MindMap Gallery 36-Intimate Relationship
This is a mind map about 36-"Intimate Relationship", the main contents include: 7. Encountering light and sharing, 6. Disputes and extension, 5. Relationship and extension, 4. Refining golden sentences, 3. Methodology and tools, 2. Content framework and core theory, 1. Basic information.
Edited at 2025-03-04 19:14:27Rumi: 10 dimensions of spiritual awakening. When you stop looking for yourself, you will find the entire universe because what you are looking for is also looking for you. Anything you do persevere every day can open a door to the depths of your spirit. In silence, I slipped into the secret realm, and I enjoyed everything to observe the magic around me, and didn't make any noise. Why do you like to crawl when you are born with wings? The soul has its own ears and can hear things that the mind cannot understand. Seek inward for the answer to everything, everything in the universe is in you. Lovers do not end up meeting somewhere, and there is no parting in this world. A wound is where light enters your heart.
Chronic heart failure is not just a problem of the speed of heart rate! It is caused by the decrease in myocardial contraction and diastolic function, which leads to insufficient cardiac output, which in turn causes congestion in the pulmonary circulation and congestion in the systemic circulation. From causes, inducement to compensation mechanisms, the pathophysiological processes of heart failure are complex and diverse. By controlling edema, reducing the heart's front and afterload, improving cardiac comfort function, and preventing and treating basic causes, we can effectively respond to this challenge. Only by understanding the mechanisms and clinical manifestations of heart failure and mastering prevention and treatment strategies can we better protect heart health.
Ischemia-reperfusion injury is a phenomenon that cellular function and metabolic disorders and structural damage will worsen after organs or tissues restore blood supply. Its main mechanisms include increased free radical generation, calcium overload, and the role of microvascular and leukocytes. The heart and brain are common damaged organs, manifested as changes in myocardial metabolism and ultrastructural changes, decreased cardiac function, etc. Prevention and control measures include removing free radicals, reducing calcium overload, improving metabolism and controlling reperfusion conditions, such as low sodium, low temperature, low pressure, etc. Understanding these mechanisms can help develop effective treatment options and alleviate ischemic injury.
Rumi: 10 dimensions of spiritual awakening. When you stop looking for yourself, you will find the entire universe because what you are looking for is also looking for you. Anything you do persevere every day can open a door to the depths of your spirit. In silence, I slipped into the secret realm, and I enjoyed everything to observe the magic around me, and didn't make any noise. Why do you like to crawl when you are born with wings? The soul has its own ears and can hear things that the mind cannot understand. Seek inward for the answer to everything, everything in the universe is in you. Lovers do not end up meeting somewhere, and there is no parting in this world. A wound is where light enters your heart.
Chronic heart failure is not just a problem of the speed of heart rate! It is caused by the decrease in myocardial contraction and diastolic function, which leads to insufficient cardiac output, which in turn causes congestion in the pulmonary circulation and congestion in the systemic circulation. From causes, inducement to compensation mechanisms, the pathophysiological processes of heart failure are complex and diverse. By controlling edema, reducing the heart's front and afterload, improving cardiac comfort function, and preventing and treating basic causes, we can effectively respond to this challenge. Only by understanding the mechanisms and clinical manifestations of heart failure and mastering prevention and treatment strategies can we better protect heart health.
Ischemia-reperfusion injury is a phenomenon that cellular function and metabolic disorders and structural damage will worsen after organs or tissues restore blood supply. Its main mechanisms include increased free radical generation, calcium overload, and the role of microvascular and leukocytes. The heart and brain are common damaged organs, manifested as changes in myocardial metabolism and ultrastructural changes, decreased cardiac function, etc. Prevention and control measures include removing free radicals, reducing calcium overload, improving metabolism and controlling reperfusion conditions, such as low sodium, low temperature, low pressure, etc. Understanding these mechanisms can help develop effective treatment options and alleviate ischemic injury.
