“No one blames himself for anything in 100 times, even if the mistakes he made are serious”

“Criticism is useless because it makes people feel resistant and prompts him to try his best to defend himself, and criticism is also dangerous because he can hurt a person’s self-esteem and stir up his resentment.”

The more people want to be recognized by others, they will be afraid of being criticized. From a selfish perspective, you should improve yourself more than others, so that you can benefit yourself. Humans are not absolutely rational animals. People are born arrogant and hypocritical and easily resentful to others.

Doing something wrong will only blame others, and it is human nature to not reflect on yourself. Those who we want to blame or criticize will surely find ways to justify ourselves and even condemn us in turn. "The Legend of Lincoln": Never ridicule others anymore, and never criticize anyone for anything. The established facts cannot be recovered. "If Lincoln (Chairman Mao) had encountered such difficulties that I face, what would he do? How would he solve this problem?"

Don't comment on people, so as not to be evaluated by others. Sharp criticism and rebuke will not get the results you want. Franklin: I won’t say anything bad to anyone, I just praise him for his good things. The greatness of a great man can be expressed by how he treats a humble man.

"Father's Confession": Child, you have many advantages in nature, but I have too high expectations of you and use your own age standards to demand you. You are just a child. Let us try to understand others and not blame others blindly. Think about why they do that from the perspective of others. Understanding is more useful than blaming. Understanding can make people tolerant and inspire kindness.

"The only way to make you willingly do anything is to give you what you need."

"If anyone can sincerely satisfy the inner desires of others, they can hold people in his palms."

"The people we deal with are ordinary people who need recognition and appreciation. They will be inspired by your praise."

"Where you need warmth, try to pave a friendly road with the spark of gratitude"

"Please let go of your utilitarianism and desires, try to discover the strengths of others, and then put aside hypocrisy, sincerely and sincerely praise them"

Psychologist Freud: Whatever does originate from two fundamental motivations, one is the sexual impulse, and the other is the desire to succeed. The deepest impulse in human nature is "desire to be valued." In the hallucination of the insanity, the sense of attention that cannot be obtained in the real world can be found.

Leaders who know how to manage: Constantly encourage my employees with words of praise and stimulate their potential. I praise others, motivate others but are unwilling to criticize others, and never stingy with praise words and sincere praise. Compared to criticism, you will perform better by putting more effort in situations of appreciation.

Andrew Carnegie Inscription: The people buried here know to hire people smarter than himself. Never take the efforts of your partner in your family for granted. If you run a good family, you must make necessary affirmations and praises. What children want most is recognition and appreciation from their parents. "I really can't find a place that needs to be perfected, I love you now."

Sincere praise can change a person's life. Don’t be afraid of enemies with strong military strength, but just flattering friends. Mocking and condemnation cannot change the status quo, but sincere praise can lead to change. The family and employees' desire for praise is no less than the desire for food.

Emerson: "There are certainly some things that I meet in one aspect that I have improved by learning their strengths."

“Talking about his needs is the only way to influence others”

"If there is a secret to success, it is to understand his thoughts from the perspective of others."

"If you want others to listen, your primary way is to trigger strong desires from others."

"The winner sits in the world, and the loser walks alone"

Bad from fish: caring about your own needs is normal. In other words, others won’t care what you value, they only care about what they want. The only way to influence others is to take the other person’s needs as the starting point.

Before starting to persuade others, stop and ask yourself: How can I make the other party willing to do what I want him to do? Henry Ford: If there is a secret to success, it is to understand his ideas from the perspective of others. Those who think about others from the perspective of others and care about others' needs, World 7 has prepared rewards for him.

One of the most fundamental needs of human nature is to prove yourself. When we have a good opinion, we don’t have to express it as our own ideas. The best way is to induce others and let others come up with the same solution. For example, let children gain a sense of accomplishment and value.

If you want others to listen to you, the first way is to arouse others' strong desires. The winner will hold the world, and the loser will walk alone.

