MindMap Gallery Communication Improvement Guide
Based on the communication characteristics of four animal models, we will explain the improvement of communication skills. There are many practical cases in the whole article, and it is recommended to read them in combination with mind maps. All interactions will follow a set of interpersonal "rules", with vertical "axis of power" and horizontal "axis of intimacy" as Base.
Edited at 2025-03-09 12:51:38Rumi: 10 dimensions of spiritual awakening. When you stop looking for yourself, you will find the entire universe because what you are looking for is also looking for you. Anything you do persevere every day can open a door to the depths of your spirit. In silence, I slipped into the secret realm, and I enjoyed everything to observe the magic around me, and didn't make any noise. Why do you like to crawl when you are born with wings? The soul has its own ears and can hear things that the mind cannot understand. Seek inward for the answer to everything, everything in the universe is in you. Lovers do not end up meeting somewhere, and there is no parting in this world. A wound is where light enters your heart.
Chronic heart failure is not just a problem of the speed of heart rate! It is caused by the decrease in myocardial contraction and diastolic function, which leads to insufficient cardiac output, which in turn causes congestion in the pulmonary circulation and congestion in the systemic circulation. From causes, inducement to compensation mechanisms, the pathophysiological processes of heart failure are complex and diverse. By controlling edema, reducing the heart's front and afterload, improving cardiac comfort function, and preventing and treating basic causes, we can effectively respond to this challenge. Only by understanding the mechanisms and clinical manifestations of heart failure and mastering prevention and treatment strategies can we better protect heart health.
Ischemia-reperfusion injury is a phenomenon that cellular function and metabolic disorders and structural damage will worsen after organs or tissues restore blood supply. Its main mechanisms include increased free radical generation, calcium overload, and the role of microvascular and leukocytes. The heart and brain are common damaged organs, manifested as changes in myocardial metabolism and ultrastructural changes, decreased cardiac function, etc. Prevention and control measures include removing free radicals, reducing calcium overload, improving metabolism and controlling reperfusion conditions, such as low sodium, low temperature, low pressure, etc. Understanding these mechanisms can help develop effective treatment options and alleviate ischemic injury.
Rumi: 10 dimensions of spiritual awakening. When you stop looking for yourself, you will find the entire universe because what you are looking for is also looking for you. Anything you do persevere every day can open a door to the depths of your spirit. In silence, I slipped into the secret realm, and I enjoyed everything to observe the magic around me, and didn't make any noise. Why do you like to crawl when you are born with wings? The soul has its own ears and can hear things that the mind cannot understand. Seek inward for the answer to everything, everything in the universe is in you. Lovers do not end up meeting somewhere, and there is no parting in this world. A wound is where light enters your heart.
Chronic heart failure is not just a problem of the speed of heart rate! It is caused by the decrease in myocardial contraction and diastolic function, which leads to insufficient cardiac output, which in turn causes congestion in the pulmonary circulation and congestion in the systemic circulation. From causes, inducement to compensation mechanisms, the pathophysiological processes of heart failure are complex and diverse. By controlling edema, reducing the heart's front and afterload, improving cardiac comfort function, and preventing and treating basic causes, we can effectively respond to this challenge. Only by understanding the mechanisms and clinical manifestations of heart failure and mastering prevention and treatment strategies can we better protect heart health.
Ischemia-reperfusion injury is a phenomenon that cellular function and metabolic disorders and structural damage will worsen after organs or tissues restore blood supply. Its main mechanisms include increased free radical generation, calcium overload, and the role of microvascular and leukocytes. The heart and brain are common damaged organs, manifested as changes in myocardial metabolism and ultrastructural changes, decreased cardiac function, etc. Prevention and control measures include removing free radicals, reducing calcium overload, improving metabolism and controlling reperfusion conditions, such as low sodium, low temperature, low pressure, etc. Understanding these mechanisms can help develop effective treatment options and alleviate ischemic injury.
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Living freely in relationships
"Being alone" is a great place to travel, but it is not suitable for settlement.
Those who live in isolation are either gods or beasts
Social skills are an indispensable survival skill for everyone, no one is an island
When we lose contact with others for internal or external reasons, loneliness and depression can penetrate into our bodies and occupy it. Once this happens, it will become more difficult to re-establish a coalition with others.
We need to invest time and energy to understand others and cultivate intimacy
Whether we are loved/cherished/in close relationships is an important factor in determining our psychological and physical health
Managing interpersonal relationships is an important task in life
People’s health, happiness and sense of accomplishment stem from interactions with others
Interpersonal communication skills can be learned. The purpose of communication is to deepen interpersonal relationships, not just to broaden interpersonal relationships.
