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Everyone can become the "humanistic ancestor" of his own family. Everything starts from me, from me, from determination, from our aspirations, from learning and change, to straighten out the positive and negative energy of our family. Then we will practice it, cultivate ourselves and our family, starting from each of us, so that our family can be happy, our family will be happy, and our society will be harmonious.
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"Let Love Come Home" Mind map notes
Author introduction: Li Xinyi
Books written: "The Four Precepts of Liaofan·Interpretation" and "Chess and Tao"
Founder: Zhonghe Life, Xinyi Psychological Brand
Nearly 40 years: Engaged in psychological counseling and research
Good at: handling various psychological crises and emotions
Research and develop 3 major technologies: I Ching applied psychology technology, subconscious situation dialogue technology, and family energy analysis technology
Lecture 1: The Key to Control Your Destiny
Thoughts determine the rise and fall of a family
Parents’ thoughts and thoughts are writing the underlying code of people’s life status.
Thought is a kind of energy, people live in one thought
People can "change their minds", the key is whether you are willing to change
Thoughts and thoughts are very important. They not only directly affect yourself, but also affect your children.
Lecture 2: Is your home happy?
The embodiment of positive and negative energy in the family
The state of positive energy: harmony, understanding, tolerance, open-mindedness, benevolence, mutual help, love, etc.
Negative energy state: denial, blame, quarrel, anxiety, suppression, etc.
The transmission of positive and negative energy in the family has the characteristics of unconditional, unconscious, periodic and hidden characteristics.
Build a family tradition and store positive energy in children’s bodies and minds
If a person wants to open up wisdom and grow, he must first know how to see the advantages of others.
Doing good deeds and accumulating virtue can change our destiny. All good deeds will change our hearts.
Lecture 3: Rewriteable family genes
How emotions run in families
The transmission of positive and negative energy in a family is similar to the principle of genetic inheritance.
①Each of us will be passed on by our parents’ thoughts, emotions, language expressions and behavioral patterns;
②All factors such as parents’ physical and mental state and emotional state, life mood and attitude, feelings and pattern of life, how to treat others, and mindset, etc., may be passed down to their children;
Human emotions have two sides, they are also manifestations of positive and negative energy and can be transformed into each other.
①Beauty is in the eye of the beholder: only seeing the good qualities of the other person;
②Hate arises out of love;
③ Negative emotions can be turned into positive emotions by changing thoughts;
④Sufferings and worries are all for the sake of salvation
Where did you go after your emotional outburst?
exist in our body
Exists in the deep subconscious (the brain is an organ that can forget)
Exist in other people's bodies and minds (children especially store the most)
Family Energy Subconscious Iceberg Chart
How the subconscious mind takes root
Lecture 4 "Bad Boys" and "Good Boys"
The strength and weakness of life status
What is a "bad boy"?
Especially children who don't like to read, are active, and disobedient are easily defined as "bad children"
"Bad children" become "problem children" in many cases unilaterally defined by our parents and teachers.
Parents who have not kept up with their growth and cannot understand their children's life status will easily define their children as "bad children"
Parents like obedient, well-behaved and sensible children because of the mentality that "good children are easy to discipline and raise"
The physical and mental state of parents and the relationship between parents determine the life state of a child
Lecture 5: The rupture of family ties
The consequences of parents not raising their children personally
Where are the children going?
Problems that children with broken family relationships are likely to have
Don't know how to be grateful
Easy to fall in love early
Not focused on studying
no sense of worth
It’s easy to deny yourself
Inferiority and indifference
don't care about others
Three statuses of left-behind children
prone to self-isolation
Emotions are easily out of control and impulsive
Cognitive bias, inner confusion
The best classic education is the love of parents for their children
Parental ignorance can easily lead to children’s problems
Lecture 6: There is a "father-in-law CEO" at home
Father suppresses blame for child's problems
No other big tree can grow under the big tree, only some grass can grow
Human arrogance is a kind of advanced ignorance
A father is powerful, and showing off in front of his children is a form of strong oppression.
The father puts too much pressure on the children, and the children have few opinions and are prone to problems with their self-confidence.
A child’s relationship with his father affects his career and wealth
If the father can encourage and praise the child, the child will bloom easily
Lecture 7: The Trap of a Loving Mother and the Tips of a Tiger Mother
Problems caused by mothers’ strong control over their children
The mother was too strong and three generations of the family suffered.