“If you can really pay attention to others, you may get a lot of attention.”

“If we want to gain a sincere friendship, we must do things for others sincerely and do things that take time and energy.”

“Express sincere interest and attention to others.”

If you want to win the welcome from others, you must greet the other person enthusiastically and do the same when making the phone call. Let the other party feel that you are very happy when talking to him. Everyone likes the person who admires them.

Only when we pay attention to others will others follow us. You must care about others from the bottom of your heart, so that you can win-win results.

"The power of action is better than any language."

"A smile from the heart can warm the other person's heart, and this smile can make you go all the way."

"If you want others to be happy with you, then you must first keep a happy mood and get along with others."

“Whether you are happy or not depends on what you have, who you are, where you are or what you are doing, but on your inner sense of happiness.”

The power of action is better than any language. A smile conveys your heart: I like you very much, what you do makes me happy, and I am very happy to see you. ” Remove words like criticism from your dictionary and replace them with appreciation and praise. Keep smiling when you get along with others every day and every moment, and persistence will have unexpected results

The best way to create happiness is to do things happily and speak happily, just like we are already very happy. Control our thoughts by adjusting behaviors, such as humming small songs, stretching, and showing a smile, to control our own thoughts. Happiness depends on inner thoughts rather than external conditions.

Shakespeare: There is no distinction between good and bad in the world, but people's ideas distinguish them. There is an old saying: Don’t open a shop without a smile.

The meaning of a smile: He does not ask for a single piece but is worthless; he enriches the recipient, but does not allow the giver to suffer any loss; it happens in a moment, but it is remembered for life; no matter how rich you are, you must have it in life; no matter how poor you are, you cannot lack it in life; the happiness of home is created by it; the kindness of work is obtained by it; friendship between friends is reflected through it; it is a magic weapon to relieve fatigue, the dawn of the frustrated, the hope of the sad, and the natural antidote to troubles.

"Ordinary people are always interested in their own names than they are interested in other people's names."

“It is equally important to remember other people’s names, whether in business or social interaction.”

“Remember someone’s name so that he can feel his importance.”

“Everyone has absolute ownership of his name and no one can violate or deprive it.”

"Praise others from the heart, and never be stingy with words of praise."

“Caring and listening to others, asking questions that others are willing to answer, and encouraging them to talk about their experiences and achievements”

“The person you talk to is far more interested in yourself, about what you want and the problems you face than you and the problems you face.”

"Very few people are resistant to sincere praise." Listening is the highest affirmation we can give to the speaker. In real life, all they want is a feeling of being valued. Listening is a rare quality in an art. Most people care about what they want to say next, not paying attention to what others are saying.

"Of course I believe that every time I talk to you, you put down what you have and listen carefully to me. So you love me very much." People with grievances and complaints will calm down in front of a patient and compassionate audience.

If you want to be an excellent talker, you must first be a person who knows how to listen, care about others and listen to others, ask them, answer questions from afar, and encourage them to talk about their experiences and achievements.

“The convenient way to the heart of the people is to talk about what they care about the most.”

“Talking about his interests with the other party can lead to a win-win situation.”

Why are those who deal with Roosevelt surprised at his extensive knowledge? Whenever someone wants to visit him, he will learn about the topics that the other party is interested in in advance the night before. Find the other party’s interest to summon his enthusiasm.

“Always make others feel that they are important.”

"You should treat you the same way you need others."

“If you want to go deep into their hearts, then you have to let them know that you really think they are important and from the bottom of your heart they are important.”

Deep in the roots of human nature, we all yearn for recognition and appreciation from others. "If you want others, give your own deeds first." Everyone is eager to get the attention of others: you are very important. "I believe the other party will not get bored for hours after talking about themselves."

"There is only one way to win arguments, that is, never argue."

"Argument will never resolve misunderstandings. Only by taking a step back and being willing to understand other people's ideas can you resolve disputes between people."

