As long as animals are not sick and have enough to eat, they are happy, and people should be like this too

Each different group has its own worries. Among office workers, you see anxiety, over-focus, gastrointestinal dysfunction, loss of interests other than competition, loss of the ability to have fun, and lack of awareness of the existence of others of the same kind. On the main roads on weekends, you can see men and women pursuing happiness and living a comfortable life, some of them quite wealthy. The pace of their pursuit of happiness is uniform, that is, moving at a snail's pace; they can neither see the road ahead nor appreciate the scenery, because looking left and right may lead to accidents. Everyone in the car is thinking about overtaking, but there is nothing they can do in the traffic; people who are not driving may sometimes have their minds wandering, and are inexplicably bored and have a vague expression on their faces.

A typical unhappy person was deprived of some normal satisfactions when he was young. Therefore, he will value these satisfactions more than anything else. This leaves his life with only one direction to go. At the same time, he overemphasizes success at the expense of success. Activities associated with success are placed in opposition. However, a new and quite common form has developed today, in which a person is so defeated by setbacks that he no longer seeks any satisfaction, but only wears away and forgets. As a result, he becomes cynical and attempts to endure life by anesthetizing himself. For example, alcoholism is a temporary suicide. The happiness it brings is negative and it only temporarily stops unhappiness.

Honoring suffering as the essence of the universe and the only wise attitude of enlightened man. Their pride in pain will make those who are simple doubt the reality of this pain, thinking that those who enjoy pain are not actually in pain. Feeling superior and insightful is certainly a small compensation, but it is by no means sufficient to compensate for the loss of simple pleasure.

A wise man will be as happy as his circumstances allow, and if he finds that thinking about the universe makes him too painful, he will think about something else.

What everyone calls the "struggle for survival" is actually the "competition for success." When people engage in this kind of competition, what they worry about is not knowing where tomorrow’s breakfast will be, but rather not being able to eat better than their neighbors.

If you not only desire success, but also truly believe that it is a man's responsibility to pursue success, anyone who evades it is a poor man. As long as he still thinks so, he will still be too nervous, too anxious, and will never be happy.

Success is only a part of happiness. If you sacrifice other parts in order to get this part, the price will be too high.

Under the concept of balanced life, accept sober and tranquil entertainment.

One of the essences of boredom is the contrast between our current environment and a more desirable environment. Another essence of it is that human functions are not "going all out"

Simple physical fatigue, as long as it is not excessive, can often bring a sense of happiness. It makes people sleep soundly, whet their appetite, and want to enjoy the joy of the holidays. But if you are overtired, it can be a serious injury

Nervous fatigue is the most serious form of fatigue in today's developed societies. Oddly enough, this fatigue is more pronounced among the wealthy and affects far fewer working-class people than businessmen and intellectual workers.

By the time success came, he was already a man whose nervous system was riddled with holes. He had become accustomed to anxiety, and he could not say goodbye to anxiety even if he no longer had to. They go to bed with their worries at work, and at night when they should have enough energy to deal with tomorrow's problems,

Jealousy is the most regrettable temperament in normal human nature. A jealous person not only wants to cause misfortune and will take action if he can avoid punishment, but he himself will also be unhappy because of jealousy and not be happy because of what he has. Happy, but unhappy because of other people's possession.

Fortunately, there is an emotion called admiration in human nature that can compensate. Anyone who wants to improve the happiness of life must want to increase admiration and reduce jealousy.

A wise person will not stop enjoying his own happiness just because others have other things. For example, I earn a salary that can meet my needs. I should be satisfied, but I heard that someone earns twice as much as me. , and I think he is definitely not as good as me. If I were a jealous person, the original satisfaction would immediately dissipate and the feeling of unfairness would engulf me.

You can overcome jealousy by enjoying your happiness in the present moment, doing the work you have to do, and not comparing yourself to those who you imagine - perhaps very wrongly - to be luckier than you.

People may experience two painful emotions: one is called regret, which is futile; the other is called repentance, which can wash away sins

More or less, he regrets that he is not a saint. In fact, his standards of holiness are basically impossible to achieve in normal life. He often lives with a sense of guilt that he is not worthy of the best things, and his highest moments are when he confesses himself in a vulnerable way.

As long as the patient correctly diagnoses his or her problem and realizes that its root cause lies within himself and not in the imaginary hostility and malice of others, the problem can still be solved by the patient himself.