"Loving mothers often fail." Being too loving is a kind of control. In fact, it is a kind of overflow of love or the lack of love satisfaction during one's growth.
The consequences of a mother’s strong control over her son
Become a "mama's boy" (listen to your mother, act based on your mother's face, and your mother makes decisions for you)
procrastinate
Feminine personality appears
No opinion
Fear of wife after marriage
The consequences of a mother’s strong control over her daughter
Controlling the husband and forming "widowed parenting"
puppy love
A strong mother controls her children. If she cannot recognize and change, her children's marriage will also have many problems in the future.
Every life needs independent personality and growth space in order to grow healthily
Lecture 8: How children are destroyed step by step
Five Steps to Destroying a Baby
Five Steps to Destruction of Children with Strong Life Status
Five Steps to Destruction of a Weak Child’s Life Status
The generation gap is formed because parents do not understand the life characteristics of their children and do not know that children have emotions and personalities. Parents always make demands on their children based on their own growth experiences.
Lecture 9: Prenatal and postnatal care, don’t ignore the psychological aspect
The secret of giving birth to life
A loving relationship between husband and wife and a harmonious family atmosphere establish a child’s initial state of life.
autism research
Find the cause of autism first
What is the mechanism that triggers autism?
What is the root cause of a closed behavioral state?
Only by identifying the above reasons and implementing comprehensive treatment methods can the effect of "making a big difference" can be achieved.
Threatened abortion and the psychological analysis case of female men
Final Chapter: Let love go home, and everything will be happy with your family
Family and prosperity are what every one of us looks forward to
If the husband and wife are harmonious, the family will be harmonious. If the family is harmonious, everything will be prosperous. The first thing is that we, the husband and wife, must be "harmony".
Bloodline cannot be changed, but we can improve family relationships by changing our mindset
To build a good family tradition, we first need to change our thinking.
The most important thing to change the positive and negative energy in the family is to understand that "thoughts are a kind of energy"
Everything starts from the present, everything focuses on the present, everything must be changed from the present, this is called "reform"
We must learn to change ourselves, and at the same time learn to pass it on to the next generation.
Everyone can become the "humanistic ancestor" of his own family. Everything starts from me, from me, from determination, from our aspirations, from learning and change, to straighten out the positive and negative energy of our family. Then we will practice it, cultivate ourselves and our family, starting from each of us, so that our family can be happy, our family will be happy, and our society will be harmonious.
Lecture 18 The direction of the heart determines the power of love
Getting attention is a necessity of life
The family is the soil. Children need their father’s sunshine to shine and their mother’s rain and dew to nourish them. Children need these two kinds of love to grow.
The essence of attention is love
"Little Love"
create problems
My feeling is that you need it
I'm worried about you
I'm afraid of losing you. I care about you. In fact, I also hope you care about me. This is a deal.
It makes people feel controlled and hurts them in the name of love.
"Big Love"
resolve problems
I understand that you need it, I totally see and know that you need it
It’s not good for me to accept you
We have been together and have never been separated. I care about you and do not need you to repay me. I am devoting my love to others.
Make people feel "relaxed and at ease", I did it, I don't need you to repay me
What we really need to focus on in life is love, unconditional love
We love and care for others without asking for anything. This is a kind of selfless love.
The only way you want to get love is to keep giving your love to others
Lecture 17: Love for "disabled people"
How do single parents raise children?
First, you must change your mental state, systematically digest all kinds of pain caused by marriage, including divorce, as well as various conflicts and emotions formed during the relationship, and complete it layer by layer. cleanup
Second, let go of resentment toward your partner and stop passing this resentment on to your children.
Third, restore the facts and tell the children that their parents divorced not because they were not good enough.
The harm of divorce to children is obvious. Only by learning to change and transforming the pain of divorce into blessings and love can parents ensure their children's growth to the greatest extent.
Lecture 16: Parents are sick and children take medicine
Children who are sick are calling for their parents’ love
The root of disease is in the heart, which refers to the body and mind. It means emotions, psychology, mood, emotions, as well as the ability and function to deal with emotions, etc.
Possible sources of illness
emotional trauma
all kinds of pressure
All kinds of emotions
Three Steps to Reconciling with Your Children
restore the truth
Sincere apology and repentance
express gratitude and love
The real solution is for parents to take the initiative to change themselves after discovering the problem.
