Counselors are equal to those seeking help in terms of value, dignity, personality, etc.

Treat the seeker as a living person with thoughts, feelings, inner experiences, life pursuits, uniqueness and autonomy

[Rogers]’s “unconditional respect”: one of the key conditions for constructive personality changes in the seeker

Create a safe and warm atmosphere for help seekers to open their hearts

This enables the counselor to fully grasp and experience the inner world of the client.

Provide help seekers with a sense of self-worth

Help seekers develop a sense of trust in counselors, strengthen their motivation for consultation, and correct their cooperative attitude

Encourage the self-esteem and self-confidence of the seekers so that they have the power to change themselves

Unconditional acceptance (core): Accept everything about the client, accept everything about the client unconditionally

Equality: Equality in relationships, treating everyone equally

Politeness: Treat others with courtesy

Trust: the basis and prerequisite for respect Believe in the subjective desire to solve problems and change oneself; help clarify; believe in the ability to solve one's own problems

Protect privacy: no comment, no dissemination, no coercion, no intervention, no inquiry

Sincerity: Not unprincipled, can appropriately express views, attitudes, opinions, etc. according to the situation of the consultation relationship.

Accept the client, especially the ways in which he or she is different from the counselor

Both parties are equal in terms of value, dignity, personality, etc., and do not discriminate against each other based on status, knowledge, money, culture, etc.

Follow etiquette and treat others with courtesy

Trust the person seeking help

Do not proactively inquire about privacy, keep it confidential

Be sincere to those seeking help

When it is difficult to accept, you can make a referral, which is a sign of respect for the person seeking help.

Always enthusiastic, patient and tireless rather than indifferent

Help the seeker to express his/her feelings seriously and enthusiastically

When the person seeking help narrates, you should listen well, follow the instructions patiently and meticulously, and do not criticize or accuse.

When encountering obstacles, you should be more enthusiastic and patient

When recurrence occurs, you should be patient and not impatient, and should take the trouble to help enthusiastically.

Create a safe and free consultation atmosphere: frank questions without any scruples

Provide good role models: encourage, learn to communicate authentically, discover and understand your true self

Sincerity does not mean simply not concealing, not being hypocritical, and not telling lies.

Sincerity does not mean telling the truth Principle: Be responsible for the person seeking help and help the person seeking help grow.

Sincerity should seek truth from facts: avoid pretending to understand what you don’t understand and being frank about your shortcomings.

Sincerity is not self-venting Taboo: Triggered by the client’s questions, chatting, taking up time, and taking over the host.

Sincerity should be moderate: excessive expression will doubt the counselor's motives and damage the counseling relationship.

Sincerity is also reflected in non-verbal communication: non-verbal body language is the best way to express sincerity Concerned eyes; calm voice and expression, forward and humble posture, etc.

Sincerity should consider the time factor Early consultation: reflected in "no hypocrisy", listening, not eager to express one's opinions or evaluations In the middle and later stages of consultation: sincerely express the client’s own shortcomings or shortcomings, his own opinions or evaluations

Sincerity is reflected in the counselor’s frankness The consultant’s educational background and qualifications; time spent in consulting; Tell the truth about what you are good at or what you are not good at, etc.

It must be understood that sincerity does not mean telling the truth, and telling the truth is not entirely sincerity.

We should not be divorced from reality, we should seek truth from facts, and we should not pretend to understand.

Don't express your feelings and vent your inner world.

Sincerity should be done in moderation, as excessiveness can be counterproductive.

Sincerity is also reflected in non-verbal language, such as eyes, voice, posture, intonation, etc.

Expressions of sincerity should vary depending on the course of the consultation

The counselor's understanding and experience of the client's inner world: empathy, empathy, and empathy. Depth, empathy, reasonableness

Empathy is considered by humanistic psychological counselors to be the most critical counseling trait that affects the counseling process and effect.

[Rogers] Empathy: the ability to experience the inner world of the person seeking help

There are three specific meanings

The counselor puts himself in the shoes of the person seeking help and can more accurately grasp his or her inner world.

When the seeker is understood and accepted, he or she will feel happy and satisfied, which will promote the establishment of a counseling relationship. The most important significance of empathy for consulting activities is (establishing a positive consulting relationship)

The seeker’s self-expression and self-exploration can lead to greater self-understanding and deeper communication between the two parties.

It has a more obvious consulting effect for those who urgently need understanding, care and emotion.

The person seeking help feels disappointed: he or she feels that he or she is not understood or cared for, and he or she feels disappointed and thus reduces or stops self-expression.

The person seeking help feels hurt

Influence seekers’ self-exploration

Affects the counselor's response to the client: The counselor cannot truly understand the client's problems and needs, and his response often lacks pertinence

See the problem from the perspective of the person seeking help, not from your own perspective

Do not ask for similar experiences and feelings, but put yourself in their shoes and understand them

It should vary from person to person

The opportunity should be grasped and empathy should be appropriate

Be good at grasping the role (change roles freely, experience the heart of the seeker, and do not change "like" into "is")

Be good at using body language (a combination of verbal and non-verbal behavior)

Take into account the characteristics and cultural characteristics of the seekers

Counselors should verify whether they are empathic with the client

Pay attention to the "positive, bright and positive aspects" of the seeker, and treat the seeker dialectically and objectively, so that the seeker has positive values ​​and has the inner motivation to change himself

Active attention not only helps to establish a good consulting relationship and promote communication, but also has a consulting effect in itself

The counselor views the client dialectically and objectively

Help seekers view themselves dialectically and objectively

Avoid Pollyanna

Oppose excessive negativity

Seek truth from facts

Psychological counselors must look at the client dialectically and objectively, and their shortcomings/advantages

Help seekers to actively pay attention to themselves, see their own strengths and advantages, and explore their own inner potential and resources.

Optimism should be avoided when actively paying attention

Negativity should especially be avoided when focusing on positive

Active attention should also respect reality and seek truth from facts

The purpose of active attention is to promote the self-discovery and potential development of the seeker, so as to achieve the all-round development of mental health, which is also the highest goal of consultation.