individual psychology and holism

The ultimate goal of interpersonal relationships - a sense of community

“Desperately seeking approval” is self-centered

I am the protagonist of my own life, but I am also a member of the community, part of the whole

Find your place in a broader world (there are many communities)

Criticism is not good, but neither is praise (praise shows that the other person is not as strong as you)

Only with encouragement can you have courage

Only when you think you are valuable can you develop courage

There is value in existing. Use the standard of existence instead of the standard of action

Establish horizontal relationships (truly equal relationships) and abandon traditional vertical relationships

Too much self-awareness will constrain oneself

It’s not about affirming oneself or denying oneself, it’s about accepting oneself

Credit and trust require trust from others, regardless of rewards or conditions.

The essence of work is contribution to others (gaining a sense of community through work, that is, I am useful to others, thereby gaining my own value)

Self-acceptance, trust in others, contributions from others, and then more self-acceptance, a virtuous cycle that continues to strengthen

"Workaholic" is a lie in life and a lifestyle that lacks harmony in life.

From this moment on, you can become happy (happiness is the sense of contribution, that is, the feeling that my freely chosen life is useful to others)

The courage to be willing to be ordinary (life is either success or failure)

Life is a series of moments (life is a continuous point, there is no need for a planned life, it is enough to do the present moment)

The most important thing is "at this moment", the realistic movement is completed now when it is done. Focus on the "here and now" and do what you can do now carefully and carefully - don't be disturbed by the vague future

Confrontation with "The Biggest Lie in Life"---The meaning of life is very simple, that is, living every moment seriously. Life is in a state of completion at any time. (The past and future do not exist at all, it is only meaningful to talk about the present. What matters is neither yesterday nor tomorrow, but "this moment")

The meaning of life is determined by yourself (there is no universal meaning) the contribution of others is the guiding star

Freedom is no longer seeking approval

Do you want to live in the expectations of others?

Separate your own “life issues” from those of others

Even parents have to put aside their children's issues

Let go of other people’s issues and your worries will fly away gently

Cut off the "Gerdios Knot"

The pursuit of recognition kills freedom

Freedom is being hated by others

The "trump card" of interpersonal relationships is in your own hands

All worries are worries about interpersonal relationships

The feeling of inferiority comes from subjective fabrication

Inferiority is just an excuse

The more conceited a person is, the inferior he or she is

Life is not a competition with others

The only one who cares about your appearance is you yourself

"Power Struggle" and Revenge in Relationships

Admitting your mistakes does not mean you have failed

Three issues in life: making friends, work, and love

Romantic red thread and strong chain

"The lie of life" teaches us how to escape

Adlerian Psychology is the "Psychology of Courage"

The theory of causes does not exist, the theory of teleology does

Psychological trauma does not exist

Anger is fabricated and intentional

Your misfortunes are all “chosen” by yourself

Everyone often decides not to change

Your life depends on "now"