In the debate, 90% ended in this way: neither side gave in and believed that what they had mastered was the truth. Never expect to win in an argument, even if you win an argument, you will actually lose. Because the other party will not recognize you from the bottom of his heart. Because your attitude makes her uncomfortable.

One of the most common weaknesses in human nature, hope to be taken seriously. Only when you are willing to understand other people's thoughts can you resolve disputes between people. Lincoln: Great men will not waste time on quarrels. It makes no sense to act voluntarily, it will only make your temper more irritable and your self-control will decrease. Instead of fighting with the dog, let it pass first, because if you kill that dog, you will not be intact.

Throwing away those preconceived ideas is not only one value in this world, don’t understand but show respect. To give the other party a chance to speak, you must patiently listen to the other party finishing the words.

"If one of us is angry, then the other person must listen quietly. Because if both of us roar, there is no way to continue communicating. We promised that no matter how many dissatisfaction we have in the future, we should not violate this agreement, record and take screenshots to collect evidence"

"Never say to others: I'll tell you what you did wrong." Don't be a good teacher.

"Maybe I was wrong. I often make mistakes. We can study them together." Learn to give a step.

"Proactively admitting mistakes to the other party will keep you away from disputes, and the other party will be infected by your atmosphere. The other party will be more honest and even show friendship to you."

If you can't even reach the 50% accuracy rate, then what qualifications do you have to blame others? Sharp blame makes things more difficult. Actually you are right, but you hurt their pride and self-esteem, and all they have to do is refute you.

Galileo: You have no way to teach others anything, all you can do is to guide others to discover. Teach people invisibly and call their ignorance more forgetfulness, so that people can receive teachings. You are smarter than everyone, but don't tell them about this. Socrates: The only thing I know is that I know nothing.

"My thoughts and you are slightly different. Maybe I am wrong. I often make mistakes. If you find out what my mistake is, please tell me and we can study it together." "Our service will definitely be negligent. I am very sorry for this. This matter is also our problem. Please tell me the details." Respect the opinions put forward by our customers will give us an advantage in the competition.

We always believe in those cognitions that have been formed long ago. Once those supposed facts are questioned, we will become resistant and we must find some reasons to stick to our own position. This is also the weakness of human nature. We rarely think from the perspective of others and express understanding.

In most cases, we are very clear about the mistakes we make. When someone makes a clever and modest evaluation of it, we are willing to admit the mistakes we make and even be proud of our honesty. However, if the other party is arrogant and does not save face, it will only be offensive.

If you are not allowed to use clear opinions, such as "of course, it is undeniable, it is definitely the case" too firm. Try to say "I guess, I think, I'm worried, I think that's what I think, I think it might be like this." It's not aggressive. Even if you find that others have wrong views, you must restrain your desire to refute and not immediately refute and expose it. Humility expression is easier for others to accept. Develop a habit of restraining rebuttal and stop saying arbitrary words.

Don’t argue with your customers, your lover, and your opponents, don’t point out or criticize the mistakes they make, don’t conflict with them, learn to deal with them skillfully.

“It’s much more comfortable to criticize yourself than to be scolded by others.”

"Acknowledging mistakes will not only resolve disputes and ease the atmosphere, but also solve problems caused by mistakes in many cases."

"You will never be satisfied by competing for you. Only by knowing humility can you gain unexpected benefits."

You should help the other party say what he wants to say before he speaks. In most cases, the other party will become magnanimous and thus minimize your mistakes. The other party also desires to be valued and respected.

Of course, our views are correct, and we must convince the other party through clever and gentle language; when there is a problem with our views, we must be honest and admit our mistakes to the other party immediately. It is far more pleasant to admit mistakes than to argue fearlessly.

"If a person is full of resentment towards you, even if you use all your strength, there is no way to convince him to stand on your side."