Rule 1: Remember, your motives are not always as altruistic as you think. Rule 2: Don’t overestimate your own value. Rule 3: Don’t expect others to pay attention to you as you pay attention to yourself. Article 4: Don’t assume that most people have special intentions to persecute you

Unless one's lifestyle and world view are generally recognized by those with whom one has social relations, especially those who live with oneself, few people can feel happy. A characteristic of modern society is that people are divided into different groups, and there are profound differences in moral values ​​and beliefs among the groups.

Ignorance of the world causes people to suffer a lot of unnecessary pain, sometimes only in their youth, but in many cases throughout their lives. This kind of isolation not only creates pain, but also makes people waste a lot of energy to maintain mental independence against the hostility around them. In the end, most likely people are afraid to follow the logical conclusions drawn by their own thinking.

Throughout his life, he had to force himself to hide his true hobbies and beliefs from the people he spent time with.

Therefore, whenever possible, young people who feel that they are incompatible with their environment should try to find other jobs to give themselves the opportunity to meet like-minded people.

The secret of happiness is: keep your interests as broad as possible, and express more kindness rather than hostility to the people and things you care about.

The inward-focused person often feels like there is nothing worth paying attention to, whereas the outward-focused person occasionally looks inward and finds that an incredibly rich variety of components has been analyzed and reorganized into beautiful or enlightening forms.

Maintain interest and desire to explore all kinds of things in life, and have such a strong interest in things you encounter by chance. The life of such a person will never be boring.

The best love is reciprocal help in life, which is received happily and given without reluctance. Because of this reciprocal happiness, the world becomes more interesting.

For most people, as long as they don't overwork themselves, boredom is easier to tolerate than doing nothing.

People are willing to work to avoid boredom. Although boring work is annoying, it is nothing compared to the boredom of doing nothing all day long. Another bonus related to this is that work makes vacations extra wonderful. As long as the work is not so heavy that it exhausts energy, a working person will definitely be more interested in his spare time than an idle person.

Killing time and providing some limited outlet for personal ambition are enough to make people with mundane jobs happier overall than people with nothing to do

All technical work is interesting as long as the technology is variable or can be improved. Without these conditions, when a person's skills reach their peak, the fun will come to an abrupt end.

The inability to focus on anything useless in life is a source of pain, depression and nervousness

It is so easy for us to focus on our goals, our circles, our own jobs, that we forget how small they are in human life, and what we do is insignificant to the whole world.

There is no husband who has never quarreled with his wife, no parent who has never worried about his child being sick, no businessman who has never encountered financial pressure, and no professional who has never experienced a work crisis. At these times, it is a great blessing to be able to let go of worries and have some leisure time. At these times, there is nothing to do but worry, so some people play chess, others read detective stories, Zhang San focuses on astronomy science, and Li Si reads archaeological excavations in Babylon. These people are all wise. In contrast, unwise people are completely troubled by worries, unable to distract their attention, and unable to take action when they really need to do it.

In the long run, nothing is most tiring and infuriating than struggling every day to believe something less and less believable. Putting an end to this striving is essential to achieving solid and lasting happiness.

The golden mean is a negative example: it is a boring truth, but in most things it is the truth. Finding a balance between effort and giving up is a manifestation of the golden mean.

The world is full of unavoidable misfortunes, physical illness and mental disorders, struggle, poverty and hatred. If you want to be happy, you have to find ways to deal with the many reasons why people are unhappy.

"Give up" appears here. For most people, giving up is an important orientation, because in a competitive society, outstanding success only belongs to a few people.

The correct attitude should be to do your best and listen to destiny. There are two types of giving up, one comes from despair and the other comes from unyielding hope. The first is harmful, the second is beneficial

Happiness must depend partly on the environment and partly on oneself. This book focuses on the self part. At this point in the discussion, we have found that happiness is a simple thing in terms of self factors.

Certain conditions are essential to most people's happiness, but they are commonplace things: food and shelter, health, love, work success, respect from peers, and for some people reproduction is also necessary.

As long as the external environment is not extremely bad and as long as a person's passions and interests are directed outward rather than inward, it is possible for him to achieve happiness. Therefore, in the process of education and adjustment to the world, we should strive to avoid self-indulgence in passions and acquire those passions and interests that will save us from self-indulgence.

Happy people live truly, they have free love and a wide range of interests. They grasp their own happiness through these emotions and interests, which in turn makes them the interests and love goals of many other people. The important source of happiness is getting love, but those who ask for love will not get it.