Communication skills are like human muscles, please exercise it regularly
We belong to the same world and a tribe. Please respect others. Insulting others will not make your image taller
Unite and care for others
Build intimacy with the people closest to you and take the time to listen to them, not just verbal care
Make your words worthwhile
When you establish an affinity relationship with others, please do not use tricks. Note that affinity relationship is not an intimate relationship. Affinity relationship refers to a good link with others.
Kindness is the common language in the world
To establish a friendly relationship with others, you need to be truly interested in the other person and understand the other person’s thoughts, feelings and core values.
Language is a double-edged sword that can both anger others and calm others
Interpersonal communication requires you to overcome your instincts and actively cultivate them.
A healthy relationship cannot be built on fear
If you want to manipulate someone, you will eventually focus on finding a way to deal with you, rather than working with you
If you want anything, speak up and speak politely, respectfully and patiently about your needs
Beware of Showa deception
Never bully others
What you do before you speak is the key to communication
What you do before you speak is the key to communication
Four cornerstones of affinity
honest
Don't use tricks, don't deceive the other party
Try to be clear, objective and direct in speaking
Stay calm and control your emotions
Don't tell negative facts in such a way that is free, especially to the person you love
Empathy
First, you need to understand yourself
Need to think from the perspective of others
Imitate
Grasp the position of others
Understand others' beliefs and values
Don't take preconceived ideas during the conversation
Understand what the other person needs and cares about
Autonomous
Everyone wants to control their own destiny
Everyone needs independence and choice
Try to provide options for the other party
feedback
The key is to listen and then repeat or relay other people's words, which is psychologically called "content response"
S (Simple Reflection): Recap
O(On the one hand reflections): point out contradictions
N (No Arguing): Don't argue
A (Affirmations): Strengthen positive information
R (Reframing): Interpretation summary
SONAR rules
Restrain the impulse to "correct the other person" in your heart
Appropriate feedback can provide motivation for communication and promote communication
HEAR Principle
Animal models in interpersonal communication
Types of animal models
Tyrannosaurus Rex: Respond to conflicts, challenge others, attack others
front
frank
direct
Ciali
Whatever you say, the most important thing is the truth, without any concealment
Must explain your bottom line
Manage your emotions Directly quote evidence Point out the contradictions Make suggestions on solutions
Negative
Strong offensive
Intimidation, threats, violence
Verbally insult and satirize others
"Do what I said, otherwise you will feel better."
The first rule of affinity is to avoid intense conflicts as much as possible
Monkey: Cooperate, cooperate with others, unite others
front
Encourage each other
Mutual support
Be kind to others
Teamwork
Listen Share Guide = Happy chat basics
Negative
Blur the boundaries of human beings
Too close, uncomfortable
Like to please others and make others like themselves at all costs
Horizontal "Intimacy"
Rat: make concessions, obey others, surrender to others
front
humble
patience
Good at thinking and listening
Taking retreat as advance and handing over control to others is the most important way of communication in establishing affinity relationships
Negative
Like to escape
Weak personality
Indecisive
Lion: Leading others, controlling others
front
Good at leadership and control
Obedience must come from the heart, not from fear
Negative
Stubborn
domineering
overbearing
The upper and lower "power axis"
The operating mechanism of animal models
All interactions will follow a set of interpersonal "rules" based on vertical "axis of power" and horizontal "axis of intimacy"
The lion and the mouse are located opposite positions, attracting each other
Tyrannosaurus rex and monkey are located opposite to each other, repelling each other
Mutually exclusive types lead to the other party to respond the same way
The types of mutual attraction will lead the other party to respond in opposite ways
Promote interpersonal interaction with animal models
Diagnose your own animal properties
Self-evaluation form, please refer to the original book for details
Quickly judge the interaction mode in front of you
Does the other party want you to be at a psychological high (leo) or a psychological low (rat)?
Does this person want to quarrel (Tyrannosaurus Rex) or show kindness (monkey)?
Is it the positive or negative of the above animal models?
Identify your risk areas and don't be guided into it
On the premise of mutual attraction, your risk area is the opposite animal of the other party, such as the negative of the lion → the negative of the mouse
Under the premise of mutual exclusion, your risk area is the same animal on the other side, such as the negative of Tyrannosaurus Rex → the negative of Tyrannosaurus Rex
Present positive
On the premise of mutual attraction, your ideal way of communication is the opposite animal of the other party, such as the negative of the lion → the positive of the mouse
Under the premise of mutual exclusion, your ideal way of communication is the same animal on the other side, such as the negative side of the Tyrannosaurus Rex → the positive side of the Tyrannosaurus Rex
Get out of your comfort zone and maximize interpersonal interests
Work hard to improve your flexibility and master all communication methods, especially the one you find the most difficult to control
Self-control
Avoid any negatives in animal models
Interpersonal sensitivity
Quickly determine the other party's communication pattern and what kind of animal it is
flexible
According to actual conditions, flexibly select communication mode
Communication requires deliberate practice