"A drop of honey attracts flies more than a gallon of bile."

Imagine when you get furious and can't help but teach others a lesson, your emotions are vented, but what about the other party, can you share your pleasure with him? Can your provocative tone and hostile attitude really make the other party recognize your point of view?

Learn to use a lot of gentle, friendly words: It’s a privilege, a common friendship or interest, thank you for your tolerance and recognition... You can’t force others to agree with your views, but if you use a gentle and friendly attitude, maybe they will involuntarily agree with your views.

"The Story of the Sun and the Wind" The Sun said to the Wind that gentleness and friendship are always stronger than mania and force. The sun is more likely to take off your coat faster than the wind, and the kind-hearted and friendly and complimentary conversation is more acceptable.

"When you start communicating with people, the most important thing is to recognize the other person's point of view first. When you first start the conversation, the more "yes" you get, the greater your chances of your point of view being accepted."

"Next time we want to point out the other party's mistakes, using Socrates' strategy to ask questions is to ask questions gently, a question that can make the other party say "yes" until the other party inadvertently draws a conclusion that he did not agree with a few minutes ago.

When communicating with others, don’t rush to express your different opinions. Please first emphasize what views you agree with. If possible, you should explain to the other party that your original intention and purpose are the same. Your differences are just different methods.

Try to make the other party approve of you from the beginning, try to make the other party say "yes", and don't give the other party the chance to say "no". People who are good at talking always make the other person nod and say yes at the beginning, so that the other person's psychological foundation can be laid and the other person's psychological activities develop in a positive direction.

"You must listen patiently to the other party's words, be sincere, and encourage them to express all their ideas and opinions."

"Even when talking with good friends, everyone hopes that they can be the protagonist of the conversation, rather than listening to the other person's blind boasting."

Instead of chatting about your own opinions, gaining convincing others. It’s better to give the other party some time and let the other party express their own ideas, because the other party knows your own difficulties and problems better than you. You might as well ask the other party questions and let them tell you the answer directly. Wouldn’t that be better?

Thinking of others as the main characters in the conversation may result even more unexpectedly. All successful people like to recall the past struggle history. Let others become the main characters in conversation, show concern and admiration to others, and ultimately you will be recognized by others, so talk less and listen more.

"If you want to make enemies, you must surpass your friends. If you want to make friends, you must let friends surpass you." When friends surpass you, they will feel a sense of pride and satisfaction that they are valued. When you surpass your friends, at least some of them will feel inferior and become jealous of you.

We don’t want others to force our things to ourselves, nor do we want others to force us to do something. We hope we can buy what we like and do what we like. We hope others care about our thoughts and wishes.

“Make others feel that this is done according to his ideas, and this approach applies not only to business and politics, but also to families.”

Even if a person does something wrong, he will never think that he is wrong. So don’t blame him, but regard it as a wise, tolerant and outstanding person, and try to understand it. Put your heart in your heart, your heart is my heart. Think from others' perspective and ask yourself: If I were him, would the reaction be more intense than him?

All people’s thoughts and behaviors have a certain basis. As long as you find the root cause, you can understand his behavior and even see his personality clearly. Therefore, you must think about the problem from the other party’s standpoint.

If you want the other person to have a heart-to-heart talk with you, please pay attention to others as much as you value your own feelings; if you want the other person to be willing to accept your views, then you must first accept the other person's views. Just like during an interview, you can go in for an interview before thinking about his interests and motivations from the perspective of the interviewer.

"I agree with and understand your point of view very much. If it were me, I would have the same feelings as you." This sentence can calm disputes, eliminate suspicion and arouse favorable feelings, and also make others listen to your words carefully. For those unpleasant emotions, compassion can play a key regulatory role.

Of the people you meet, 90% yearn for mercy, so please give them some mercy and sympathy. They will definitely appreciate you in particular. "I really appreciate your attitude. I must be a good person. I am very happy to have the opportunity to communicate with you."