Lecture 15 Why do we “love and kill each other”
Husband and wife are harmonious and the family is harmonious
In a family, the relationship between husband and wife comes first
Whoever suffers will change, whoever is entangled will change
Let yourself go and achieve success for others
If there are many conflicts between husband and wife, the children will have bigger problems.
Love between husband and wife is the best family tradition. Husband and wife should be of one heart and one mind.
Parents must learn to reflect on their own problems from the perspective of their children
Children are our mirrors. The problems that children present (his love and marriage problems) can also reflect problems in our relationship as husband and wife.
Lecture 14 What’s wrong with girls nowadays?
Five principles for raising girls
First, gender is clear
Second, prevent sexual assault
Third, in terms of building female personality, mothers must learn to talk to their daughters and learn to have fun with them.
Fourth, cultivate girls’ abilities
Fifth, girls must learn to take responsibility
Causes of puppy love
First, the reason for the lack of fatherhood in family relationships
Not being a real father
long absence from home
Already divorced from mother
The mother is strong and the father has no status in the family
There is no love in the family, parents quarrel and fight
Lecture 13 What’s wrong with boys nowadays?
Five principles for raising boys
First, gender must be clear
Second, establish male personality
Third, protect the boy’s sexual energy
Fourth, cultivate boys’ abilities
Fifth, guide boys to learn to take responsibility
Violating the principles of raising boys will lead to serious problems such as distortion of the child's personality and feminization of the male personality.
Lecture 12 If you sow melons, you will get beans; if you sow beans, you will get melons.
Why do parents know but can’t do it? This is a high probability event
Human behavior is only a manifestation of consciousness. It is the subconscious mind that truly controls people's troubles and states.
Because the deep subconscious forms, influences, drives, and controls people
The brain knows that without seeing the subconscious mind, it cannot change it
Seeing how the subconscious is formed and knowing the "cause", you can resolve the "effect"
The subconscious is like a seed. It resonates when it is stimulated by certain emotions or even suggested, and then explodes.
Once bitten, twice shy
extremely suspicious
Transmission and replication of positive and negative energy in the family
What can last forever is not money, but spirit
True virtue is when you face the world and others with a public heart and a selfless heart.
Lecture 11: Not all things are necessarily bad, not just good reading
Understand the truth about children’s learning status
Three learning states
Academic type
Underachiever
Scientific type
Find the child's growth model, teach children in accordance with their aptitude, and follow the trend
Life is a long-distance race, you can start at any time and at any stage!
Poor learning status does not mean poor learning ability
No matter what state the child is in, the first thing to protect is the child's self-confidence. With self-confidence, there will be creativity and initiative.
How to protect your child’s self-confidence
Accurately analyze the child to understand the child's life status, learning status, and what are the things he is good at?
Exploit strengths and avoid weaknesses: Exploit his strengths and he will become more and more confident; expose his weaknesses and he will become more and more inferior.
Water the advantages, and the advantages will become more and more abundant
Parental love is an important source and guarantee of children’s self-confidence
Parents' continuous learning, growth, and synchronization of education and cognition are an important factor in creating a harmonious family. The more parents grow up and become less anxious, the more they can protect their children.
Lecture 10 Do you know your child?
Re-understand the truth about life’s character and habits
The formation of a child's personality and habits is first of all related to the parents' emotions and life status during the fetal period.
The "Book of Changes" analysis system divides human personality into ten types
1||| Big tree type: straight, cannot bend, high self-requirements, stubborn, easy to show off, quality as a pillar
2||| Flower type: easy-going, humble, resilient, taking advantage of the situation to grow, able to bend and stretch, auxiliary quality
3||| Sun Type: Warm, enthusiastic, cheerful, talkative, sunny quality
4||| Candle type: Careful, caring, caring about sexual quality
5||| Earth type: thick, solid, strong pressure-bearing capacity, load-bearing quality
6||| Chocolate type, fusion, considerate, heart-warming, warm quality
7||| Large sword type, with awe-inspiring righteousness, decisive killing, no emotion, great emotional quality
8||| Small knife shape, winding and bending, emotional appeal, strong logical sorting power, artistic quality
9||| Ocean type, strong insight, lively thinking, intangible and intangible, things are scattered around, intangible and intangible quality
10||| Pond type, strong sense of boundaries, high environmental requirements, neatness, careful attention to problems, angular quality
Counseling Law: Whenever a child in the family has a problem, the first person to recover is the parent, not the child. If the parent does not recover and change, changing the child will have little effect and meaning.