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The Courage to Be Disliked, a great psychological book, Meet Too Late, is a book worth reading for those who want to understand Adlerian psychology, improve self-awareness, and improve the quality of life. . The sooner you read, the sooner you understand, the sooner you realize, the sooner you move towards happiness.
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The courage to be hated
Whose fault is our misfortune?
Adlerian psychology denies the existence of psychological trauma and is opposed to Freud
Anger is deliberately fabricated as a means to achieve one's own ends.
People can change, the only one who can change is yourself
Accept yourself
What matters is not what is given, but how to use what is given
Your misfortunes are all your own choices
Make up your mind not to change
Your life depends on "now"
All troubles come from interpersonal relationships
Why do you "hate" yourself? good for yourself
Make up your mind that you don’t like yourself
Blushing due to fear of rejection
Fear of being disliked by others and fear of being hurt in relationships
The feeling of inferiority comes from subjective fabrication
Inferiority complex = worthlessness, inferiority
155Height depends on how I look at it and what value I give it
Inferiority is just an excuse
Pursuing superiority to get rid of the feeling of powerlessness, but unable to achieve the ideal, using the inferiority complex as an excuse to maintain the status quo
Conceit and inferiority are all weapons
A superiority complex, to gain recognition from those around you, and to use misfortune as a weapon to dominate the other party's "weak privileges" and "special weapons"
Life is not a competition with others
The starting point is different, but equal. Walking on a level where there is no vertical axis. The value lies in constantly surpassing oneself.
The only one who cares about your appearance is you
Competition can unconsciously see other people and even the whole world as enemies.
Seeing other people's happiness as one's own failure and being unable to bless them
Power struggle and revenge
If you fail, you will take revenge, revenge on others or even your parents. If you win, it will become a cheap pursuit of superiority, hoping to gain attention.
Admitting your mistakes does not mean you have failed
There is no need to rely on anger as a tool, there are other communication
Trying to make the other side submit and prove you are right can lead to a power struggle
Three major issues in life
Work
make friends
like
"The Lie of Life" teaches us how to escape
transfer of responsibility
Adlerian psychology is the "psychology of courage" and the "psychology of use"
Go to hell with anyone who interferes with you
Freedom means no longer seeking approval, denying the need to seek approval from others
"Reward and punishment" education that meets other people's requirements cannot lead to one's own life
Solution: Separate topics, separate yourself from other people’s topics
The only one who can change yourself is yourself
You can take a horse to water, but you cannot force it to drink.
Put aside other people’s issues and lighten the burden of life
Don’t interfere, and don’t let others interfere with your own issues.
Freedom is not about obeying other people's wishes and being a slave to desires and impulses that don't want to be disliked.
True freedom is an attitude that pushes you up from below
Freedom means being hated by others. This is the price of freedom. It doesn't matter if others hate it. That is other people's problem.
You must hold the interpersonal relationship king card in your own hands just to change yourself, and do not use manipulating others as a means to change yourself.
A sense of community is the most important indicator of happy interpersonal relationships
See others as partners and feel "there is a place" in them
Turn your obsession with yourself into concern for others
Have the courage to be hated
"Desperately demanding recognition" is self-centered and obsessed with oneself
A lifestyle that only cares about what others think is a self-centered lifestyle that cares about me.
You are not the center of the world, just the center of the world map
The globe can have countless centers. Everyone is part of the community, not the center.
A sense of belonging is not something you are born with
You have to get it with your own hands
Treat others as partners
Difficulties in interpersonal relationships or lack of exit
Listen to the voice of the greater community
Use sugar or whip, criticism and praise are all for manipulation, it is a vertical comparison of superiors and inferiors.
Horizontal equality should be established, different but equal
"Encouragement", get thanks
People will know that they can contribute something to others. People can only gain courage when they can feel that they are valuable.
When you realize "I am useful to the community"
Existence is value
Both good and bad
No matter where you are, you can have an equal relationship
If you can build a horizontal relationship, it’s a major lifestyle change
Serious life "live in the moment"
Not to affirm oneself, but to accept oneself
How to do it?
self-acceptance
Niebuhr Prayer: Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
trust in others
Credit is different from trust, trust is unconditional
Betrayal is someone else’s problem
Only by doing these two things can you treat others as partners
Contributions from others
The essence of work is contribution to others
A means to realize the value of "me"
Workaholism is a lie in life
Interface used to escape other responsibilities
Only look at part of things (10 people, 1 hates you, 2 like you, 7 neither like you nor hate you)
A lifestyle that lacks harmony in life
You can become happy from this moment on
As long as it can produce a "sense of contribution", happiness is a "sense of contribution"
The subjective feeling of being useful to others, that is, the sense of contribution
Happiness is based on a sense of contribution that has its own premise, otherwise it will turn into a desire for recognition.
The courage to be ordinary
Life is a series of moments
Life is not a line, but a succession of points, a succession of moments.
Life is always in a state of completion. The biggest lie is not to live in the "now and now"
Dance life
Life is a continuous dance of moments, each moment spinning and dancing.
As long as the "here and now" of dancing is fulfilled, it is enough
The most important thing is "at this moment"
If you focus a strong spotlight on the "now and now", you will lose sight of neither the past nor the future.
What happened in the past has nothing to do with "this moment", and what the future will be like is not a question to be considered at "this moment".
The meaning of life is determined by yourself
There is no universal meaning of life. The meaning of life is what you give yourself.
If "I" changes, "the world" will change. The world cannot be changed by others, but only by "I".