense of loss.

Give children reasonable expectations for the future

If the child achieves time control and termination control, give appropriate praise

Recognize children’s improved control

This case can be used to motivate children when they have other behaviors that lack control.

external

internal

Change the purpose of learning itself

Weaken children’s enthusiasm for learning

Let children realize the inherent benefits of learning

Direct material rewards inward

Such as: lining up, observing classroom disciplines, being civilized and polite

Afraid of teacher

Respect the teacher

Don’t just look at the binary opposition of good and bad.

Discover details in comparison and learn from each other's strengths

Praising talent and intelligence is considered rigid thinking

Praising hard work is a growth mindset

Material reward link Like buying toys for 100 points

Connect process to outcome

Focus on specific aspects that cannot be done

The concept of implantation is not yet achieved

Inspiring ways to do it

The foundation is not strong, such as not going to preschool, etc.

Huge amount of new knowledge: Nu Skin courses

Being distracted in class is not effective

frustration

Because you haven't been to preschool, you can't keep up. (qualitative) (leading to inevitable results)

Inverted sentence, change because (qualitative) into inspiration

time management

self-regulatory control

Strengthen knowledge points

Why didn't you do well in the exam?

The tone is gentle, but there is a hint of thorn in the words

With arms akimbo and eyes rolled, indifference and disappointment

Hit the point of failure Children's instinct to escape

internal attribution or external attribution

stable attribution or unstable attribution

Controllable attribution or uncontrollable attribution

be strengthened

receive punishment

Resistance to negative emotions such as being criticized

Help children recognize shortcomings and link them to future achievements

Find the benefits of behavior modification

Unify process corrections to core goals Let the children deduct the reasonable process on their own

Use free time control to guide children to improve unit time efficiency

Guide children to take control of time management

Guide children to control their attention

Children themselves desire self-improvement

Guide children to state their desired goals

Break down the goals and guide children to find ways to gradually overcome them.

Never tell your children, "After you finish your homework, mom will reward you with ice cream," or "If you finish your homework before 8 o'clock, you will play games for 20 minutes." This is particularly bad because it interferes with or affects the child's ability to experience the joy of completing a task.

After completing the task, establish logical praise for the child's efforts and results.

For example, after taking the exam, set a final exam ranking target based on the results. The target time span is large and the effective feedback cycle is long

The accumulation of failures in each challenge will cause children to lose their self-confidence.

Make the goal operable and executable, with specific behaviors as a supporting system

Allow children to receive timely feedback at every stage

Gradually build children's confidence with every small success

Make the behavior to achieve the goal traceable

If an event is associated with a strong negative emotion, it will make the child feel scary, scared or disgusted.

Create a relaxing atmosphere

Inserting choice points between behaviors and negative emotions If a child is scalded when drinking water and refuses hot water

Establish a logical connection between successful results and your own efforts and reinforce this behavior

Let children understand the principle of accumulation and gain

Find changes other than grades, such as problem-solving ideas, etc. and affirm and reinforce positive changes

At critical junctures and when it is not appropriate to reason directly

When doing enlightenment education in daily life

If your instinct is to eat full, eating eighty percent full for health is self-control.

Sensitive to novel stimuli

As we age, the inhibitory function of the frontal lobe of the brain increases

Adults organize and constantly remind themselves of their goals and self-regulate their behavior.

After long-term self-control practice, adults have the ability to control themselves

Such as the number of slips, the time for homework, set small goals, and gradually improve the standards

Brain self-protection phenomenon, stress response

Divert your attention and look for rewards

Too high goals will make children become giants in thought and dwarfs in action

Start with small tasks to easily gain a sense of control

Introduce the little wisdom and control gained from playing games into the learning process

Continuous application of self-control, the effect is getting worse and worse

Like exercise, repeated training develops muscle memory

Appropriately break through the limits and accelerate self-control exercise

If a child wants to effectively shift his attention from games to learning, he needs a good coordination between the excitatory and inhibitory functions of his nerves. Two things must be done: one is to give the excited nerves that are playing the game a hard blow. Press the brake, suppress it, make it stop; the other thing is to quickly ignite a new excitement point to start writing homework.

Use intermediate links

Pause from invalid mode

The child's ability to weigh the future is not clear enough, and his own flexibility and self-control have not matured. At this time, it is difficult for the child to face mistakes and difficulties alone.

Once you make a mistake, you mistakenly believe that you will make another mistake in the future.

Make a mistake once and lose all yourself

Analyze the causes of errors

Analyze the shortcomings of your own abilities

Recognize children’s hard work in learning

Praise the child for the completed part

Don’t deny all the parts that your child has not completed well. Point out specific problems and guide children to self-correct

Having trouble getting information

It’s easy to get distracted when doing questions

lack of attention

sensory integration disorder

Will not check

Make a to-do list and start with simple things

Turn a series of things into behavioral habits and form motivation stereotypes

Check mark to mark completion

Tasks within 2 minutes are not listed on the list

Do not interrupt a single task midway

Make lists into categories, such as separating housework and study

praise

point out shortcomings

After your child’s homework is completed, avoid using overall descriptions such as “good, etc.” Should be used, carefully checked so the accuracy is high, and other specific behavior descriptions

You are very serious about your homework. This is a quality evaluation and cannot be applied to specific behaviors. Respond to future expectations

Your attitude of carefully checking your homework after you finish it will help you achieve a higher accuracy rate in the next exam.

If your grades are poor, it will be changed to "unsatisfactory grades"

Need: Exploration of new things

Unreasonable way: crying

Guide children to tell the differences between new toys

Guide children to compare existing toys with new toys

Define a purchasing range, for example, you can buy one new toy a month

Guide children to choose their true needs independently

For example: I think you spend a lot of time reviewing your homework every day. You work very hard, but your grades have dropped. Is your method wrong or inefficient?

Negative emotions are not effectively resolved

Negative emotional outbursts lead to serious consequences

For example, when an elder praises a child for being smart, parents can extend the interpretation to include their own efforts.

Conflict between reason and desire

The conflict between expectations for a good image of oneself and lying behavior

The child really doesn’t know how to do this question

Not able to manage study time

inertia, laziness

Many teenagers actually don’t spend time on falling in love, but on how to avoid being discovered by their parents.

Strengthen areas of advantage

Supplement shortcomings