"Educational Psychology": Everyone wants to get sympathy, and children also like to show their fragile side, and even hurt themselves to gain sympathy from others. From a certain perspective, most people will "self-pleasant" for their real or imagined misfortunes.

"People always like to idealize themselves, prefer to believe in those noble excuses, and hope to have the opportunity to become noble people in people's minds."

Even if you are a person who deliberately deceives you, if you assume he is sincere and upright, he does not want to let down your trust, so we must inspire his noble motivation. Most people are honest and they really want to maintain this correctness once they think their behavior is correct.

This is a dramatic era, and it is far from enough to state the facts alone. We must present things to the public in a vivid, interesting and humorous way.

Overcoming the fear of failure is the biggest challenge in the world. Successful people hope to have an opportunity to show themselves to surpass others and succeed, thereby proving their value. Arouse the other party’s desire for competition, desire for challenge and sense of competition.

Use provocation to unexpectedly use unexpected methods. Inspire people's desire for victory and the desire for being valued. "Young man, if you are scared, I won't blame you. After all, it's a dangerous place, and only big people with high abilities can gain a foothold there."

Give affirmation before criticizing others, which will make people more accepting. Weighing is like an anesthetic used by a dentist when extracting teeth. Although the tooth shape still makes the patient feel uncomfortable, anesthetics can effectively relieve pain.

When getting along with sensitive people, directly mentioning their mistakes will make them feel strongly disgusted, but indirect points out them have very good results. It would be even better to turn "but" into "if it is...

If you lay the groundwork before criticizing others, it is not perfect to say that you are. Then what you say next will not be so difficult to accept. Before you are ready to criticize others, calm down and remind yourself: Wait a little longer, do you have to criticize? How should I say that it can make him better accept and not disgusted?

"Dare to admit your own mistakes, but in fact, they have not corrected these mistakes. They can also make others believe that you have reformed. This attitude is worthy of recognition."

"Dawei, you just made a mistake, but compared to the mistakes I made before, it is very light and not worth mentioning. Of course, this cannot be blamed on you. To do things well, you need rich experience. It is not born to do things well. But you can think about how to solve them. I believe you can do better." If you belittle yourself and raise others appropriately, you can gain a sense of importance and good impression of you, and you will be more likely to control the rhythm.

"Everyone will not truly obey the arrogant instructions given by the leader. Turning the order into a question will not only sound comfortable, but will also inspire others' creativity." Excellent leaders will use a tone of suggestions to communicate with their subordinates, rather than giving orders directly to their subordinates.

“If the other party is involved in the decision-making process, the other party will be more willing to accept the order.”

"Do you think this is OK?" If we express it this way, will the effect be better? ”

"Even if we are all right and others make mistakes, if we make others lose face, it will only lead to self-destruction of their own image and make enemies everywhere."

We don’t care about trampling on other people’s emotions and are determined to be self-righteous. We criticize our children and their subordinates in front of others without realizing that this hurts their self-esteem. In fact, just say a few warm words and feel other people’s thoughts with all their hearts, they will greatly relieve their inner pain.

We are not qualified to blame or even do things that make the other party destroy their image. It doesn’t matter how I see him. What matters is how he knows himself. It is a crime and the stupidest social behavior to hurt others’ self-esteem.

Master’s skill of controlling people: “I didn’t expect that the leader not only did not scold me, but also expressed his gratitude to me. He encouraged me to say that making mistakes on new projects is inevitable. He believed that the report I made again would be accurate. In front of all my colleagues, he gave me enough confidence and courage.”

"People all want to get praise and recognition from others, and often we are willing to give more to be able to get praise and recognition from others."

"No one wants to listen to false praise. The potential abilities are like buds, they will wither in criticism and bloom in motivation."

Expansion can be as warm as the sun, and we cannot grow and bloom without it. Why don’t we praise others instead of criticizing and accuse them? It doesn't matter if they just make the slightest progress, and praising others helps to make them progress and struggle.

