Emphasizes the uniqueness of each person and believes that psychological problems arise from how individuals understand their own lives

Original quote: “Each of us lives a unique life, and we cannot use our past as an excuse to limit our future possibilities.”

Example: A person chose to avoid social situations because of social anxiety in college, but after graduation, he decided to actively participate in social activities, overcome his anxiety through gradual contact, and show positive changes in his life.

Human behavior is to achieve a certain goal and is not simply influenced by past experiences.

Original quote: "Man is not bound by the past, but has the ability to shape the future through current choices."

Example: After losing his job, a young man chose to relearn and improve his skills instead of immersing himself in the emotion of loss, and finally found a job that was more in line with his interests.

Everyone has a unique life style that affects their behavior and the way they think

Original quote: “Lifestyle is developed during adolescence and affects how we view ourselves, others, and the world.”

Example: A person who developed an introverted personality as a result of their family environment may show avoidance of new relationships as an adult, while another person who grew up in an open environment may be more extroverted.

Used to be yourself and accept other people’s evaluations and opinions, especially when these opinions are inconsistent with self-identity

Original quote: “If you want to live a free life, you must have the courage to be hated.”

Example: An artist chooses to pursue his own creative style, and although many believe he should cater to market demands, he sticks to his ideas and ultimately wins appreciation and recognition.

Healthy relationships are based on respect for the independence of others

Original quote: "Relationships between people should be based on mutual recognition, and everyone should be treated as an independent individual."

Example: In teamwork, members should not allow differences of opinion to exist and respect each other's contributions rather than trying to convince each other to fully adopt their own views.

In interpersonal relationships, set reasonable boundaries to avoid emotional over-dependence.

Original quote: “Setting boundaries is a way of protecting yourself, not a rejection of others.”

Example: In a family, a person can clearly tell his family that he needs personal time to deal with work and emotional problems, rather than blindly catering to family expectations.

Individuals should realize that the current situation in life is the result of their own choices and not the direct result of the actions of others

Original quote: “Taking responsibility is the first step to self-growth.”

Example: A man complains about not being able to find his dream job, but eventually realizes that he needs to take the initiative to improve his skills rather than just wait for the opportunity.

Improve your life by changing your thinking and behavior patterns

Original quote: “We cannot change others, but we can choose to change our own reactions.”

Example: Someone who feels anxious in the face of stress at work may choose to reduce stress through meditation and exercise instead of continuing to complain about the work environment.

The meaning of life is to set and pursue personal goals, not to meet other people’s expectations

Original quote: "Everyone has the right to pursue their own goals, which is also the meaning of life."

Example: A person chooses to pursue interests outside of his job, such as learning a musical instrument, despite his family's wishes for him to focus on his career.

The meaning of life comes from contributions and impacts on others

Original quote: “True happiness comes from contribution to others, not from personal material satisfaction.”

Example: People who volunteer often report feeling happier and more content because they find meaning in their lives while helping others.

Record your emotions, thoughts and reactions every day, analyze when you are affected by other people's opinions, and help yourself understand your inner needs

Set specific small goals, gradually challenge yourself, and enhance your self-confidence, such as taking the initiative to speak in meetings and share your opinions.

Learn to set healthy boundaries in friendships, family, and work to express your needs and reduce emotional burdens

When communicating with others, use sentences that begin with "I" to express feelings, such as "I feel troubled because I need more time to deal with my things."

Be brave enough to pursue your own interests in career choices, be brave enough to express your own opinions, and seek self-worth.

Encourage team members to express different ideas, establish an open communication environment, and enhance teamwork

Maintain self-observation in daily life, record your own emotional reactions, and analyze them to understand your true inner needs.

Set small challenges every day, such as starting a conversation with a stranger or expressing yourself in a social setting

Join a book club, psychological growth group or online community to share growth experiences and challenges and support each other