He felt tired and helpless, and lost interest in everything in life

He has a strong sense of loneliness inside, and he always feels that no one can understand his problems.

Need self-salvation

Definition: Child self-state refers to the emotions and behaviors that people exhibit at certain moments similar to those in childhood. This state contains the emotional and easily hurt "child" in our hearts who will make us react the same way we did when we were young in some cases. Features: In this state, people may show basic emotions such as happiness, anger, sadness, fear, etc., which have nothing to do with actual age. For example, during the consultation process, Mr. Toad found that his "child self-state" was often in a state of helplessness and longing for love, which made him feel as wronged and innocent as he was when facing some situations as he was a child. help.

Definition: When in a "parent self-state", people act like their parents. This state contains all the values ​​and morals learned from parents since birth, and also contains the criteria for judging life, so that we can judge right and wrong. Features: In this state, people may teach, criticize or blame others like their parents, and may also show care and protection. For example, during the consultation process, Mr. Toad realized that there was a "parent self-state" in his heart that severely criticized himself and never received affirmation, which made him often criticize himself and find it difficult to accept his mother's self-state.

Definition: Adult self-state refers to the ability of people to think and respond rationally when facing reality, neither being bound by their parents’ dogmas nor being influenced by childhood emotions. Features: In this state, people can objectively analyze problems, make reasonable decisions, and communicate equally and rationally with others. For example, Mr. Toad gradually learned to use "adult self-state" to look at his emotions and behaviors during the consultation process. He began to realize that his emotions were not caused by others, but that he could choose how to deal with them.

How to solve problems with adult status

Hello, I'm

Hello, I'm not

You're not good, I'm fine

You are not good, I am not good

Causes of formation

Self-fulfilling prophecy is a psychological phenomenon that refers to people who will unconsciously act according to known prophecies and ultimately make prophecies a reality. It can also mean that expectations of others will affect the other party's behavior, causing the other party to act according to expectations

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How to break negative prophecies