"Emphasizing praise and weakening criticism" will strengthen people's good character, and those bad behaviors will gradually disappear because no one pays attention to it. Many parents are used to yelling and communicating with their children, but after factual argumentation, after parents criticize their children loudly, the children become worse. We should try not to hold back the mistakes they make, but praise them for their good things. Excellent results are exchanged for praise for their small progress.

"Praise people and give details", the concrete praise seems more sincere, making people understand that these praises are based on evidence and are not casual words of comfort.

Your compliments can enable others to discover their potential abilities. An outstanding leader never stings with complimenting others, and never lets go of small progress.

“If you want someone to improve in a certain area, you must show that you have trusted him in that area.”

"Give a good reputation to others, and they will work hard for this good name and do their best to live up to you."

If he is given praise and encouragement, so that this matter can be completed easily, so that he can feel your confidence in him, and believe that he has such ability, then his potential talent will be mobilized. On the contrary, it is to destroy others, learn to discover others' strengths, and downplay others' mistakes.

The importance of giving others praise, encouragement and downplaying mistakes is like the sword of the Heaven Sword and the Dragon Slaying Sword.

"Forget your own self-interest and pay more attention to the other party's interests. Look at the problem from the other party's standpoint and think clearly about what others really need."

"When you make a request, explain to the other party how he can benefit from it, what benefits or what risks he can avoid."

① Be realistic and do not make promises that you cannot fulfill, forget your own selfish interests, and pay more attention to the other party’s interests. ② I know very clearly what you want others to do. ③ Look at the problem from the other party’s standpoint and think clearly about what others really need. ④Imagine what benefits can he get from it if someone really does what you suggest. ⑤Compare the benefits others can get from it with their needs. ⑥ When you make a request, explain to the other party how he can benefit from it.

"Endless quarrels are the most powerful weapon to destroy marriage and love. If you want a happy marriage, remember not to complain and blame endlessly."

The only last words left by Tolstoy before his death were to refuse to meet his wife. Can complaining and venting emotions really solve the problem wisely?

The reason why most men choose to give up their wives is due to their endless complaints and accusations. The wife's step by step sends marriage to the grave

"The most important thing in interacting with people is to learn to respect the other person and not interfere too much with his unique lifestyle." Love also needs to give him private space. Learn to communicate with non-violently and listen to the feelings and needs behind the contradictions in problems.

Home should be a place where people can relax, a harbor where you can quietly enjoy love. A couple is a confidante, a friend and a consultant. A successful marriage is not only about finding a suitable partner, but more importantly, you must also be a competent partner. Don't blame each other, respect, support and be inclusive.

More than half of the failed marriages are mostly due to accusations, which have no effect and heartbreaking reproach. A family full of blame cannot be happy.

“Men should give sincere praise to the effort women spend on dressing and dressing. Praise is an expression of emotional value that is not cost-effective but has excellent results.

When most men look for their partner, they are not looking for a capable woman, but looking for a woman who can satisfy their vanity, make them feel superior, and appreciate themselves.

"Although she is not very beautiful, I am very happy to chat with her. No one has ever made me feel so accomplished."

Boys in the upper class of France have received such training. They know how to praise the lady appropriately, and even praise it several times in a day. Make polite and sincere praise a habit for you.

If a wife wants to reflect all her happiness in her husband, then the husband must not forget to give the other person sincere praise.

"Women attach great importance to programs like birthdays or anniversary. Do not ignore some small details, heartwarming words and small gifts. This small action will make the other person feel that you are thinking about it every moment. You hope he can be happy and slowly have the value of love and emotionality."

Flowers symbolize love. Seasonal flowers are easy to buy and are not expensive. There are always discounted flowers on the street, but there are only a handful of men when they buy flowers and go home. Why do you have to wait until your wife falls ill before choosing to send flowers? Why don’t you choose to give her a bouquet of roses tomorrow?

