Express your understanding of your child’s feelings, and be sure to check with your child that your understanding is correct

Express sympathy rather than forgiveness, understanding the child's feelings but not approving or condoning the child's behavior

Tell your children how you feel and communicate sincerely and kindly

Let the child focus on solving the problem and ask the child questions or suggestions until a consensus is reached

Simplify the steps and let children experience success

Show your child small steps that he can follow (I'll draw this half circle, you draw the other half)

Acknowledge your child's positive efforts, no matter how small

Let go of any perfectionistic expectations you have for your children

Focus on your child’s strengths

Schedule special time with your children regularly

Express your love and care in words

Don’t fight back, exit the revenge cycle

Guess why the child was hurt, express sympathy, and express understanding of the child’s hurt feelings.

If you caused the harm, use the 3 Rs of correcting mistakes

Reflective listening, the key is to understand the child’s point of view, rather than telling the child your point of view

Be honest about how you feel about... because... I hope...

Use the "Four Steps to Win Cooperation" (notes in the previous article)

Express your concern, encourage your child, and express your love and care in words

Withdraw from the power struggle and let both parties calm down

Acknowledge that you cannot force your children and let’s discuss solutions

Use the "Four Steps to Win Cooperation" (notes in the previous article)

Guide children to use their rights constructively

Decide what you want to do yourself rather than trying to get your child to do something For example, I will wash the clothes in the laundry basket, but not the clothes thrown on the floor. For example, I will drive the car to the side of the road until you stop fighting.

Involve children in establishing daily routines and let routines have the final say

Provide limited choices (make it clear to go to bed before 8 o'clock, the child can choose whether to listen to stories or play with toys before going to bed)

Displace the child's behavior by engaging him in a useful task, such as giving him a stopwatch and asking him to time you while you are on the phone.

Arrange special time to spend time with your children regularly

Agree with your child on silent signals, such as covering your ears to indicate that the child has stopped humming and you will listen to him.

Shut up and take action, such as stopping the coaxing and taking him straight to brush his teeth or scratch him, in a firm and fun way.

Do something unexpected for your child, like give him a big hug

Ignore the child's behavior and continue talking to the child (ignore the child's behavior, not ignore the child)

Show your love and care (Mom loves me so much/I miss my baby so much)

seeking attention

seeking power

revenge

give up on oneself