36-"Intimate Relationship"
1. Basic information
Title: Intimacy
Author: Christopher Meng (Canadian psychologist)
Translator: Zhang Defen (famous psychology translator)
Publisher: Hunan Literature and Art Publishing House
Reasons for recommendation:
Reveal the nature of intimate relationships and break the traditional misunderstanding of marriage.
Combining psychology and philosophy, it provides practical methods for resolving conflicts.
Zhang Defen recommended the preface, emphasizing the core idea of "it is inherently complete".
2. Content framework and core theory
1. Four stages of intimacy
① Moon halo stage (romantic period)
Characteristics: Idealized partner, projecting unmet childhood needs (sense of belonging, importance).
Core logic:
Attract your partner through "disguised traits" and make up for your own lack.
Expectations are the "road to hell" and conflicts arise because demand is not met.
Deviant behavior: excessive flattery and hide the true self.
② Disillusionment stage (conflict period)
Characteristics: Ideals are broken, power struggles and biased behaviors emerge.
Four major deviation behaviors:
Attract attention (such as quarrels, emotionality).
Power struggle (such as control, Cold War).
Revenge mentality (such as intentional injury to the other party).
Self-exile (such as giving up communication).
Solve the key points:
Face the pain of childhood and avoid covering up heartbreak with anger (such as the case: John and Mary’s electric bill quarrel).
③ Introspection stage (reflection period)
Features: Deeply reflect on the relationship model and face the "victim cage".
Three major role loops:
Victims (blaming others), persecutors (venting anger), saviors (superficially solving problems).
Breakthrough method:
Follow the truth: Listen to the true inner needs (such as the divorce case of "Beijing Meets Seattle".).
Get rid of family loyalty: Avoid repetition of original family behavior patterns.
④ Revelation phase (awakening phase)
Features: The flow of love is realized through the "quantum tunnel".
Core practice:
Unconditional love: Let go of control and expectations, and accept the relationship with "permit" (such as case: the author and his wife resolve the quarrel).
Love is a verb: Action precedes feelings, and actively creates intimacy.
2. Core theoretical model
Childhood needs theory: Intimacy is the compensation for childhood lack (sense of belonging, importance).
Deviation behavior model: Four major behaviors originate from unhealed subconscious pain.
This is a theory that love does not require external seeking, and inner perfection is the basis of harmony in relationships (integrating Buddhism and psychology).
3. Methodology and tools
1. Conflict resolution tool
Effective communication: Use "my sentences" to express feelings (such as "I feel ignored because I was not listened to in childhood").
Self-awareness: Identify the childhood trauma behind emotions (such as case: Mary triggers the shadow of her father due to neat problems).
The law of allowance: accept impermanence and reduce anxiety about the outcome (such as "Go with him" in "Sequences of Flowers").
2. Relationship repair practice
Daily reflection: Observe the "flow of love" and reduce the impulse to transform the other person.
Quantum tunneling method: Assume that "this moment is love", break the deadlock with actions (such as cooking, hugging).
4. Refining golden sentences
“Expectation is the road to hell.”
"Marriage life is a matter for one person, and the root cause of the solution lies in one's own heart."
“Love is a verb, and action comes before feeling.”
"Allowing is the key to the soul relationship."
5. Relationship and Extension
Works by the same author:
"The Gift of Retrieving Life": Deepen inner healing and self-acceptance.
"Intimacy: The Bridge to the Soul": The sequel explores spiritual growth.
Relevance theory:
Adler’s Psychology: The Effects of Childhood Experience on Adult Behavior (see “Inferiority and Transcendence”).
Helinger Family System Arrangement: Generational Transmission of Original Family Trauma (See "Who is in My Home").
6. Disputes and extensions
Controversy point:
Does “marriage is a matter of one person” ignore partner responsibilities?
Does overemphasizing "childhood determinism" weaken subjective initiative?
Extended reading:
"Non-violent Communication": Supplement specific communication skills.
"The Courage of Being Hate": Comparing Adler's theory of "separation of topics".
7. Compilation and sharing of Hidden Light