Most unfortunate marriages are caused by trivial matters. In fact, when the husband is at work, the wife gently says goodbye to the husband, so a simple thing can prevent a tragedy of divorce. Experts never allow themselves to be so busy that they don’t even have time to care about the other person and give them a little surprise.

"Eating breakfast in bed brings women no less happiness than the satisfaction brought by a private club to men." "I won't suffer from losing love, but the subtlety is that it has countless scars. Love is between little things, and it disappears after enough disappointment."

"A ordinary person with a happy marriage will be much happier than a lonely genius."

"Rude is the poison that ruins love. If you want your family to live happily, you must respect the other person's feelings." However, we often treat strangers more politely than family members. Often those mean insults and sad words come from our families.

"Peace is a special temperament. Others make people ignore the dilapidated courtyard gate and thus carefully appreciate the blooming flowers in the garden." A few words of praise, a affectionate kiss, and a passionate hug can make the family happy all day.

Even if an excellent person encounters setbacks at work, he will not bring bad emotions to his home. It is unfortunate to bear these pains alone. If he brings these bad emotions to his family, wouldn’t that be a big mistake? Before entering the house, you should leave all the troubles you encounter during the day when you work.

Turgenev: If there was a lady in the world who would care about me every night and whether she could go home for dinner early, I would be willing to give up all my talents and works for him, and even give up all my works.

A person's chance of success in marriage is higher than his chance of success in any career. But 99% of men will not manage their marriage as hard as their career. For women, the husband's gentle words are far better than rough commands.

Human beings have so many reference books and have been exposed to a lot of education, but they have destroyed a happy and fulfilling marriage life because they ignore the most primitive nature of human beings. Sexual disorders are the main reason for divorce. Marriage experts have investigated the reasons for the failure of marital status of countless couples. The first is inconsistent sexual life, economic, mental and physical conditions. Take the initiative to read some books about sex and marriage, sex is an indispensable seasoning in marriage.

Husband’s chapter: ① Do you often show your kindness to your wife, occasionally giving her a bouquet of flowers, and will you surprise your wife on her birthday and your wedding anniversary? ②Do you never blame her in front of others? ③ In addition to the normal expenses at home, will she give her pocket money to her own control? ④Do you try your best to understand her changing emotions and help her get through the extraordinary period of tension, worry and irritability? ⑤Do you spend half of your entertainment time with your wife? ⑥Do you avoid comparing your wife’s cooking skills and ability to manage the house with your colleagues or neighbor’s wives (except what she is good at)? ⑦ Will you really pay attention to her spiritual life and hobbies, such as what kind of books she likes to read, what kind of programs she watch, and what her opinions on social issues? ⑧ Can you tolerate her dancing with other men and allow her to communicate normally with other men? ⑨Will you find an opportunity to praise her and express your love for her? ⑩ Will you express your gratitude for some of the small things she did for you, such as sewing buttons for you for breakfast and sending your clothes to the laundry?

Wife's chapter: ① Do you not restrict your husband's freedom, will not criticize his colleagues, nor will you restrict who he wants to be an assistant? ② Will you clean up your home so that your husband likes it? ③Will you change different food recipes to make delicious and healthy food for your husband? ④Do you have a further understanding of your husband’s work and give your own advice appropriately? ⑤If the family expenses are not enough, can you face it bravely and optimistically instead of complaining about it and not compare it with some successful people? ⑥ Do you care about establishing good relationships with his family and relatives? ⑦ Will you choose the style and color of clothing for your husband according to your preferences? ⑧Will you compromise appropriately when you have disagreements? ⑨Do you know your husband’s hobbies, such as outdoor sports such as playing ball, swimming, fishing, etc., and are willing to spend leisure time with him? ⑩ Do you often read news, read new books, and try to accept new ideas in order to gain insight into your husband’s spiritual world?