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It’s truly a beacon of light on the difficult journey of intimacy, and when you set out to find true love, you embark on a journey of self-discovery.

Why are relationship problems never solved? After solving one problem, we soon encounter the next problem, and we continue to struggle with problems throughout our lives?

Why do you constantly pursue and improve yourself throughout your life, but still often fall into loss, self-blame, powerlessness, and fear when it comes to relationships?

The switch to happiness that allows you to experience and truly believe in an intimate relationship is in your own hands

Let you personally experience and initially master the basic tools to help people around you get out of pain and win back power.

from human nature

Three important roles of a partner

If you want to become an emotionally mature person, you need to break through this protective mechanism, face your feelings, and discover the most amazing secrets of the soul.

body

Heart

spirit

Wrong relationship

Intimacy is an art that expresses the highs and lows of life.

Write down all the good things you found in your partner when you first met, and add the good things you have done with them so far.

Write down the flaws you see in the other person.

Put the two tables together to calculate whether the intimacy score is positive or negative.

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The expected purpose is to satisfy the needs, and two things will inevitably happen in the process.

Better approach

Four deviant behaviors

Everything depends on your intention.

When you are initially attracted to someone, it is usually because of emotional needs.

Most of these needs arise from unmet needs in childhood. Two major needs of young children are a sense of belonging and validation of their own importance.

You will use the qualities of your dream lover as criteria for finding a partner. Subconsciously, you compare your prospective lover with your dream lover, and choose the one who is most similar to your dream lover as your goal.

You then proceed to transform the chosen person into your ideal lover through stated or implicit expectations and demands. You believe that if your partner becomes just like the person of your dreams, you'll get the love you've longed for. You keep making demands of your lover, thinking that if he or she "really loves me," he or she will comply.

You will eventually find that your needs are not fully met, and you will feel disappointed or even resentful. If you feel resentful, this means that the first phase of the halo phenomenon is over and you have entered the second phase of intimacy - disillusionment.

If you want to get through the halo phenomenon safely, you have to learn to let go and accept. If you can stop imposing your needs on your partner, you can find what you really need within yourself. Freed from the constraints of need, you can experience pure love. Then, there are more things you can share with your lover. In addition, learning to accept your partner (without abusing your tolerance) also allows you to learn to accept yourself as you are and stop thinking you need something to make you whole. After learning to let go and accept, you will definitely understand that you are a complete individual and everything you need exists in your heart.

At this stage you will realize how sacred intimacy actually is.

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Ways to deal with painful emotions

Most of these needs arise from unmet needs in childhood. Two major needs of young children are a sense of belonging and validation of their own importance.

Childhood needs are the skeleton on which the blueprint of the dream lover is built. You trust that the person of your dreams will satisfy all your needs, especially the need to be someone special. As you get older, your dream man's blueprint becomes more complex and your expectations become higher.

You will use the qualities of your dream lover as criteria for finding a partner. Subconsciously, you compare your prospective lover with your dream lover, and choose the one who is most similar to your dream lover as your goal.

You then proceed to transform the chosen person into your ideal lover through stated or implicit expectations and demands. You believe that if your partner becomes just like the person of your dreams, you'll get the love you've longed for. You keep making demands of your lover, thinking that if he or she "really loves me," he or she will comply.

You will eventually find that your needs are not fully met, and you will feel disappointed or even resentful. If you feel resentful, this means that the first phase of the halo phenomenon is over and you have entered the second phase of intimacy - disillusionment.

If you want to get through the halo phenomenon safely, you have to learn to let go and accept. If you can stop imposing your needs on your partner, you can find what you really need within yourself. Freed from the constraints of need, you can experience pure love. Then, there are more things you can share with your lover. In addition, learning to accept your partner (without abusing your tolerance) also allows you to learn to accept yourself as you are and stop thinking you need something to make you whole. After learning to let go and accept, you will definitely understand that you are a complete individual and everything you need exists in your heart.

If you're treating your partner as a vehicle to provide you with personal satisfaction, you're likely to conclude by now that the spark of love has died down and it's time to leave.

To break through these seemingly impenetrable barriers, we must learn the art of "walking through walls."

During the introspective stage, there is an opportunity to understand that the problem is really just an indicator of something far more important than the person who is suffering.

Common Principles of Intimacy

Giving sincerely is a completely different experience. It doesn't ask for anything in return. Be open to acceptance.

the nature of doubt

What the heart and soul care most about is not whether you stay or stay in an intimate relationship, but what can be done to help you understand your true self. If you are willing to follow your heart, you will naturally understand how to deal with intimate relationships.

Forget yesterday, step out of your heart and take a big step outward.

Hugging your lover feels like you are being hugged too.

"Intimacy is the Bridge to the Soul" Two people in love created a Garden of Eden on earth and opened the door to heaven. Every encounter you have with someone becomes a sacred encounter because you discover your true self in others. Identify who is the truly wise master. In an intimate relationship, one must follow the guidance of the soul and integrate personality and soul energy. Learn to master yourself and stay away from the temptations of society.