The contradiction arises because it is difficult for us adults to "return" to the imaginary world

Children are masters of living in the moment, and the younger the child, the more obvious it is.

When dealing with children, the so-called "respecting the moment" means that when you see your child immersed in something, remind yourself not to disturb him yet, and let him do it and let him think. If you must interrupt, try to make the time without interruption as long as possible.

In terms of time arrangement, don’t make plans for at least half a day a week. During this time, give the child free space and time. If he wants to do something, he can do it.

Allow children to have chunks of time rather than fragmented time; allow it to happen; support and encourage.

Time is limited and precious. Good things roam in children's lives, giving them a sense of pleasure, accomplishment, and value.

When you go downstream, you have the least resistance, which is the real "inaction". You are "moving", but very "relaxed". Life is that stream. Learn to sense the direction of the "water flow" and follow the trend, so that you can truly "live in the moment"

When a child's heart is seen and respected, many things will be "easier" and their ability to resist frustration will become stronger. And "resisting frustration" is actually an innate ability.

Being aware and in the present moment allows us to see the gifts and abundance in life.

Every life has three treasures: awareness, love and compassion, wisdom,

The truth is, the faster you try to solve and escape, the less you can escape, and this state will continue to create new problems.

Instead of running out, think instead, "face the problem and go in" because if it is really "cut off", it will not only be cut off, but also the connection between you and the child, the child's inability to express emotions and the unacknowledged See the need.

Super artifact

focus

Feedback principles: specific, friendly and helpful

housework

time

ability to cook

The ability to organize and arrange one's life

The ability to ask for help is something we tend to overlook

Concentration

The ability to put learned theories into practice and verify them

ability to teach others

ability to question

The core philosophy is to avoid conflict and violence by promoting effective communication by expressing one's own needs and feelings while listening and respecting the needs and feelings of others

Principle 1: Always give your children opportunities to negotiate with you, while you play a relatively difficult role.

Principle 2: Make things difficult for him reasonably and then let him win. Let him have the experience of winning and have a good enough perspective to look at this issue again.

Principle 1. Don’t cry poor, "poor" and "unworthy" are two different things. There is room for choice in life, and you can feel the beauty of life from small things.

Principle 2. Teach children to understand money

Principle 3. Make it clear in advance that my money has nothing to do with you

Comes from awareness, self-acceptance and the confidence and self-esteem that develop on this basis. With these, we can face, express and process our emotions. The core method is to cultivate children's ability to talk to themselves.

2. Don’t use macro narratives to describe your life. Stop imagining, face the status quo, and allow a little inner relaxation, and we will be able to find solutions.

There is no "ultimate" way out of life. Constantly facing and solving problems is the true meaning of "perfection".

The first step is to take a deep breath and let our center of gravity sink from the high-speed brain to the body, giving wisdom a space to rise.

The second step is to untie the "red rope" tied to the top. To put it bluntly, adult growth is about cultivating inner "space" and "fluidity". With them, there is the possibility of wisdom. "

Always set a small goal for yourself: stay in a good mood for 3 minutes. Look at life from a different perspective and cherish every 3 minutes in your life.

The wisdom of life is actually to turn the chicken feathers in life into colorful chicken feathers

The first step is to realize that you are in a bad state. Tell your child, "This has nothing to do with you."

Step two, realize you can adjust. You can't change others, you can only change yourself. Take a deep breath and hug yourself,

A good fix is ​​to open and restructure communication.

First, if you learn a lot of new educational concepts, share them with others.

Second, actions speak louder than words. Interact with your children in an effective way, and the people around you will be touched and changed. Don’t focus on the arguments between adults, try to use interaction with children to “educate” adults

One of the best ways is to “play”

The first step is to describe what happened as objectively as possible.

The second step is to guide children to describe and express the feelings and emotions they experience.

The third step is to explore the root causes of "bad emotions" with your children.

First, don’t immediately enter the “referee” mode. Let your children fully express themselves first.

Second, as children’s abilities improve, try to support them in solving problems on their own.

The third and most important thing is not to go above and beyond, and use adult moral standards to demand children.

Make every child feel special and unique.

What lifeguards do is to constantly give opportunities and support so that people who fall into the water can save themselves as much as possible.

In the face of uncertainty, how to judge the environment and what criteria to use as a reference and make decisions is the ability to find a way out where there is no way, and it is also what the road of life shows.

Everyone is self-sufficient and has inner gold mines. How to get in touch with this inner gold mine by breaking down and letting go of layers of obstacles is the core of education.